Club SAHM

[janet88]

jedamum:

The cost of living in the future is too much for single income family to survive . And perhaps secretly I hope my grand kids can enjoy the lifestyle of dual income and my DIL can help lessen the burden of my boys.

I hope my daughter can get a good career and be financially independent.
As for my boy, I hope his future wife can help out with the cost of bringing up a family...everything will be very expensive, so if both work, burden will be lower.

[shawnlim88]

dear all,


well, we all know that Double income is definitely better than single income.
with a maid, she can take care of the household chores but she won’t be able to guide my kids ( DS + DD )

so a balance will have to made. As i am very luck to have known of a program 4 yrs ago and it is giving me handsome rewards after 4 years of participation.

as a chinese saying: ‘Enough to spend will be enough’. Hence my DW and i come to an agreement to cut down on year-end holidays ( maybe go to nearby countries ) and let my kids to have someone to coach them on their schoool work.

cheers
shawnlim
PM me if you wanna know how i did it in 4 years.

[buds]

Any of u SAHMs like Coach bags?


There's Groupon offer here at this link.
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:rotflmao:

[sleepy]

buds:

Any of u SAHMs like Coach bags?

Bought many from US, really cheap compared to local stores

[shawnlim88]

sleepy:

Bought many from US, really cheap compared to local stores

ya, with strong SGD,now is the best time to go tour US/EUROPE

enjoy

[FlozaEleezen]

I think it is not a good idea for give up your jobs. Because your children will spent most of the time at their school. So it is better for you to leave them with their grand parents.

[MummyThreeStreams]

FlozaEleezen:

I think it is not a good idea for give up your jobs. Because your children will spent most of the time at their school. So it is better for you to leave them with their grand parents.

It depends. My kids are still young so they don't spend so much time in school. When I was working, their grandparents woulds take care of them, but they can't really supervise their work. And grandparents' discipline is like no discipline. Of course, I know other grandparents who can tutor their grand kids etc., but we aren't in that situation!

But more importantly, coz my son spends so much time with me at home, he has lots of time to tell me about his day at school. So I learn so much about his friends at school. Very useful information!

Of course if you can have a part-time job that allows you to work while your kids are at school, and be there for them when they are dismissed, that's a fantastic option. But this is often not an option.

[sleepy]

MummyThreeStreams:

[When I was working, their grandparents woulds take care of them, but they can't really supervise their work. And grandparents' discipline is like no discipline.

True. And not every grandparent enjoys babysitting. My mum & mil both decline to babysit. It's too huge a commitment for them.

My mum helped out on an ad hoc basis. I asked her to look after my girls for an afternoon (till my hubby reached home) last week while I go massage and gathering with friends. She was so mad with my kids because they 讲不听.

My dd1 even forgot she had group tuition that evening & missed the first 30 minutes even though I reminded her before I left the house and reminded my hubby the day before. Once I stepped out of the house, everything went out of control :skeptical:

[jedamum]

My mil had decline to baby sit ds2 when he is younger. Now he is very easy to take care of and I can easily put them at their place if I need to ‘get away’ but only on condition that I still need to fetch both kids from school first and there are no chauffeuring to classes needed unless FIL is on leave and available to drive them around.

So it means that if I need time out for whole day on weekdays, Either FIL or husband need to take leave.

[sleepy]

jedamum:

My mil had decline to baby sit ds2 when he is younger. Now he is very easy to take care of and I can easily put them at their place if I need to 'get away' but only on condition that I still need to fetch both kids from school first and there are no chauffeuring to classes needed unless FIL is on leave and available to drive them around.

So it means that if I need time out for whole day on weekdays, Either FIL or husband need to take leave.

Noticed SAHMs' schedules are really tight.

I run my schedule around kids' timetable too. They're in different sessions so one of them will be at home each time. During CCA or tuition time, I will squeeze in between those slots for grocery shopping, prep meals & go gym.

Because they're in different sessions, it's close to impossible for me to take a few hours off in a stretch since I've to send & fetch multiple times a day. No one else can help. If I really can't make it, I will have to ask my mum to take taxi to send or fetch one way. School is 12 minutes drive away but by public transport needs transfer buses almost an hour.

So usually I must wait for school holidays or special celebrations like last Wednesday when they are both on half day to spare the time to meet friends or go down town. I don't like to go town on weekends, drown by massive crowds in trains & even just walking along Orchard road