Pei Hwa Presbyterian Primary

[iRabbit]

janet_lee88:

FQW,
We are not laying the red carpet for the Pei Hwa 'Parent-Torture-Club' but giving you advance notice what to expect. Reality is such that this school loves to set tough papers to give kids a rude awakening. Honestly, it's very demoralizing when they have put in so much effort.
I was feeling so down this morn. Although I kept telling myself this SA1 is not THE big picture, somehow much time and effort were put in.

The good thing about the seniors - in terms of children's academic level only, not age (compare age nobody can fight with php ) sharing their experience in this PH well-trodden path is that by the time my turn comes, I would inevitably say, 'yup 3/4 failed SA1, so what? I expected that. It doesn't shock me at all. Failing is normal. I refuse to be bound by guilt (of not preparing my son well enough).\"

Yes big picture. You know what I think about the big picture? It is this. PSLE doesn't even matter at all in the long run. I went for my fair share of job interviews; and nobody ever asks me what was my T-score. Muahaha.

So why am I studying with my son? Cos it just seems to be the right thing to do. Is it gonna matter in the long run? This, I'm not entirely convinced.

[dyh]

FQW:

janet_lee88:

FQW,
We are not laying the red carpet for the Pei Hwa 'Parent-Torture-Club' but giving you advance notice what to expect. Reality is such that this school loves to set tough papers to give kids a rude awakening. Honestly, it's very demoralizing when they have put in so much effort.
I was feeling so down this morn. Although I kept telling myself this SA1 is not THE big picture, somehow much time and effort were put in.

The good thing about the seniors - in terms of children's academic level only, not age (compare age nobody can fight with php ) sharing their experience in this PH well-trodden path is that by the time my turn comes, I would inevitably say, 'yup 3/4 failed SA1, so what? I expected that. It doesn't shock me at all. Failing is normal. I refuse to be bound by guilt (of not preparing my son well enough).\"

Yes big picture. You know what I think about the big picture? It is this. PSLE doesn't even matter at all in the long run. I went for my fair share of job interviews; and nobody ever asks me what was my T-score. Muahaha.

So why am I studying with my son? Cos it just seems to be the right thing to do. Is it gonna matter in the long run? This, I'm not entirely convinced.

It's true that nobody cares about T score in the long run. I think we are doing all these so that our kids can get the best school, best teachers, best opportunities (eg get selected for TTLT, competitions etc). Doing well also means getting a good foundation, which should make their path easier in sec school and beyond...eventually the goal is for them to get a decent job in this competitive world.

[janet88]

Our parents did not study together with us when we were in school…then again, most were not that educated and didn’t see the need to.

We as parents see the urgent need to do so in view of the high standards now…the standard has become so high that if I were to sit for PSLE again, I will fail.

The BIG picture is getting a good job in this crazy world…before our kids reach that level, there is PSLE to face first. Studying together with our kids is 1) making sure he/she understands subjects 2) knowing their strengths & weaknesses 3) building bond.

[drickymummy]

FQW:

Talking about difficult papers, today my son's student care gave him PH's P2 2011 CL SA1 to do and he came back with very low 80s. :yikes:


I checked the paper and he made minimal careless mistakes. Those questions were really tough, specially the OE compre section whereby they expect P2 kids to be able to paraphrase the passage in Chinese. :faint:

And I thought that my son is quite good in Chinese ..... but he couldn't grasp what the questions were asking so he tikam tikam and got zero for many questions. So tough.

Glad there's no SA1 for P2 otherwise I'll faint. Is PH standard really so high or not?

For so reason, PH CL is extremely tough ...just get the sane comments fr chinese tutors too... now my boy kinda enjoy CL more since the standard is not so pressurizing for him now ...... :xedfingers:

[Jennifer]

dyh:

FQW:

So why am I studying with my son? Cos it just seems to be the right thing to do. Is it gonna matter in the long run? This, I'm not entirely convinced.

It's true that nobody cares about T score in the long run. I think we are doing all these so that our kids can get the best school, best teachers, best opportunities (eg get selected for TTLT, competitions etc). Doing well also means getting a good foundation, which should make their path easier in sec school and beyond...eventually the goal is for them to get a decent job in this competitive world.

First, a strong foundation & the right attitude towards learning means lesser reliance on tuition -> can save a lot of money and time.

More opportunites in sec sch lead to higher profiling that can reinforce internal motivation to again push oneself towards greater heights.

All in all, less stressful relationship between parents and child.

先苦后甜

[iRabbit]

janet_lee88:

My son flunked Chinese paper 2...managed to pass Math. Now waiting for results of science as well as CL & Eng compo and oral, whether these can pull up the overall grade. I am totally demoralized :gloomy:

Janet, why your son didn't do well you get demoralised? Machiam you're the one taking SA1 liddat. If my son doesn't do well, I'll make sure he gets demoralised ..... like slash his daily computer gaming time. :evil:

drickymummy:

For so reason, PH CL is extremely tough ...just get the sane comments fr chinese tutors too... now my boy kinda enjoy CL more since the standard is not so pressurizing for him now ...... :xedfingers:

To be fair, ds just got back his CL term test marks and he did alright. This compared to his low score when he tried out PH SA1 (2011) tells me that the sch is being meriful to the P2s this year.

[iRabbit]

dyh:

It's true that nobody cares about T score in the long run. I think we are doing all these so that our kids can get the best school, best teachers, best opportunities (eg get selected for TTLT, competitions etc). Doing well also means getting a good foundation, which should make their path easier in sec school and beyond...eventually the goal is for them to get a decent job in this competitive world.

That makes sense. You should join us for the next BBQ - confirm there'll be one at the end of the year for GEP farewell - so that I can put a face to the post. :evil:

Jennifer:

First, a strong foundation & the right attitude towards learning means lesser reliance on tuition -> can save a lot of money and time.

Talking about tuition, just now at Berries I witness a PRC parent registering his child. Then I scratch my head. :scratchhead:

Later I analysed that there is no need to feel strange about this bcos some parents maybe very good in certain subjects but they may not be inclined to teach. Did I share that last year I taught ds many wrong things ...... he told me. :oops:

[janet88]

Hi FQW,

Mothers and fathers are wired differently...that's how I feel.
We had a good time in town today... :imcool: it's time to move on, find out what went wrong and get him to work on it. That means he has no time for anymore entertainment devices from now :evil:
Time management is crucial.

[Joyfulhands]

Scary:

My boy doesn't even attempt. He missed a few questions here and there. Suspect his eyes transformed to top and bottom in class, wide apart. Can do qn 1 and next sec, jump to qn 3. Not once, but a few times across all subjects! :slapshead:

Scary,
You're referring to the T2 mini tests that he missed some qns?

[Joyfulhands]

Ideally, building a strong foundation (esp in lower pri) + instilling independent learning leads to lesser coaching by parents (ie less stressful), right?

Question is, how to do that?