Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?

[MMM]

KSP:

Just a general question for everyone.


When do you stop caning your child?

:scratchhead: Maybe sec school??? That time they are bigger and taller than us man.... :faint:

[concern2]

KSP:

Just a general question for everyone.


When do you stop caning your child?

When they stop ducking and crying when you cane them? Ouch, heart pain.. :sad:

[Imami]

MMM:

KSP:

Just a general question for everyone.


When do you stop caning your child?

:scratchhead: Maybe sec school??? That time they are bigger and taller than us man.... :faint:

I havent even started using cane and hope to keep it that way. But I personally feel that cane/smacks should stop by 7/8 yrs old. Caning builds defiance in older children, I feel.

[Imami]

concern2:

KSP:

Just a general question for everyone.


When do you stop caning your child?

When they stop ducking and crying when you cane them? Ouch, heart pain.. :sad:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

As I always say, I don't cane. So I don't know how it is like - do your kids Siam when you cane? Asking in general, for anyone.

For my child, he never Siam. He very 老实 , stand there to receive his smacks. So one or two smacks is usually enough. These days, he seem to grow up a lot. I can't remember when is the last time I smack him....

[KSP]

Imami:

MMM:

[quote=\"KSP\"]Just a general question for everyone.


When do you stop caning your child?

:scratchhead: Maybe sec school??? That time they are bigger and taller than us man.... :faint:

I havent even started using cane and hope to keep it that way. But I personally feel that cane/smacks should stop by 7/8 yrs old. Caning builds defiance in older children, I feel.[/quote]from my experience when dd was before pri sch she will listen whenever i started scolding her so no need cane... but when come P1 that's when cane must come in but reduce gradually and my opionion is should stop by P5/6 .....

[keroppi]

We’ve no cane in the house so we don’t cane.

But I feel that caning/smacking should stop before upper Pri.

[singsongcity]

Now my son still small. Don’t know next time good to cane or explain and lecture him next time. He is now already starting to get on my nerves.

[Mawar]

Different folks different strokes.


We don’t have canes at home. But I have smacked my kids when they were under 4. I tried not to use corporal punishment but it didn’t work. I resorted to smacking. Negative reinforcement. That’s after reminding and warning. I made sure it was quick and painful. After a few painful episodes, I didn’t need to do it anymore. The kids got the message. And they knew mummy meant business. No means no, not maybe.

I personally feel that it’s easier to start off being strict. It’s like setting boundaries and expectations. Clear and consistent house rules. Even young toddlers know when they cross the line.

[joyceharper]

keroppi:

We've no cane in the house so we don't cane.

But I feel that caning/smacking should stop before upper Pri.

quite agree.

[emerald]

I seldom caned my dd when she was younger because I would cry when I see another person crying.

But there were times when I lost control, I caned only using my left hand (I'm right-handed) hoping that it won't hurt so much. Then I would try very hard to hold back my tears.

I related this to dd who is in upper sec now.
I think she realized how much I love her.