Primary school maths: A vicious circle (from TODAY May 8)

[HAPPYH]

Chenonceau:

BeContented:

:hi5: :goodpost: :goodpost:
I have 2 kids in different neighborhood Sch too. While one is a good sch, the other is probably one of the lousiest around this area (IMO & only comparing academics). Both kids' abilities are quite similar.....so I can see the difference in Sch. Eventually, my expectation from each has to be set differently too.

Wow! Becontented, you certainly are rare in that you can stand back and watch with perfect equanimity whilst one lousy school grooms your child to BELOW his/her potential... and applaud. I am sure such generosity with the system is beyond me... and beyond the capability of many parents.

I am not sure whether to kudos you or not for your selflessness. I only know that such selflessness is beyond me. At the end of the day, I feel more for my child than I do for supporting a system that allows schools to groom him to BELOW his potential.

Same here

[oneheart]

Chenonceau,


just to let you know…I receive your pm but cld not make it on that day…out of town. Hence, did not reply to you.

thanks.

[Chenonceau]

oneheart:

Chenonceau,


just to let you know...I receive your pm but cld not make it on that day...out of town. Hence, did not reply to you.

thanks.

Thanks for the note. I did understand that. I've already given your place to the next person in the queue.

[oxyleo]

I agree with Chenonceau.


Think of our education system this way. It’s sort of like our current access to TV channels these days.

1) Free channels - Ch 5, 8, okto…
2) Pay TV -
(i) Basic Tier Cable TV
(ii) Add-on channels
(iii) On-demand TV

The good schools, as Chen describes, give you full access to ALL channels, on the house, mind you.
Some schools give you only the free channels, and a bit of basic tier pay-TV.
According to experiences shared with me by some friends, it seems that the kids who are streamed to classes other than the top classes also are deliberately only given access to Free TV, because they are deemed to be less capable, and hence really shouldn’t view more than they brains can take.

Now think of PSLE as a test that assesses you on what you watch during the last 6 years, and the content of that cuts across all available channels on both Free and Pay Tv.

Kids who are in anything other than the good schools have to find a way to access all the other channels. Their parents, mostly not being experts in the field, need to find out somehow what is being aired on those other channels, in an amateurish, non-targeted manner. Because of this, many have decided to turn to tuition in the hope that the tution centers have a better idea than them as to what their kids were missing out on all those other channels.

If we veer the discussion away from education for a moment, and turn it purely to one of viewing TV for pleasure, surely many would argue almost instantly that it isn’t fair that some estates, such as the Bukit Timah areas, should get to watch all channels whilst others get only some. It is unlikely that people would be accepting of the differences. Whether you have the time or the capacity to watch and appreciate all the channels is besides the point.

Now, apply the above into the context of public education. Whether a child has the ability to absorb everything is besides the point. Shouldn’t they all have access to what’s out there? At the very least to the point of what will be tested? Whilst streaming arguably works in favor of the smarter ones, and we do want to ensure they don’t get bored and lose interest, are we doing the right thing by limiting or not ensuring that the other children have access to all the other channels?

[Mychildren]

At present, there is no way to tell whether a child underperforms because he is not taught (and has no access to the material)... or because he just can't handle the material. No one is asking for 100% comprehensive textbooks... but one certainly does not expect the textbooks to document only 20% of what one needs to know for PSLE. Seriously, to do well in school exams, one hardly needs to flip the textbooks at all. They are really BASIC, as you put it.


Many children who ARE capable are NOT fulfilling their potential because they are NOT taught the material (and their parents DON'T give them tuition)... It's almost like a beehive where some bee larvae are fed Royal Jelly because they are the designated Queen Bees. The quantity and quality of the educational material our children are fed with... do have a bearing on their PSLE results.
by Chenonceau

:goodpost:

GOOD POST & WELL SAID!!!
Totally AGREE with you!

I've been sourcing materials for my children now. No point depending on the school.
Parents of p1 & 2 won't feel a sting now. They'll know it as children progress from p4 onwards. Wait for the school to do something, by the time my children already finished their PSLE lo....... Got to take action before it's too late. Sigh, my job lo...... :sick:

[BeContented]

Chenonceau:

BeContented:

:hi5: :goodpost: :goodpost:
I have 2 kids in different neighborhood Sch too. While one is a good sch, the other is probably one of the lousiest around this area (IMO & only comparing academics). Both kids' abilities are quite similar.....so I can see the difference in Sch. Eventually, my expectation from each has to be set differently too.

Wow! Becontented, you certainly are rare in that you can stand back and watch with perfect equanimity whilst one lousy school grooms your child to BELOW his/her potential... and applaud. I am sure such generosity with the system is beyond me... and beyond the capability of many parents.

I am not sure whether to kudos you or not for your selflessness. I only know that such selflessness is beyond me. At the end of the day, I feel more for my child than I do for supporting a system that allows schools to groom him to BELOW his potential.

Selflessness?? No, I am not that noble, just simply laziness & bochup attitude. Do I just sit back and watch.....not exactly cos' I started letting my kids have tuition from P4 and tho embarrassed to admit, tuition not because they can't cope, but rather to give that extra boost to maintain/improve.

I'm a simple person, not strong in analysis and my perspective can be pretty narrow.....but these are my views.

School resources.....I feel that most schools do provide the necessary, but there will be some that provide more quality resources. True, MOE can do better with the resources, but in matter of time....some schools will again stand out and produce EVEN better resources and churn out top students. Simple reason....organization/schools are still run by humans....and humans are generally selfish and competitive (how many are truly selfless??) .....they want the advantage, they want to be differentiated. And parents will rush to those schools (so did I since I apply for transfer :oops: )


Potential....With a class size of 40, do you expect schools to have the ability to groom ALL kids to their potential? And what is their real potential? IS it really that easy to gauge? And at what expense? Most of us believe strongly in the potential of our children......me too. BUT how hungry & discipline/motivated is the child? I have quite a fair bit of books at home.... but sadly, many are untouched. Yes, I can nag & force, but I dun think they absorb anything useful thru that method.
We, the parents, the major stakeholders of our children, already have such difficulty grooming them to full potential (with 1-1 ratio).......I doubt the school can do that for big numbers. However, when a child is hungry, they will naturally source for more by themselves. This is one thing I admire about the PRC kids....they are seriously hungry. But as kiasu parent, of course I'll be glad if there are additional resources.


Expectation.....this is really one of the tough part. Whenever I feel my kids have potential to perform better....I expect more ... and MORE .... and MORE ....
Whenever I compare them to my GEP neighbour, I push them more....cos' I know if they would just play less, spend more time studying/learning, they will be a step nearer to their FULL potential. BUT is the child happy? Do I need to push them to that extend? And where exactly is that FULL potential? As long as one is always learning.....that's most important isn't it?? Frankly, I'm always in a dilemma too.

But I do know one thing......I cannot over protect my kids, they need to have some minor setbacks to learn some lessons and about the real world.
Chinese saying \"一山还有一山高 ／ 天外有天“ .....

Hope I am talking sense


PS : I must admit, my experience may be limited. I kinda have it easy with regards to my kids study.........but I will know the real truth when PSLE comes. Perhaps then I'll regret not doing more.

[3Boys]

Wow!! BeContented, your post hits closest to my view on this matter, and put very eloquently too.


Too which I will add 1 further nuance.....

I don't think it matters very much at all in the long run.

[Chenonceau]

BeContented:

Selflessness?? No, I am not that noble, just simply laziness & bochup attitude. Do I just sit back and watch.....not exactly cos' I started letting my kids have tuition from P4 and tho embarrassed to admit, tuition not because they can't cope, but rather to give that extra boost to maintain/improve.

So the system needs parents who are lazy and bochup (as opposed to kiasu) to praise its efforts? So we should expect our kids to be lazy and bochup and not teach them the attitude of trying hard to make it in life? I was so lazy and bochup that my kid skirted failure and ended up at the bottom of the heap.

BeContented:

School resources.....I feel that most schools do provide the necessary, but there will be some that provide more quality resources. True, MOE can do better with the resources, but in matter of time....some schools will again stand out and produce EVEN better resources and churn out top students. Simple reason....organization/schools are still run by humans....and humans are generally selfish and competitive (how many are truly selfless??) .....they want the advantage, they want to be differentiated. And parents will rush to those schools (so did I since I apply for transfer :oops: )

MOST schools provide the necessary. What about the bright kids in those that don't? They don't matter?

BeContented:

Potential....With a class size of 40, do you expect schools to have the ability to groom ALL kids to their potential?

Okay. Reduce class size to 15-20.

BeContented:

And what is their real potential? IS it really that easy to gauge? And at what expense? Most of us believe strongly in the potential of our children......me too. BUT how hungry & discipline/motivated is the child?

And because children are differently motivated the system has the excuse to deny some children access to required material?

BeContented:

We, the parents, the major stakeholders of our children, already have such difficulty grooming them to full potential (with 1-1 ratio).......I doubt the school can do that for big numbers.

That is why we need Professionals to teach. Parents are not professionals. Unfortunately, we increasingly find that parents/tutors teach better and more than the professionals.

BeContented:

However, when a child is hungry, they will naturally source for more by themselves. This is one thing I admire about the PRC kids....they are seriously hungry. But as kiasu parent, of course I'll be glad if there are additional resources.

Really? You expect a 7/8/9 year old to do the same as what one normally expects of a 14 year old? Traipse off the to library all on his own because the child seems to know that the school is not giving him enough material?

No... only us adults have that capacity for analysis.

My DS wanted to do well. Many parents who bring their kids to me want to do well. But a young child of even 9/10/11... won't know how to analyze why and how he/she did not do well in order to take the necessary remedial measures. In the past, motivated children could study hard from textbooks and do well. Now, no longer. That's why better textbooks are important... so that such motivated children have the wherewithal to learn no matter WHAT the school.

BUT, he was so motivated that when I threw him Onsponge, he devoured.

BeContented:

Expectation.....this is really one of the tough part. Whenever I feel my kids have potential to perform better....I expect more ... and MORE .... and MORE ....
Whenever I compare them to my GEP neighbour, I push them more....cos' I know if they would just play less, spend more time studying/learning, they will be a step nearer to their FULL potential. BUT is the child happy? Do I need to push them to that extend? And where exactly is that FULL potential? As long as one is always learning.....that's most important isn't it?? Frankly, I'm always in a dilemma too.

I don't see parent expectations as relevant to the discussion about schools providing differential access to learning material.

The way people go on about parent expectations it would seem that most parents in Singapore don't love their kids or don't know how to calibrate their expectations of kids. So... if you have a failing kid... you will be bochap and lazy too? You have NO expectations of your kids? I for one, didn't even bring my son to GEP testing. Many parents decide to leave their kids in mainstream for various reasons. So these bochap parents with low expectations should be given prizes for being good non-kiasu parents?

The system would have us inculcate values of bochapness and laziness so that it can continue to be inefficient and ineffective?

[iFirefly]

BeContented:

Chenonceau:

[quote=\"BeContented\"]
:hi5: :goodpost: :goodpost:
I have 2 kids in different neighborhood Sch too. While one is a good sch, the other is probably one of the lousiest around this area (IMO & only comparing academics). Both kids' abilities are quite similar.....so I can see the difference in Sch. Eventually, my expectation from each has to be set differently too.

Wow! Becontented, you certainly are rare in that you can stand back and watch with perfect equanimity whilst one lousy school grooms your child to BELOW his/her potential... and applaud. I am sure such generosity with the system is beyond me... and beyond the capability of many parents.

I am not sure whether to kudos you or not for your selflessness. I only know that such selflessness is beyond me. At the end of the day, I feel more for my child than I do for supporting a system that allows schools to groom him to BELOW his potential.

Selflessness?? No, I am not that noble, just simply laziness & bochup attitude. Do I just sit back and watch.....not exactly cos' I started letting my kids have tuition from P4 and tho embarrassed to admit, tuition not because they can't cope, but rather to give that extra boost to maintain/improve.

I'm a simple person, not strong in analysis and my perspective can be pretty narrow.....but these are my views.

School resources.....I feel that most schools do provide the necessary, but there will be some that provide more quality resources. True, MOE can do better with the resources, but in matter of time....some schools will again stand out and produce EVEN better resources and churn out top students. Simple reason....organization/schools are still run by humans....and humans are generally selfish and competitive (how many are truly selfless??) .....they want the advantage, they want to be differentiated. And parents will rush to those schools (so did I since I apply for transfer :oops: )


Potential....With a class size of 40, do you expect schools to have the ability to groom ALL kids to their potential? And what is their real potential? IS it really that easy to gauge? And at what expense? Most of us believe strongly in the potential of our children......me too. BUT how hungry & discipline/motivated is the child? I have quite a fair bit of books at home.... but sadly, many are untouched. Yes, I can nag & force, but I dun think they absorb anything useful thru that method.
We, the parents, the major stakeholders of our children, already have such difficulty grooming them to full potential (with 1-1 ratio).......I doubt the school can do that for big numbers. However, when a child is hungry, they will naturally source for more by themselves. This is one thing I admire about the PRC kids....they are seriously hungry. But as kiasu parent, of course I'll be glad if there are additional resources.


Expectation.....this is really one of the tough part. Whenever I feel my kids have potential to perform better....I expect more ... and MORE .... and MORE ....
Whenever I compare them to my GEP neighbour, I push them more....cos' I know if they would just play less, spend more time studying/learning, they will be a step nearer to their FULL potential. BUT is the child happy? Do I need to push them to that extend? And where exactly is that FULL potential? As long as one is always learning.....that's most important isn't it?? Frankly, I'm always in a dilemma too.

But I do know one thing......I cannot over protect my kids, they need to have some minor setbacks to learn some lessons and about the real world.
Chinese saying \"一山还有一山高 ／ 天外有天“ .....

Hope I am talking sense


PS : I must admit, my experience may be limited. I kinda have it easy with regards to my kids study.........but I will know the real truth when PSLE comes. Perhaps then I'll regret not doing more. [/quote] :goodpost:

Hi BeContented, EVERYTHING you said MADE SENSE... :hugs: :salute:

I have not read a good post for a l-o-n-g time.. Thank you for speaking what I have been thinking of, but am not able to express in words... :hi5:

[Chenonceau]

firefly38:

:goodpost:

Hi BeContented, EVERYTHING you said MADE SENSE... :hugs: :salute:

I have not read a good post for a l-o-n-g time.. Thank you for speaking what I have been thinking of, but am not able to express in words... :hi5:

If your child is in GEP... and in NYPS, I don't blame you for being so positive. If your child is top of the heap, as in BeContented's case (and you have money and don't mind to pay for tuition to maintain your child at the top), then I also don't blame you for thinking lousy textbooks are acceptable.

It's different life experiences. Unfortunately, we won't know until the nation next goes to the polls in 2016 whether people like you are in the minority or the majority. Time will tell.