P1 DS copied and lied

[HAPPYH]

I believe in scolding/use hands to smack too if my DD is wrong in doing certain things. I am not saying that caning is wrong. But I dont use cane as I am a bad-tempered person at times and I worry I may hit very hard.


Yes, I agree with you that scolding or caning does not mean we kill the interest of the child. We as the parents are always trying our best to teach the good values.

Btw, my DD copied the answers in P2 and I scolded her, threw away the book, etc…I stapled the answers then. Nevertheless, she did it again. I just threaten her that I will inform her form teacher. Of course, I also talked with her and clarified that mummy dont expect her to get all correct all the times. She is very scared and then stopped doing that (I hope so).

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mummyscopio:

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Btw life is full of temptations... In my context, having the answer keys left in the books doesn't make it right for him to copy... And hence faultless and not to be punished...
In life there will be more and bigger temptations... It doesn't mean that he is right to commit it and not be judged or punished....

It he is wrong he is wrong.... We will not educate him to blame others and say things like 'look... Its not my problem.. Someone left the temptations behind to tempt me'

That wasn't my point. He was wrong. I was questioning the mixed messages you are giving him and your choice of resorting to physical punishment of a young child.

BTW, I've put up a poll on the use of caning, please feel free to vote and contribute your views there.

[mummyscopio]

HAPPYH:

I believe in scolding/use hands to smack too if my DD is wrong in doing certain things. I am not saying that caning is wrong. But I dont use cane as I am a bad-tempered person at times and I worry I may hit very hard.


Yes, I agree with you that scolding or caning does not mean we kill the interest of the child. We as the parents are always trying our best to teach the good values.

Btw, my DD copied the answers in P2 and I scolded her, threw away the book, etc....I stapled the answers then. Nevertheless, she did it again. I just threaten her that I will inform her form teacher. Of course, I also talked with her and clarified that mummy dont expect her to get all correct all the times. She is very scared and then stopped doing that (I hope so).

Hi happyh

Thank you... I agree with you on the controlling of strength thing... Its a tough thing


And all mommies...

Thanks for your help... Now I know its perfectly normal for most kids to do this once or twice... Will continue to talk and guide them thru this phrase...

[mummyscopio]

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mummyscopio:

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Btw life is full of temptations... In my context, having the answer keys left in the books doesn't make it right for him to copy... And hence faultless and not to be punished...
In life there will be more and bigger temptations... It doesn't mean that he is right to commit it and not be judged or punished....

It he is wrong he is wrong.... We will not educate him to blame others and say things like 'look... Its not my problem.. Someone left the temptations behind to tempt me'

That wasn't my point. He was wrong. I was questioning the mixed messages you are giving him and your choice of resorting to physical punishment of a young child.

BTW, I've put up a poll on the use of caning, please feel free to vote and contribute your views there.

There was no mixed message I sent to him... He was wrong... I punished...
I was just impressed by his ability to read the answer keys... That's all... Its a skill he displayed for a wrong act... But a skill..

[mummyscopio]

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mummyscopio:

XXXX


Btw life is full of temptations... In my context, having the answer keys left in the books doesn't make it right for him to copy... And hence faultless and not to be punished...
In life there will be more and bigger temptations... It doesn't mean that he is right to commit it and not be judged or punished....

It he is wrong he is wrong.... We will not educate him to blame others and say things like 'look... Its not my problem.. Someone left the temptations behind to tempt me'

That wasn't my point. He was wrong. I was questioning the mixed messages you are giving him and your choice of resorting to physical punishment of a young child.

BTW, I've put up a poll on the use of caning, please feel free to vote and contribute your views there.

There was no mixed message I sent to him... He was wrong... I punished...
I was just impressed by his ability to read the answer keys... That's all... Its a skill he displayed for a wrong act... But a skill..

[mummyscopio]

HAPPYH:

I believe in scolding/use hands to smack too if my DD is wrong in doing certain things. I am not saying that caning is wrong. But I dont use cane as I am a bad-tempered person at times and I worry I may hit very hard.


Yes, I agree with you that scolding or caning does not mean we kill the interest of the child. We as the parents are always trying our best to teach the good values.

Btw, my DD copied the answers in P2 and I scolded her, threw away the book, etc....I stapled the answers then. Nevertheless, she did it again. I just threaten her that I will inform her form teacher. Of course, I also talked with her and clarified that mummy dont expect her to get all correct all the times. She is very scared and then stopped doing that (I hope so).

Hi happyh

Thank you... I agree with you on the controlling of strength thing... Its a tough thing


And all mommies...

Thanks for your help... Now I know its perfectly normal for most kids to do this once or twice... Will continue to talk and guide them thru this phrase...

[tutormum]

Don't :pokeeye: :torchme: Ever since DS3 was in P1, I let him mark his own work. He would do his work and check if he's correct. If he got it wrong, he would check with me and do his corrections. He did that till he was in P6. He doesn't do any assessments for sec sch. Anyway, he had very few assessment books - about 1 for each subject every year until he felt that he didn't need to do any. If I don't remember wrongly, he only had a Maths assessment book for P6 and didn't even complete it. Doing assessments may be a chore to some and if it's too easy, the child will be bored. Of course, if the child is weak in the subject, then have to do lor, no choice. What I mean is, assessment books should not be all and end all.

As for caning, I seldom use physical punishment. Unless it's a major 'crime' I usually reason with my children. Welding the cane is enough to scare the devil out of them. :rotflmao: Yes, I agree that sparing the rod will spoil the child yet, I have seen parents screaming and caning their children but still no improvement in behaviour lei. :scratchhead:

[HAPPYH]

whitecorp:

mummyscopio:

hahaha..... but the problem is.... I am an ex-teacher and now a tutor ....


seems funny if i need to spend money to engage ppl to do my job... :rotflmao:

Heard of the saying where a doctor can heal everyone but his own family members?

Sometimes you become too emotionally invested in your son's learning progress ( and correcting his less than desirable habits) that you might not do the most rational thing to help him.

Peace.

I think most of the parents want the best out of their children. If that does not happen, automatically we become emotional. That is true but it does not mean we can not teach our own kids. We have the responsibility to correct or teach them whenever necessary.