2012 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[fightingmom]

janet_lee88:

Hi fightingmom,

Thank goodness he didn't open his mouth in front of son, or I would have slaughtered him. Sorry :oops: , stomach still has gun powder, so still violent.
Is my man here brainless or are most men tactless ? :stupid:
Told him to clam up if nothing good is coming out.

This June will be intensive, not just for older one but younger gal in P2. She didn't do well for her SA either.

Try time out. If I am very angry with my DD or even DH, we time out. Give each other time and space to cool off and then sit down to talk calmly later. I wouldn't want to say something in a fit of anger that I may regret later.

I always try to remember this : 1 min of staying angry actually deprives you and your child 60seconds of being happy. Am no saint - I flared up a few times this year too. It is difficult but I try.
:xedfingers:

[fifiyeo]

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

[fightingmom]

fifiyeo:

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

He sounds so sensible to me. I think he knows he didn't do well and wants to make up for it. If I were you, I will praise his attitude and sit down to work out a study plan (since he in the mood to engage).

[Peony]

fifiyeo:

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

YES!!!
Especially since he improved from CA1.

To me, effort & attitude matters more than results at this stage.

His PSLE results only decides which secondary school he goes to. BUT consistent effort and positive attitude can ensure continued progress that is lifelong.

How many times have we heard stories of kids who do very well for PSLE but slide in secondary school? And how many times have we heard of kids who were \"nowhere\" at primary school and go on to do awesome at secondary school onwards? I've heard plenty.

So if i were you, I'd be very happy with him.

My take is that most kids who have been studying consistently have actually done much better but the results do not reflect this as KILLER PAPERS were set to almost guarantee the school hauls in mostly As and A*s in the actual PSLE exams.

[coast]

janet_lee88:

fightingmom:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]
This SA1 was a real nightmare. I had a hard time accepting his results compared to CA1. I literally went off track :stompfeet: :mad: :frustrated:

:hugs: Janet... Don't lose heart.

Thanks for your consolation...appreciate.
Fortunately it's not PMS which caused the gun powder to explode in me.
While trying to find out cause of his poor results, hubby is on my nerves telling him crap, and also telling me to accept Cs for psle. Cannot believe him saying that :slapshead: how could he be so negative ? As a parent, we should have absolute faith and if time management is the cause, we should work on that. I am ok if he can come back with 4 As.[/quote]Hi Janet,

Yes, you are right. What your DS need is encouragement.

Many schools set VERY difficult P6 CA1/ SA1 so that their students (after getting dismayed results) get worried and worked doubly hard for PSLE preparation.

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=35434

But it will backfire if the students lose their confidence and give up instead.

PSLE standard should be reasonable. It should be helpful for your DS to practise on these papers to gain his confidence and work on his weaker areas.

[coast]

Peony:

fifiyeo:

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

YES!!!
Especially since he improved from CA1.

To me, effort & attitude matters more than results at this stage.

His PSLE results only decides which secondary school he goes to. BUT consistent effort and positive attitude can ensure continued progress that is lifelong.

How many times have we heard stories of kids who do very well for PSLE but slide in secondary school? And how many times have we heard of kids who were \"nowhere\" at primary school and go on to do awesome at secondary school onwards? I've heard plenty.

So if i were you, I'd be very happy with him.

My take is that most kids who have been studying consistently have actually done much better but the results do not reflect this as KILLER PAPERS were set to almost guarantee the school hauls in mostly As and A*s in the actual PSLE exams.

The students (and their parents) get stressed after these killer papers. Is it healthy? If the actual PSLE exams contain a small % of “higher ability” questions, would we still want our kids to go through such stress? Will schools still continue to set KILLER papers knowing that it differs much from actual PSLE standard?

But we do not really know if it is indeed a small % of “higher ability” questions in actual PSLE

Please read and vote whether you think the suggestion below helps (especially if you have younger kids since it's probably too late for any changes to affect the current P6s) :-

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=35434

[fifiyeo]

Peony:

fifiyeo:

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

YES!!!
Especially since he improved from CA1.

To me, effort & attitude matters more than results at this stage.

His PSLE results only decides which secondary school he goes to. BUT consistent effort and positive attitude can ensure continued progress that is lifelong.

How many times have we heard stories of kids who do very well for PSLE but slide in secondary school? And how many times have we heard of kids who were \"nowhere\" at primary school and go on to do awesome at secondary school onwards? I've heard plenty.

So if i were you, I'd be very happy with him.

My take is that most kids who have been studying consistently have actually done much better but the results do not reflect this as KILLER PAPERS were set to almost guarantee the school hauls in mostly As and A*s in the actual PSLE exams.

DS told me that the papers were harder. I wonder. Will find out from teachers during the upcoming meeting.

All these KILLER PAPERS make our lives so miserable. We don't even know if DS is going to do ok or not.

Yes, I think he deserve some credit. But scary thought still since grades are still a distance away from P5 SA2!

[fifiyeo]

DS has not done well this year. Yet he wants to go for DSA for his particular dream school. I wonder if I should let him go and try. Might be wasting time. Sigh...


I think he is going to seek out his teacher today to have a talk with her about his chances. I don't think he wants to give up hope. Rather he is still very hopeful.

[coast]

Chenonceau:

I have a somewhat different problem now. DS has planned his own revision schedule from now until end-June. After school today, he targetted...

(1) 1 Math Paper 2
(2) 1 Science Paper
(3) Read 1 PRC Model Compo and copy out yummy words (requires 30 minutes)
(4) Self ting xie of the yummy compo words from the previous day.

I tried to tell him that he would not be able to manage the Science Paper on top of everything else. I'm out this evening and when I called home to DS... sure enough... he had not completed the Science Paper. He insisted that by the end of the week, he was confident he could complete everything he planned.

I am not so sure because he seems to have overplanned for every day of the week. I'm thinking that by the end of the week, I'll have a crying 11 year old on my hands because he will be looking at a whole mound of work that he had wanted to do and couldn't finish.

He got angry with me when I tried to take out some items from his plan. He said, \"Do you think I'll have time to get in enough practice Mom?\" He's so anxious that he is OVER working. And I can't buffer him from stress if he won't let me. Hmmmmm... I didn't foresee this problem this year.

DD only demonstrated this OVERwork trait in Sec 3. DS is 3 years too early. It just goes to show how stressful the system is.

Maybe you can ask him to switch to weekly goals instead? It might be more obvious to him whether he has overplanned if he put what he wants to achieve in a week. At the mean time, he can work towards those goals without feeling too anxious about \"these are the things I NEED to complete today\".

Then record the goals completed (and the actual duration) daily (record % if partially completed) and check the progress against the weekly goals at the end of each day.

Hope it helps.

[psle2011mum]

fifiyeo:

DS came home and reported his results for Math, Sci and Eng. Aiyoyo, so bad!


Although much better than CA1 (which he nearly failed), it is no where near good. (My good is not even band 1 in case some of you think I have very high expectations). :spank:

So today, DS took out his school books and started studying. He even started doing his school Math activity book and plans to finish everything before the end of the school hols so that he will have less homework and more time to revise in term 3.

So should forgive him or what??? :scratchhead:

Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.
Rabbi Julius Gordon

You know your DS best and you are in a unique position to support him. Don't give up his dreams or yours now -- the kiddos really do mature alot through this experience. Take care!