Teacher use Hurtful words on Student; Father call police

[Pris.011283tang]

hquek:

pinky:

so now the child can tell the teacher off: watch your words, otherwise....

:yikes: :slapshead:

if my kids dare say this to the teacher, it'll be an invitation to meet with Mr Cane back at home.

Not all parents are this strict 5yrs ago i was still a preschool teacher with a renowned cc which shall not be name.

I had a student by the name of J he was only 3 very michevious both his parents are lawyer got once i told him nicely to stop behaving like what hes doing being nice to people then people will also treat u nice right his reply stun me even the principal when i told her he said u scold me i will some-more i will pinch myself till i am blue black all over then i will tell mummy n daddy u did it to me and then i will ask them to sue in court.

We told his parents they said is okay one hes just learning to stand up for himself.
:slapshead: :slapshead: :slapshead:

[hquek]

Pris.tang:

Not all parents are this strict 5yrs ago i was still a preschool teacher with a renowned cc which shall not be name.

I had a student by the name of J he was only 3 very michevious both his parents are lawyer got once i told him nicely to stop behaving like what hes doing being nice to people then people will also treat u nice right his reply stun me even the principal when i told her he said u scold me i will some-more i will pinch myself till i am blue black all over then i will tell mummy n daddy u did it to me and then i will ask them to sue in court.

We told his parents they said is okay one hes just learning to stand up for himself.
:slapshead: :slapshead: :slapshead:

I can only say this is personal choice. if they want an ill bred kid and adult, their choice.

[pinky]

hquek:

pinky:

so now the child can tell the teacher off: watch your words, otherwise....

:yikes: :slapshead:

if my kids dare say this to the teacher, it'll be an invitation to meet with Mr Cane back at home.

i will do the same too, otherwise the kid will end up like what Pris.tang described.

[jtoh]

Pris.tang:

hquek:

[quote=\"pinky\"]so now the child can tell the teacher off: watch your words, otherwise....

:yikes: :slapshead:

if my kids dare say this to the teacher, it'll be an invitation to meet with Mr Cane back at home.

Not all parents are this strict 5yrs ago i was still a preschool teacher with a renowned cc which shall not be name.

I had a student by the name of J he was only 3 very michevious both his parents are lawyer got once i told him nicely to stop behaving like what hes doing being nice to people then people will also treat u nice right his reply stun me even the principal when i told her he said u scold me i will some-more i will pinch myself till i am blue black all over then i will tell mummy n daddy u did it to me and then i will ask them to sue in court.

We told his parents they said is okay one hes just learning to stand up for himself.
:slapshead: :slapshead: :slapshead:[/quote]Sounds like an adult taught him to behave that way. Possibly his parents? I can't imagine that a 3 year old can be that scheming that he would think to inflict bruises on himself so as to frame someone for the 'crime'.

[Pris.011283tang]

jtoh:

Sounds like an adult taught him to behave that way. Possibly his parents? I can't imagine that a 3 year old can be that scheming that he would think to inflict bruises on himself so as to frame someone for the 'crime'.

Most of the teachers and me came to the same conclusion that time must be his PARENTS since they are both lawyers.

thats why i still believe in the saying spare the rod and spoil the child. My children knows better i do not condone them being rude to the teachers if they comes back telling me teacher say this and that to them i will sit down with them to find out the truth.

Theres no sparks without the fire.

[janet88]

I remind my kids to respect authority.

If teachers call me about their bad behavior, they are going to face the cane.
If kids do not respect authority and face punishment, what will become of them when they grow up ? Vandalize, rob, steal etc. It will be too late if the govt has to punish them.

[pinball]

janet_lee88:

I remind my kids to respect authority.

If teachers call me about their bad behavior, they are going to face the cane.
If kids do not respect authority and face punishment, what will become of them when they grow up ? Vandalize, rob, steal etc. It will be too late if the govt has to punish them.

We teach our kids to respect authority but sometimes the behavior of some teachers really made it hard for kids to do so. My DD's teacher will tell the children to hit back at the kid (obviously a child with some disability) who hit them. We tried so hard to teacher our kids violence does not solve problem here you have a teacher who repeatedly tell the children to do so (this is despite bringing the issue to school and HOD)

I do agree some kids are just spoilt and rude so there are always all kind of teachers and kids.

[HAPPYH]

Daddy

The other day I also threw dd's exercise book on the floor... :razz:

Teach 1 child also vomit blood liao... Cannot imagine 1 class of 40 :faint:
We need to manage our expectations...

I totally agree. We lose our temper with one or two children itself.

We must understand that it is really tough for the teacher to handle the class of 40. Out of anger or frustation, she/he may say some words which might hurt our children.

But as a parent, we must monitor whether this \"verbal abuse(?)\" continues every now and then or just that one incident. If it is happening constantly, then we can talk to the school first or even to the same teacher.

Nowadays parents are too protective and super concerned with small issues as well.

One might ask me that what i will do in such a situation. I will definitely talk to the teacher first to solve the problem if there is any.

[fightingmom]

Some kids can't articulate properly what really happened so it is best to sit down and find out more rather than jump into conclusion. Call up the school and talk to the teacher first. Find out both side of the story.


If the child is at fault (for being disruptive, misbehaved) that caused the outburst of the teacher, then the child should be reprimanded for his bad behaviour. At a young age, the child will not know what is right or wrong, whether certain behaviour is considered good or bad - so it is up to us to guide them.

However, if the teacher is at fault, then he/she should at least apologise and we move on from there. Should the same thing happens again, then we bring it up to the school principal.

How we behave, our kids are watching and could be mirroring us in future. If everything also call police, what are we teaching them ? Whether right or wrong, we just get higher authority to suppress the other party and win the argument ? By over protecting them now might not prepare them for the challenges that they will face in future when they step into the working world.

Just my 2 cents.

[bebebub]

kiddo:

Teachers' job -normal pay = 40 kids in a class + 40 very concern parents.=Tough job :gloomy:

a little scolding at kids will make them very resilient, we should
not jump on every wimp of our child
No wonder we drive teachers and now principal away?! :evil:

Indeed! 40 kids = 40 sets of parents.
A relative of mine, who is a teacher, commented that at times, its easier to manage the kids than managing the parents