All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academically

[kwcllf]

Saw this article on Edvantage from AsiaOne online:

http://www.edvantage.com.sg/edvantage/news/news/1185846/85_of_kids_lie_about_age_on_Facebook_survey.html

It is very important to find out what our children do online these days. They are young and impressionable and can be easily decieved and lead astray. Thought it is good to share this article although it is about Taiwan kids. But, I think this can happen everywhere, or is already happening.

[concernmother]

kwcllf:

Saw this article on Edvantage from AsiaOne online:

http://www.edvantage.com.sg/edvantage/news/news/1185846/85_of_kids_lie_about_age_on_Facebook_survey.html

It is very important to find out what our children do online these days. They are young and impressionable and can be easily decieved and lead astray. Thought it is good to share this article although it is about Taiwan kids. But, I think this can happen everywhere, or is already happening.

Thanks for sharing kwcllf.

[ammonite]

concernmother:

Thanks Cherrygal, mummy of three, ksi, kwcllf. Thanks for the advises. Got her tuition for some subjects. Hopefully she will buck up and catch up with her work. Funny thing is that, she has the intention to do well but her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Maybe she needs more guidance in time management than tuition per se. You have to sit down with her to help her look through her weekly schedule, and you may even need to go through each subject with her to see which are the areas that she needs help with. It sounds to me like she is totally overwhelmed and lost and hence give up halfway ie she has the intention but not the roadmap. Jiayu!

[Funz]

ammonite:

concernmother:

Thanks Cherrygal, mummy of three, ksi, kwcllf. Thanks for the advises. Got her tuition for some subjects. Hopefully she will buck up and catch up with her work. Funny thing is that, she has the intention to do well but her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Maybe she needs more guidance in time management than tuition per se. You have to sit down with her to help her look through her weekly schedule, and you may even need to go through each subject with her to see which are the areas that she needs help with. It sounds to me like she is totally overwhelmed and lost and hence give up halfway ie she has the intention but not the roadmap. Jiayu!

Yup, looks to me you will have to handhold her for a start to get her into the habit of making and sticking to a schedule.

[terry]

Concern mother,

Since she is involved in church, she can volunteer for missions trips.

It will be an eye opener to her and she will be involved in the great commission as well.

I feel in life, ev1 must hv a purpose, only then will life be meaningful.

I suppose teenagers lack this direction cos they dun noe wat life is abt outside of their own world. Encourage her to get out of her comfort zone and challenge herself.

[sleepy]

concernmother:

That is her personality. Even she has no CCA that week, she will be doing her work leisurely. There is no urgency in her. She will be tweeting, sms because her friends are doing so too.
Does anyone have this problem? Or is it me alone?
Stress

concernmother:

her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Confirmed it's personality. My dd1 is exactly the same. So I can totally empathise with your frustration.

She has no sense of urgency or concept of time. Idle away whatever spare time she has. From the moment I fetch her from school till the time she actually sat down at her desk to start doing homework, she needs a minimum of 3.5 hours! Everything is done in sloooooow motion. If I rush her, she said I'm causing her excessive stress & then she cried. End up I'm the bad guy :mad:

I don't have a solution yet. I've tried every single method I can think of since she was in preschool. And she's p4 now. I forsee I will continue to struggle. 'Carrot' doesn't work at all. So I'm moving to sticks now.

'Sticks' I have in place:
No TV. No computer. Cannot play iphone games.
I even opt her out of CCA. And I'm very selective about external enrichments because once she steps out of the house, she will take an extremely long time to settle down to study again.

[comfy]

concernmother:

Thanks Cherrygal, mummy of three, ksi, kwcllf. Thanks for the advises. Got her tuition for some subjects. Hopefully she will buck up and catch up with her work. Funny thing is that, she has the intention to do well but her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Guess you all are right. Probably she is too comfortable, don't know what is hardship. But i have seen children, who come from comfortable home, wealthy family, doing very well on their own and very focus. Why my kid is not like this?
So many times I want to give up. But sigh....mother nature..so difficult to do that.

Hi concernmother, can understand your frustration. I wonder whether she is also like that when she was in Primary School. If the reply is yes, then she has yet to master how to discipline and manage her time or ability to execute her goal/plan skillfully. Perhaps you has to help her in these areas. Like what other parents suggest, limit her time/activity that distract or 'eat' up her study time. Motivate her by planning a schedule together. Maybe be around when she is doing her tasks. Remove all things that can distract her before she starts her school work. Share and talk about life experience and goal. If need help in improving grade, then engage tutor if self study cannot really help, this will give her confidence and help her to pay attention in her study.
For you, perhaps you can get some 'tips' by watching this Korea drama \"God of Study\". This drama can be a source of inspiration for certain type of students and parents as well.

[concernmother]

ammonite:

concernmother:

Thanks Cherrygal, mummy of three, ksi, kwcllf. Thanks for the advises. Got her tuition for some subjects. Hopefully she will buck up and catch up with her work. Funny thing is that, she has the intention to do well but her will-power is not strong enough. She will come home with the intention of doing so and so HW, revise so and so subjects. However, only half done at the end of the day. She knows she has to set a timetable and she knows well that she has to set a target.....but...

Maybe she needs more guidance in time management than tuition per se. You have to sit down with her to help her look through her weekly schedule, and you may even need to go through each subject with her to see which are the areas that she needs help with. It sounds to me like she is totally overwhelmed and lost and hence give up halfway ie she has the intention but not the roadmap. Jiayu!

I would love to sit down and guide her. But she never has time for me, that is, she will spend a lot of time doing her homework and leave no time for me....
sigh.....

[concernmother]

Thank you all for your advises. I guess i have to spend more time on her in this area. However, she is very stubborn and always think she is right. so this can be tough. I guess i spoon feed her a lot in Primary School. I was the one who reminded her to do tuition HW, study ting xie…when she was in Pri School. So I guess this is the consequences…

[Funz]

concernmother:

Thank you all for your advises. I guess i have to spend more time on her in this area. However, she is very stubborn and always think she is right. so this can be tough. I guess i spoon feed her a lot in Primary School. I was the one who reminded her to do tuition HW, study ting xie....when she was in Pri School. So I guess this is the consequences....

Yes, we parents gotta learn to let go earlier in order for our kids to be more independant.

This year, I told DD who is in P3 that I will not be reminding her about her spelling, tingxie and homework. She will have to track them herself and maintain her grades. If she forgets about them and does badly, privileges will be withdrawn. She is still trying to get the hang of it and I am still trying to stop myself from reminding her.