All About Autism
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Mummies !!!
My son finally ask "what is this "" few morE months he will be 3…
and my son no longer afraid of vaccumm cleaner when use… no crying.
Thank GOD -
ImMeeMee:
Blokus:
Mummies: His autism test is coming up, I'm nervy. What should I be expecting? My son's not very expressive and may say 'I don't know' as the easy way out even though he actually knows the answer. I'm worried the result may do injustice to what he knows & can do.
When we got our diagnosis on dd3 when she was 3 yo, we questioned quite a few things - the methodology, misdiagnosis, biasness, unfairness ... we didnt agree with the assessment itself, how the psychologist conducted the assessment, how she dealt with dd3 ...etc. maybe it was my dealing with the initial denial and the subsequent phases of why-me and what ifs. It took me some time to get through that stage and its emotional upheavals, while we were at the same time putting in programs to help dd3.
I dont mean to be a wet blanket here, cos mummies here have been very encouraging to put things into perspective on a positive note. but I'm just being candid here where if it doesnt turn out the way you want it to be, just be cognizant that it may still hit you hard emotionally. Maybe I am weaker emotionally, but I found that I needed some time to self-heal the same time while I dealt with dd3's issues.
Whatever the case, the bottom line is not to give up.
im the most weak here.. you are great IMEEMEE... you pix your share. you too a great artist, u draw so well... -
Blokus:
Actually I cried right in front of the psychologist as she was talking to us about dd3's diagnosis, cos I couldnt contain it. If crying is an expression of an emotion, its only natural to let flow your feelings.Immeemee: I'm rather weak emotionally too. Actually, I crashed when the dr suggested to put him up for autism test. Even though it wasn't the diagnosis, I felt that it was & i hit rock bottom. So I can understand what you are saying here. Im just bracing myself not to cry in front of the dr when the diagnosis is out even though i somehow know at the back of my mind. You mummies, are really awesome. I'm (still) reading your past posts & it has given me alot of strength & determination.
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helplessmum3:
I am no great artist ... those were humble drawings borne out of desperation to help my child ...
im the most weak here.. you are great IMEEMEE... you pix your share. you too a great artist, u draw so well...
good to know that your hard work has borne fruit ... jiayou! -
Mashy,
Your boy is now in P1? I recalled you mention he dun like to write. So how do you get him to do his homework? ESP Chinese, my boy now still can’t write nor copy at all. -
Recently I attended the PTC of my son’s cc. I feel that the teacher there like given up on him. They show me some of his work and told me "I am surprised he can do this". I was like come on la, how come u all treat him like stupid.
Lately he started to talk more and the teachers tell me "he actually understand and can reply to us". I realized the teachers all dun understand ASD. sigh. Confirm I dun want to delay my son to P1. I dun see how staying one yr in current cc will help him at all. -
nugget:
Yes, he's in P1. Need to sit next to him and make him do. For your boy, is it because he can't do or won't do? If can't do, then need to do kneading exercise, crunch newspapers, threading etc. Then do simple strokes first before progressing. If won't do, then gotta supervise closely. I gotta cane my boy very often to get him to do. I have seen how he could write beautifully and small characters so I know he can do it. He just won't do. Of course I also praised him profusely when he does his work. And lately I've been praising him for writing 'big boys' words (aka small) instead of big baby words. It's a challenge and I don't think he can do Chinese for psle. So will use my exemption letter in time to come.Mashy,
Your boy is now in P1? I recalled you mention he dun like to write. So how do you get him to do his homework? ESP Chinese, my boy now still can't write nor copy at all. -
nugget:
How old is he now? If in k1 maybe can consider changing school. My boy's nursery sch teachers had poor attitude towards him and thankfully I changed sch. His cc teachers altho had a hard time with him getting him to do his work, they weren't as negative. I sent him for OT for handwriting class too.Recently I attended the PTC of my son's cc. I feel that the teacher there like given up on him. They show me some of his work and told me \"I am surprised he can do this\". I was like come on la, how come u all treat him like stupid.
Lately he started to talk more and the teachers tell me \"he actually understand and can reply to us\". I realized the teachers all dun understand ASD. sigh. Confirm I dun want to delay my son to P1. I dun see how staying one yr in current cc will help him at all. -
ImMeeMee:
Actually I cried right in front of the psychologist as she was talking to us about dd3's diagnosis, cos I couldnt contain it. If crying is an expression of an emotion, its only natural to let flow your feelings.Blokus:
Immeemee: I'm rather weak emotionally too. Actually, I crashed when the dr suggested to put him up for autism test. Even though it wasn't the diagnosis, I felt that it was & i hit rock bottom. So I can understand what you are saying here. Im just bracing myself not to cry in front of the dr when the diagnosis is out even though i somehow know at the back of my mind. You mummies, are really awesome. I'm (still) reading your past posts & it has given me alot of strength & determination.
Haha, I didn't cry in front of th dr or the psychologist. The dr thought I was crying when she broke the news to me and passed me a tissue. However, I did cry in front of the medical social worker becoz my son didn't just have autism. He has another medical condition that required loads of money for the medication. So when I told her that he might have autism (at that time) on top of his medical condition, I broke down. -
Sigh, I had to answer some questions by the ST just now & I wanted to cry. It reminds me that my kid is on the spectrum. Though I know it but still a hard pill to swallow. I think I'll cry buckets during the diagnosis.
My son probably & maybe fortunately has only one area to work on & that's his social skills. Yet I find it the hardest to teach especially at home.
Any suggestions or tips to help work on this area?
Nugget:
How old is your boy? I remember mine wasn't interested in writing till about 4 years old. Even though he start off late, he can write legibly now at 5 (I won't say it's beautiful nor neat la but ok). I agree with mashy, the school environment is vital. I didn't do anything to push him to write (was afraid I might stress him & get phobia of writing). But because he's regular school requires him to write, he eventually picked it up. If need be, I suggest you pick up Spalding method on how to teach writing letters. It uses the clock as reference. It was right up my son's alley because he could read clocks!
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