Asia spending billions on tutors: study
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From what I am reading here, it sounds like the stress is mainly in the PSLE preparation years of P5, P6, and that is understandable, and perhaps it is when tuitions are required to propel the kids' grades if they are not already making the mark.
It also sounds to me that with the growth of tuition services, parents should also bear in mind to be on the alert and do not be made victims of their own fear and anxiety. With the discussion on the case of CHC recently, I draw the conclusion of the vulnerability of Man, of fear of the unknown (in this case, the future of their children), of the need to grasp onto anything that will keep them hanging on during their weakest moments, and most pressurized moments.
Tuition services, are, ultimately, NOT MOE. They are BUSINESSES. One only have oneself to look at in terms of the decision that one takes to depart from one's hard-earned money.
Education to most parents, should be child-centred (correct me if you think otherwise), and we as parents, expect MOE to be child-centred too. Yet, before we go enrolling our pre-school children into tuition lessons (and I mean only tuitions, not enrichments), are we really being child-centred, or are we actually being parent-centred in our decision?
It is not easy to draw the line, because we most likely want to believe that what we are doing is for the best for our kids and not for ourselves. To that, I have no answer, for I'd think is one of the greatest challenges of being a parent. -
janet_lee88:
I have not made any personal attacks on anyone...purely voicing my view on why billions are spent on tutors. To have my views 'rubbished' is utterly unfair.
to say that parents are kiasu because MOE made them so is utterly nonsense, if you don't like the word rubbish
parents are kiasu because they choose to be, for 10001 reasons
if you can accept your child's grades, why go for tuition?
if you can accept your child being posted to any sec school, why must aim for certain school ?
if you can accept your child doing whatever he likes as a vocation or profession by whatever grades he could get in, why so hung up about grades and schools ?
you are afraid to lose out not because of MOE made you to be.
you need to reflect why you blame MOE and school for everything your child not performing to your expectation or your ideals
this is not a personal attack
just probing and rude questions that you may sit up and think, not to react -
Laura02:
Nevertherless, her parents were smiling when I teased her about reading story books in these precious weeks running up to the PSLE. My cousin's kid is in ACS, also not doing well academically. But his parents proudly point to his interest in cooking and baking. Are they the exceptions that prove the rule?
Not all parents believe in tuition. My doctor told me her kids never had tuition as she coaches them herself. If my child is a strong reader, that is better than doing any assessment book. I am getting my son to read the ST everyday...very late but better than never. -
Laura02:
Nevertherless, her parents were smiling when I teased her about reading story books in these precious weeks running up to the PSLE. My cousin's kid is in ACS, also not doing well academically. But his parents proudly point to his interest in cooking and baking. Are they the exceptions that prove the rule?
Perhaps they are more child-centred, focusing on their children's strengths, seeing them as they are and not seeing their academic performance to be who they are/will be. -
verykiasu2010:
yes you are right...the questions are very rude indeed.janet_lee88:
I have not made any personal attacks on anyone...purely voicing my view on why billions are spent on tutors. To have my views 'rubbished' is utterly unfair.
to say that parents are kiasu because MOE made them so is utterly nonsense, if you don't like the word rubbish
just probing and rude questions that you may sit up and think, not to react
since my child is failing maths, do i as a parent sit back and do nothing? will you do that? -
Funz:
This may help BUT...Off the cuff thoughts. Possible or not, dunno.
Full day school. Schools to take on non-academic subjects as part of their curriculum. Music, sport, community service, cultural studies, singapore history, home ec, money sense, grooming, etiquette, etc.
I have an impression that there are complaints from parents about supplementary classes from school being a waste of time, wouldn't this make it even worse?...Funz:
This will only make those who are kiasu even more kiasu. P1 and P2 will no longer be honeymoon period. JMO.Results for posting to secondary school be based on Pr 4,5,6 results rather than 1 single big exam.
It's the same as replacing SA1 and SA2 for P1 and P2 with holistic assessments. There are parents who are simply freaked out by the holistic assessment because they now have to watch their children's every single test like a hawk. Again, this is based on what I have gathered from the forum so far. -
Laura02:
I met my family's doctor's kids at the library last Sunday. Their oldest child is taking the PSLE this year. But the child's hands were full of story books that she intended to read over the next 3 weeks. I know that the child is not academically strong. Nevertherless, her parents were smiling when I teased her about reading story books in these precious weeks running up to the PSLE. My cousin's kid is in ACS, also not doing well academically. But his parents proudly point to his interest in cooking and baking. Are they the exceptions that prove the rule?
After reading this , it really felt like a fresh breath of air.
A break from the usual anxious-faced parents we see when talking about their PSLE kids.
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janet_lee88:
yes you are right...the questions are very rude indeed.verykiasu2010:
[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]I have not made any personal attacks on anyone...purely voicing my view on why billions are spent on tutors. To have my views 'rubbished' is utterly unfair.
to say that parents are kiasu because MOE made them so is utterly nonsense, if you don't like the word rubbish
just probing and rude questions that you may sit up and think, not to react
since my child is failing maths, do i as a parent sit back and do nothing? will you do that?[/quote]I will get the best tutors I can afford and I won't blame MOE making me kiasu -
jtoh:
I don't feel it is over-regulating when cigarettes manufacturers are required by LAW to WARN users of the potential adverse effects of smoking to their potential customer.
Tuition centres are a different story altogether. But they're private businesses and we can't regulate how they advertise can we? Perhaps we can but I don't believe in over-regulating.
The same principle applies. -
limlim:
alamak, you are pushing your drug here liao
I don't feel it is over-regulating when cigarettes manufacturers are required by LAW to WARN users of the potential adverse effects of smoking to their potential customer.jtoh:
Tuition centres are a different story altogether. But they're private businesses and we can't regulate how they advertise can we? Perhaps we can but I don't believe in over-regulating.
The same principle applies.
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