Ang Pow Issues...

[Oppsgal]

concern2:

phankao:

We don't give to older unmarried siblings lor - as I mentioned. Nor unmarried older cousins. Can't be bc of dialect group? We're Cantonese.

Great. Looks like I'll have to set the records straight from now on.. :rubhands:

My parents want us to give unmarried younger cousins angbao.

[concern2]

Oppsgal:

concern2:

[quote=\"phankao\"]
We don't give to older unmarried siblings lor - as I mentioned. Nor unmarried older cousins. Can't be bc of dialect group? We're Cantonese.

Great. Looks like I'll have to set the records straight from now on.. :rubhands:

My parents want us to give unmarried younger cousins angbao. [/quote]Yes, Oppsgal, that's what we do too. We give unmarried cousins angpaos - as long as they're younger than us.

I've talked to DH, and guess what he said, he knew it all along - that no need to give unmarried cousins older than us. I was so mad. \"You mean you knew it all along and you made me go through those embarrassment!!\" He argued that it was about your own conscience, that he give his older brothers cos they're not doing well. But the least he could do was to let me know - and obviously some of his other cousins aren't doing that badly...so, I've made up my mind to follow the tradition - and depending on the situation of that person of course, which then is another case. :slapshead: after so many years..

[tutormum]

I thought to give to all unmarried? In my family it was traditional that the younger married person give 2 oranges and an ang pow to the elder. By right, the elder would exchange the orange and keep the ang pow. However, from our generation, the elder return another ang pow also. We also put the same amount in the ang pow so that nobody lugi. Of course, if want, can put more than the standard. All unmarried will get ang pow from the married. I give to my unmarried aunt every year and she will give some money (not in the red packet) to all her unmarried nieces and nephews etc.

[Winnie Yong]

Can tell us in dollar value?

[mummyJune]

hi all, not sure if this topics falls in here.


i need to know, how much angbao $ to give for wedding dinner at hotel @ orchard. is a relative wedding. & my family of 4. but basically my kids still very young(1Y & 3Y) so husband stingy, say give $60 angbao.
i told him not nice la, later my mum say make her lose face :torchme:

so how much angbao $ to give for my whole family?

[Big fish]

For a family of four, though yours kids are small, u still take up at least 3 seats plus 1 baby chair, if per head is $60 to $80 ( depends on the price of hotel ), at least $200 is presentable, not to mention that it is a RELATIVE, that means u will meet someday. I would say $60 is toooo stingy ( sorry…). For me I will give $250-$300. Remember next time your children also will grow big and get married, imagine pp come and give you $60 for a family of 4… it is REALLY not nice.

[CMF]

mummyJune:

hi all, not sure if this topics falls in here.


i need to know, how much angbao $ to give for wedding dinner at hotel @ orchard. is a relative wedding. & my family of 4. but basically my kids still very young(1Y & 3Y) so husband stingy, say give $60 angbao.
i told him not nice la, later my mum say make her lose face :torchme:

so how much angbao $ to give for my whole family?

Note as a gauge of Grand Hyatt's (hotel located in Orchard Road) wedding packages, http://singapore.grand.hyatt.com/hyatt/hotels-singapore-grand/events/weddings/offers.jsp, it starts at an average of S$97/person (weekday) or S$113/person (weekend). As a norm, a guest would usually try to cover his/her dinner cost. If kids are not going to occupy two additional seats, then \"minimum\" angbao would be S$200/couple - S$230/couple if one wants to at least cover couple's dinner costs, excluding consideration that the wedding couple is a relative.

[auntieM]

Must the whole family show up? Maybe can find an excuse.. ..

$60 for per person considered low liao, don't mind me saying but your DH really... :faint:
Can take the risk and show up, hopefully your relatives wouldn't notice..

[mummyJune]

ya my DH is very stingy. is not per person $60, he said whole family $60. siao right! i so angry, quarrel with him. anywae, its really not nice to give so little since we are relatives & will meet during festive seasons etc.


just now my mum said for my relative wedding dinner, per table is $1.6k, den if i give $200 for whole family, is it ok?

[CMF]

mummyJune:

just now my mum said for my relative wedding dinner, per table is $1.6k, den if i give $200 for whole family, is it ok?

If it's S$1,600/table, then for a table of 10 it would be S$160/person, if S$1,600/table is without GST & tax, then it would be S$187/person (with GST & tax). S$200 angbao would just cover one person's cost at the table.