Teacher use Hurtful words on Student; Father call police

[janet88]

I remind my kids to respect authority.

If teachers call me about their bad behavior, they are going to face the cane.
If kids do not respect authority and face punishment, what will become of them when they grow up ? Vandalize, rob, steal etc. It will be too late if the govt has to punish them.

[pinball]

janet_lee88:

I remind my kids to respect authority.

If teachers call me about their bad behavior, they are going to face the cane.
If kids do not respect authority and face punishment, what will become of them when they grow up ? Vandalize, rob, steal etc. It will be too late if the govt has to punish them.

We teach our kids to respect authority but sometimes the behavior of some teachers really made it hard for kids to do so. My DD's teacher will tell the children to hit back at the kid (obviously a child with some disability) who hit them. We tried so hard to teacher our kids violence does not solve problem here you have a teacher who repeatedly tell the children to do so (this is despite bringing the issue to school and HOD)

I do agree some kids are just spoilt and rude so there are always all kind of teachers and kids.

[HAPPYH]

Daddy

The other day I also threw dd's exercise book on the floor... :razz:

Teach 1 child also vomit blood liao... Cannot imagine 1 class of 40 :faint:
We need to manage our expectations...

I totally agree. We lose our temper with one or two children itself.

We must understand that it is really tough for the teacher to handle the class of 40. Out of anger or frustation, she/he may say some words which might hurt our children.

But as a parent, we must monitor whether this \"verbal abuse(?)\" continues every now and then or just that one incident. If it is happening constantly, then we can talk to the school first or even to the same teacher.

Nowadays parents are too protective and super concerned with small issues as well.

One might ask me that what i will do in such a situation. I will definitely talk to the teacher first to solve the problem if there is any.

[fightingmom]

Some kids can't articulate properly what really happened so it is best to sit down and find out more rather than jump into conclusion. Call up the school and talk to the teacher first. Find out both side of the story.


If the child is at fault (for being disruptive, misbehaved) that caused the outburst of the teacher, then the child should be reprimanded for his bad behaviour. At a young age, the child will not know what is right or wrong, whether certain behaviour is considered good or bad - so it is up to us to guide them.

However, if the teacher is at fault, then he/she should at least apologise and we move on from there. Should the same thing happens again, then we bring it up to the school principal.

How we behave, our kids are watching and could be mirroring us in future. If everything also call police, what are we teaching them ? Whether right or wrong, we just get higher authority to suppress the other party and win the argument ? By over protecting them now might not prepare them for the challenges that they will face in future when they step into the working world.

Just my 2 cents.

[bebebub]

kiddo:

Teachers' job -normal pay = 40 kids in a class + 40 very concern parents.=Tough job :gloomy:

a little scolding at kids will make them very resilient, we should
not jump on every wimp of our child
No wonder we drive teachers and now principal away?! :evil:

Indeed! 40 kids = 40 sets of parents.
A relative of mine, who is a teacher, commented that at times, its easier to manage the kids than managing the parents

[HAPPYH]

bebebub:

kiddo:

Teachers' job -normal pay = 40 kids in a class + 40 very concern parents.=Tough job :gloomy:

a little scolding at kids will make them very resilient, we should
not jump on every wimp of our child
No wonder we drive teachers and now principal away?! :evil:

Indeed! 40 kids = 40 sets of parents.
A relative of mine, who is a teacher, commented that at times, its easier to manage the kids than managing the parents

True. I also heard this from my friend.

[MrsSeah]

newuser:

I was once at a seminar where the speaker said that knowledge gains in the school worth $5 but experiencing school life is one of the main objectives.

School is like a mini society where children needs to learn discipline, manner, EQ etc in order to survive in society when they grow up. Don't overprotect them but do guide them through the journey. Let them grow and they will glow in future.

Agreed!!!!

[PhoBIA]

I feel the father has over reacted. What message is he sending to his child?

Even if you feel the teacher is wrong never say it in front of r child. Take the matter quietly with the teacher, settle it in a amicable way. Teacher will be more mindful and the relationship between the student and teacher will improve slowly.

This child has became famous overnight in her school. Will all teachers shun her bad behaviour and not make any comments? Is this good for the child? So the child becomes unruly and not afraid of authority anymore? :stupid:

[MrsSeah]

Kelsy:

I feel the father has over reacted. What message is he sending to his child?

Even if you feel the teacher is wrong never say it in front of r child. Take the matter quietly with the teacher, settle it in a amicable way. Teacher will be more mindful and the relationship between the student and teacher will improve slowly.

This child has became famous overnight in her school. Will all teachers shun her bad behaviour and not make any comments? Is this good for the child? So the child becomes unruly and not afraid of authority anymore? :stupid:

If may have after effect. Like some nasty teacher may give sarcastic comment to the child again indirectly. Like \"I better don't \"talk\" to you, if not wait your father make police report or sue me.\" Is it become WORST?

[HAPPYH]

MrsSeah:

Kelsy:

I feel the father has over reacted. What message is he sending to his child?

Even if you feel the teacher is wrong never say it in front of r child. Take the matter quietly with the teacher, settle it in a amicable way. Teacher will be more mindful and the relationship between the student and teacher will improve slowly.

This child has became famous overnight in her school. Will all teachers shun her bad behaviour and not make any comments? Is this good for the child? So the child becomes unruly and not afraid of authority anymore? :stupid:

If may have after effect. Like some nasty teacher may give sarcastic comment to the child again indirectly. Like \"I better don't \"talk\" to you, if not wait your father make police report or sue me.\" Is it become WORST?

Yes, highly possible. The child is the one going to suffer....