Clash of the 'Female Gladiators'??

[Oppsgal]

Why tired, still got energy to scold?


Wonder if at home, is the behavior also like this?

[Funz]

ksi:

These are only the symptoms, the underlying issues are:


1. life is stressful for many and a lot of social discomfort (all rights deemed very important to claim, rightfully or wrongfully)

2. irresponsible social behaviour due to technology (convenience of point and click, people are abusing technology to threaten others. convenience of anonymity and people write irresponsibly)

I encountered a major jam on the highway in a foreign country recently and it was the highway to the airport. I never heard a single horn sound, instead I see people emerging from the car to find out what went wrong ahead and they even gathered together in small groups as strangers to discuss a possible resolution for those people who really needed to get through this jam to the airport. The restless got out and stood at the shoulders of the road for a smoke. There was no noise pollution as far as I knew and my 40 mins wait inside my transport was peaceful. Everyone unanimously exhibited good manners. I had also seen the situation where people from another country in my group were going to blow their top because they could not visit the place of interest due to the jam and had to be postponed. However, upon looking at the group, mostly from that country, all patiently resolving the issue of the postponement, the volcano could not erupt. It was simply \"cultural pressure\" in the positive way.

A few days ago at a mall in the east, I was stopped in a car park for about 10 mins without any movement. I have no idea what was blocking the car at the corner in front of me as my view was blocked. But you could easily guess in the 10 mins, the noise pollution of the horn was alarming to the ears. I, who was just a car behind, was waiting patiently even though I was late to fetch my child but the cars behind me were \"exercising their rights\" unanimously causing pain to the ear drums. Naturally I was anxious too but I TRUSTED the person in front had to do what he had to do...move only when he deemed fit.

There were more incidents both overseas and here......too many to write down.

I felt that I have returned home to a nation filled with anger. Now I know why the holiday was so good, it brought back the human touch. Human touch is a every day thing, not when there is a crisis and donations pour in.

Cannot help but feel that it boils down to our own sense of entitlement. We have been a nation so well taken care of in the past that now when any tiny little thing doesn't go our way, we snap. We are a small country so everything is scaled down, even our tolerance.

When traffic here slows down or when it takes 15mins longer to get to our usual destination, we call it a horrible jam. When the location that we need to get to requires more then 30mins of travel time, we call it very far. Knee high water level we call it major flooding. Have to wait more then 5 mins to be served, we say lousy service.

[verykiasu2010]

Funz:

Aiyoh, aunty. Tsk Tsk. Weather too hot temper also flare.


I like the way the ah lian point at the aunty and say enough oredi ah. I will also use that tone and words when my kids are throwing tantrums or whining.

if she knows she is being discussed here as ah lian, she would also point finger at ksp.com and say .... \"eunf oredi ah, discuss about me for f***!\" .... :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[verykiasu2010]

Funz:

Cannot help but feel that it boils down to our own sense of entitlement. We have been a nation so well taken care of in the past that now when any tiny little thing doesn't go our way, we snap. We are a small country so everything is scaled down, even our tolerance.

well said !

When traffic here slows down or when it takes 15mins longer to get to our usual destination, we call it a horrible jam. When the location that we need to get to requires more then 30mins of travel time, we call it very far. Knee high water level we call it major flooding. Have to wait more then 5 mins to be served, we say lousy service.

that is called ponding. we are given 5 years to repent

[BeContented]

Funz:

ksi:

These are only the symptoms, the underlying issues are:


1. life is stressful for many and a lot of social discomfort (all rights deemed very important to claim, rightfully or wrongfully)

2. irresponsible social behaviour due to technology (convenience of point and click, people are abusing technology to threaten others. convenience of anonymity and people write irresponsibly)

I encountered a major jam on the highway in a foreign country recently and it was the highway to the airport. I never heard a single horn sound, instead I see people emerging from the car to find out what went wrong ahead and they even gathered together in small groups as strangers to discuss a possible resolution for those people who really needed to get through this jam to the airport. The restless got out and stood at the shoulders of the road for a smoke. There was no noise pollution as far as I knew and my 40 mins wait inside my transport was peaceful. Everyone unanimously exhibited good manners. I had also seen the situation where people from another country in my group were going to blow their top because they could not visit the place of interest due to the jam and had to be postponed. However, upon looking at the group, mostly from that country, all patiently resolving the issue of the postponement, the volcano could not erupt. It was simply \"cultural pressure\" in the positive way.

A few days ago at a mall in the east, I was stopped in a car park for about 10 mins without any movement. I have no idea what was blocking the car at the corner in front of me as my view was blocked. But you could easily guess in the 10 mins, the noise pollution of the horn was alarming to the ears. I, who was just a car behind, was waiting patiently even though I was late to fetch my child but the cars behind me were \"exercising their rights\" unanimously causing pain to the ear drums. Naturally I was anxious too but I TRUSTED the person in front had to do what he had to do...move only when he deemed fit.

There were more incidents both overseas and here......too many to write down.

I felt that I have returned home to a nation filled with anger. Now I know why the holiday was so good, it brought back the human touch. Human touch is a every day thing, not when there is a crisis and donations pour in.

Cannot help but feel that it boils down to our own sense of entitlement. We have been a nation so well taken care of in the past that now when any tiny little thing doesn't go our way, we snap. We are a small country so everything is scaled down, even our tolerance.

When traffic here slows down or when it takes 15mins longer to get to our usual destination, we call it a horrible jam. When the location that we need to get to requires more then 30mins of travel time, we call it very far. Knee high water level we call it major flooding. Have to wait more then 5 mins to be served, we say lousy service.

:goodpost:
Agree wholeheartedly.
Last year when I was at Japan, tour guide was telling us how Japanese take pride & dun litter the place. Toilets so clean, peole patient etc etc. Look at ourselves ...... scold, shout, fight, blame, complaints etc etc. :faint: :sad: :oops: We do really need to reflect else we will really move to next level .......

[fightingmom]

When I was young, my dad always tell me \"以和为贵＂. Even the day before I got married , his 金玉良言 is still ＂以和为贵＂！till today, I still value what he has instilled in me. Sad to say we see more and more people finger pointing & ready to launch an attack (verbal or physical) at little stuff. :sad: can't imagine the kind of society my dd and her next generation will live in ... :sad:

[shinri]

BeContented:

Last year when I was at Japan, tour guide was telling us how Japanese take pride & dun litter the place. Toilets so clean, peole patient etc etc. Look at ourselves ...... scold, shout, fight, blame, complaints etc etc. :faint: :sad: :oops: We do really need to reflect else we will really move to next level .......

Er.. I've been to Japan.. for clean toilets, it depends on the area.
If city area, sure clean. But rural area, is like the kopitiam toilet like that.
Yes, I agree Japanese culture polite, etc, but then again, they got a lot of perverts in the train.. which we have very little of.
So we don't have perverts in the train, only screaming aunties. :razz:

[corneyAmber]

shinri:

BeContented:

Last year when I was at Japan, tour guide was telling us how Japanese take pride & dun litter the place. Toilets so clean, peole patient etc etc. Look at ourselves ...... scold, shout, fight, blame, complaints etc etc. :faint: :sad: :oops: We do really need to reflect else we will really move to next level .......

Er.. I've been to Japan.. for clean toilets, it depends on the area.
If city area, sure clean. But rural area, is like the kopitiam toilet like that.
Yes, I agree Japanese culture polite, etc, but then again, they got a lot of perverts in the train.. which we have very little of.
So we don't have perverts in the train, only screaming aunties. :razz:

That is what I mean by perception. Granted there are \"bad eggs\" in Japan as well as all countries, Japan is able to project a clean squeaky polite image in general which we fail miserably as a nation. Why? Food for thought.

[Funz]

Because they are a people who have such pride in their achievements. When they meet foreigners like us, they tell us of all that is good about their country.


We however are a critical self bashing bunch of people who will diss our own achievements even when they are recognised internationally. When we meet foreigners who are enamoured by our country, instead of beaming with pride, we put our own country down.

[verykiasu2010]

ksi:

I encountered a major jam on the highway in a foreign country recently and it was the highway to the airport. I never heard a single horn sound, instead I see people emerging from the car to find out what went wrong ahead and they even gathered together in small groups as strangers to discuss a possible resolution for those people who really needed to get through this jam to the airport. The restless got out and stood at the shoulders of the road for a smoke. There was no noise pollution as far as I knew and my 40 mins wait inside my transport was peaceful. Everyone unanimously exhibited good manners. I had also seen the situation where people from another country in my group were going to blow their top because they could not visit the place of interest due to the jam and had to be postponed. However, upon looking at the group, mostly from that country, all patiently resolving the issue of the postponement, the volcano could not erupt. It was simply \"cultural pressure\" in the positive way.

agree about the highway jam in Europe. no honking. was stuck for 3 hours in the autobahn between FRA and Salzburg .... no accident, just road work ...... ya, we came out of the car and share some snacks even ....

but another incident when the driver missed the airport due to snowing he could not see the turn off sign ..... that was really ......... missed the flight, and replacement flight need to change aircraft ..... a missed turn ended up wasting many hundred euro$ .... but that is just part and parcel of travels ......