称呼 / Addressing

[tree nymph]

kiasimom:

Wow, biaojiu at such a young age... :shock:

hehehehee... our bei fei very high one. i have a biao zhi nu 3 years older then me. she has to call me biao gu! next May, i will be promoted to yi-po too! felt so old suddenly... :roll:

[mrswongtuition]

My family believes in proper ‘cheng hu’. My aunts & uncles will freak if someone did not follow. But this is only on my mum’s side. My dad’s side all very ‘modern’ & are alright if do not follow the traditional ‘cheng hu’ as they don’t even speak Mandarin at all.


My hb & I believe firmly in following the proper ‘cheng hu’. My boy calls all my relatives by properly & even for his cousins (my cousins’ kids), he will call them by name, then ‘kor kor’ or ‘jie jie’.

Up to now, I still call my brother ‘Kor’ in public. Nothing wrong with that. Even for my cousins, I still call ‘Jie’ and ‘Kor’ or ‘Jie Fu’ and ‘Sao Sao’ when I see them. It’s the same over the phone.

It’s a chinese culture & tradition we should preserve. I have friends who do not follow this & they were heavily criticised by elders during CNY.

[kiasimom]

tree nymph:

kiasimom:

Wow, biaojiu at such a young age... :shock:

hehehehee... our bei fei very high one. i have a biao zhi nu 3 years older then me. she has to call me biao gu! next May, i will be promoted to yi-po too! felt so old suddenly... :roll:

Wow, you must come from a big family :idea:

[kiasimom]

mrswongtuition:

My family believes in proper 'cheng hu'. My aunts & uncles will freak if someone did not follow. But this is only on my mum's side. My dad's side all very 'modern' & are alright if do not follow the traditional 'cheng hu' as they don't even speak Mandarin at all.


My hb & I believe firmly in following the proper 'cheng hu'. My boy calls all my relatives by properly & even for his cousins (my cousins' kids), he will call them by name, then 'kor kor' or 'jie jie'.

Up to now, I still call my brother 'Kor' in public. Nothing wrong with that. Even for my cousins, I still call 'Jie' and 'Kor' or 'Jie Fu' and 'Sao Sao' when I see them. It's the same over the phone.

It's a chinese culture & tradition we should preserve. I have friends who do not follow this & they were heavily criticised by elders during CNY.

Yeah, great mind think alike :celebrate:

[schellen]

tree nymph:

by the way, my small boy will become a biao-jiu next May, at the grand old age of 20 mths! :lol:

My DD1 has an aunt who is just 6 mths older than her. :roll: It's sashimi's cousin so that should be her biaogu? :?

[kiasimom]

Hi schellen,


seems like you come from a big family too :celebrate:

[schellen]

kiasimom:

Hi schellen,


seems like you come from a big family too :celebrate:

My family in S'pore is actually small but those who are in China...I've lost track or don't even know about since my parents don't tell me about them. I only knew I have a nephew who's about 10+ years younger than me when he came here to study English.

At least, for my side, my elders are older so that helps me to differentiate and remember. For sashimi's family, it's too confusing and waaaay too big. I guess our DD1 was born in the same \"age group\" as a few of her aunts and uncles and I see that as \"following the footsteps\" of his generation and the one before him since he told me that he has an uncle who's only a few years older than him.

[jedamum]

kiasimom:

Hi schellen,


seems like you come from a big family too :celebrate:

most of my husband's aunt and uncles are younger than him cos his grandma married early and the grandma's siblings married late. one of his 'aunt' recently gave birth and so the kid which is the same generation (and is considered my ds1's 'uncle') as my husband, is 7yrs younger than my ds1.

[kiasimom]

Interesting.


The youngest member in my paternal family is my tangdi.

He is of the same age as my DD

[autumnbronze]

I only realized the importance of addressing aft I had my DS and esp when he started learning how to talk. Character education ie values, manners, respect etc.. became an important issue to me. Because I want him to imbibe these, I made an effort to find out the correct name to address my DH's brothers, uncles etc...


Surprisingly, my ILs aren't too perturbed abt this issue. In fact, DH's youngest brother insisted my DS not to address him correctly as it was ... yes you guessed it ... 'old fashioned'.

I put my foot down and told my DH and MIL that as his mother, I get to choose/educate how my DS should address family/relatives :lol:

This matter is now closed. My DH's youngest brother has no choice but to respond to him being addressed in the correct and respectful manner.