Behaviour

[Yanti]

Hi, I am having some issues with my 7 year old son.


Eg:

He did not want to speak up for himself. Each time he made a mistake, it seems soooo hard for him to apologize or explain to us what happened and he will just give us a blank face.

We are extremely worried. We tried to talk to him but still the same. Anyone has a similar issues. Really need advice.

Thanks

[cherrygal]

I think it's a phase. My son does that too - give blank face etc. Think they still can't react fast enuff at this age when confronted. He can bargain and argue when he hasn't done anything wrong so I guess it's the direct confrontation that caused the clam up. It could be the kid's defence mechanism (like men... :evil: )


So when he does something wrong, I have to tell him to apologise and assure him that that's all we want (eg. you say \"apologise now and you can go back to what you were doing\"). He complies if he's thinking straight. hahaha

Then you can ask him to explain himself when he's in a calmer mood. Easier this way.

[Yanti]

@ Cherrygal…well I guess you are right… am glad its nothing serious…will try a different approach next time… thanks

[pair]

Try to get more familiar with your son so that he can interact with you properly and can share his problems with you.

[Bunbun]

My girl was like that from k2 to p2. She couldn’t bring herself to apologise.

She’s in p3 now. Gotten over the phase already. Even readily says sorry when she accidentally brushes against someone.

[heyhoe]

Mine in P4, still hasn’t. Everytime, I’ve to teach him to apologise.


Just this morning,…
Ds2: Mommy, Ds1 hide my fresh milk behind the milk powder can.
Ds1: No, I didn’t!
Ds2: Yes, he did!
Me: Seething. So, who’s lying? (*Thinking mode)
Ds1 & Ds2: Not me…it’s him!
Me: Ds1, did you put the milk can in front of the fresh milk?
Ds1: Smirking, … yes, I place the milk can infront of the fresh milk and not the other way around.
Me: (Seething inside) Don’t try to be a smart aleck! Now, go and apologise to your brother!
Ds1: Saying "sorry" but with no sincerity.

How to get him to understand what he did is wrong and apologise sincerely?

[chenwj]

My boy used to be like that as well. You just have to explain to him patiently what he did is wrong. At that age (5-6 years old), I think they are still clueless. I tried to talk to him nicely \"Hey, that's not the right way! blah blah\".


I believe you did not give him a very fierce tone or a fierce look when you questioned him. Children only react when they sensed their parents are angry, hence we think it's normal when he react when are raise our temper. :skeptical:

[johnmansfield]

hi.you try to more familiar with you child.Ask and share all the feelings about your child and behave like friends with child. That makes his mind cool.

[Happy1314]

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