2012 PSLE Discussions and Strategy
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fightingmom:
I like this.
I told DD : I don't like to go into a battle without preparation and never give up with a good fight !
Enjoy reading the jokes u have posted. They are really funny. -
PiggyLalala:
:thankyou: :snuggles:
I like this.fightingmom:
I told DD : I don't like to go into a battle without preparation and never give up with a good fight !
Enjoy reading the jokes u have posted. They are really funny. -
PiggyLalala:
I SUPER LIKE !!!
I like this.fightingmom:
I told DD : I don't like to go into a battle without preparation and never give up with a good fight ! .
Daiso timer : if you see the one you like/use, better to buy more than 2..just grab a few because the battery runs out fast and the timer often OOS.
We have most of the SA1 marks but no actual paper yet. I try to keep up a positive front for my ds but in the night, overwhelming feelings of stress and panic still hit me sometimes. :nailbite:
:nunchuk:
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Dear all mummies,
Thank you! I feel so encouraged reading the posts from all of you. My dd didn’t do up to her expectation during this SA1. She’s disappointed. But the good thing is, she is now more driven to put in more effort. So for this June, let’s work hard together.
Jia You! -
fifiyeo:
It seems to me that your boy KNOWS what he has to do but doesn't FEEL like doing it. The motivation treats may have worked at first but as in the case of many motivation treats, they lose effectiveness over time unless you keep increasing their attractiveness. It's easy for an adult to understand this. Think of yourself KNOWING that you need to work but you don't FEEL like it because your work is boring and stressful. You drag your feet to work. When at work, you unconsciously try ways and means to escape - chat with friends, surf internet... Once a year, you get a bonus but well, unless the bonus is S$1 million dollars, it ain't very motivating.
In terms of hours, he clocks tons of it but there is no quality in it. He doesn't put in 100% effort so the hours are often wasted doing everything extremely slowly and talking whenever he gets a chance to. I've told him many times, encourage him, used timer, motivation treats, scream at him etc. Nothing seems to work.
The truth is... a lot of what we do at work is boring... a lot of what kids do in school is boring. You don't NEED motivation skills if the activity were inherently interesting. Hence, it is no one's fault. It is not your DS' fault for not being able to stay focused. It is not your fault that his work at home with you is boring.
However, boring or not, you still need to motivate him. So how?
May I suggest that you try the following strategy: Shorten the Feedback Loop.
Feedback about progress re-focuses attention and tops up motivational energy. This is way Arcade Games are so addictive. Every time you shoot and hit someone, you can see your points go up. Every time someone hits you, your points go down.
This strategy is useful in cases where the child's battery is flat. This is NOT the strategy to use when you have a full motivated child like my DS. There is no one size fits all solution. The motivation strategy must fit the situation. I kinda took the liberty to read your situation. I hope I have read correctly. This strategy is useful when (a) the child's battery is flat (from having failed too many times) (b) the task is itself incredibly boring.
(1) Seat your child where he cannot see you and you can see him. This means that he FEELS as if he is working alone. It is important to from the start get him used to FEELING like he is alone.... so that you can later transit him into REALLY working alone.
(2) But he is NOT alone. You have him in view and can GENTLY comment if he should lose focus.
(3) However, the key to keeping him focused is in calibrating the length of the feedback loop. When I started my DS on memorizing highly difficult Chinese compositions (so difficult that Grandma, and ex Chinese Teacher, needed a dictionary), I asked for one sentence at a time. Then I stretched it to 2... 3...6. Eventually my DS was able to mo xie a 2000 word compo. It took him 5 days. The feedback loop was 5 days... and he stayed on task throughout.
(4) When he comes to you for feedback, be positive. Smile. Give a big tick next to whatever he is doing. Cuddle him. This feeds him with positive energy... enough to see him through the next short cycle.
(5) Never blow up in any of the cycles. Feeding your child negative energy is like feeding him spring water with a drop of petroleum. If you drink that kind of water, your energy immediately wilts and you feel sick. Feed your child clean and pure emotional spring water so that he feels refreshed every time he comes to you. This allows him to make it through the NEXT feedback cycle. If he has made a mistake, just comment, ask and GENTLY get him to go back and re-do.
(6) When your child receives enough positive energy from you and feels more competent about what he is doing, then lengthen the feedback loop.
(7) Please note that at the end of each feedback loop, he must come to you... not YOU go to him. This forces him to have to get up and move around. This will refresh him a little. Every little bit counts when your battery is flat.
(8) When the feedback loop is long enough, you can discreetly leave the room on the random occasion. With DS, I eventually even went out of the house and he still delivered a good recitation of the Chinese compo to me when I came home in the evening.
Downsides of This Strategy
(1) If used with a fully motivated child, this strategy DEmotivates because it will be construed as micro-managing.
(2) It is very taxing on the Mother.
(3) Others... that I can't remember off hand.
I hope this helps. -
Anyone mind to share the revision plan for the coming holiday. Should we just focus on practising top school papers as part of revision?
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Hey Buds,
You need to eat some snake...for sake of sanity.
If I didn't remember wrongly, the timers are placed near the \"plastic' section...quite near the food area at IMM outlet.
It's fun to see cute and colorful stuff in the house...livens up the room and best of all, it is a practical item. What the heck, it's $2 and like what my hubby always says, 'no brainer'. If I see another design of timer, I will get it.
When these 2 fellas refuse to get up, I set TIMERS to wake them up...a bit cruel to jerk the heart with loud RING but no choice :evil: -
janet_lee88:
Thinking of getting one too after knowing the location. Thank you Mummy janetHey Buds,
You need to eat some snake...for sake of sanity.
If I didn't remember wrongly, the timers are placed near the \"plastic' section...quite near the food area at IMM outlet.
It's fun to see cute and colorful stuff in the house...livens up the room and best of all, it is a practical item. What the heck, it's $2 and like what my hubby always says, 'no brainer'. If I see another design of timer, I will get it.
When these 2 fellas refuse to get up, I set TIMERS to wake them up...a bit cruel to jerk the heart with loud RING but no choice :evil: -
Hey ladies,
I miss IMM too. -
They have a heart shaped, a strawberry and an apple version of the timer at IMM Diaso.
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