ST 23/8 Teacher cuts pupil's hair, mum files police report

[Imami]

Daddy

http://www.straitstimes.com:80/premium/singapore/story/parents-can-hinder-rules-haircuts-20120824


At least the interviewed Principals gave a more diplomatic response in today's report... [quote]For example, Ang Mo Kio Secondary sends text messages to parents reminding them their child should be \"properly groomed\" - which includes making sure that hair is neatly cut. \"The responsibility then falls on the parents,\" said principal Abdul Mannan....

Cannot say the same for the mum...[quote]
Madam Ong yesterday said the school's warning still did not give the teacher the right for such drastic action. \"My main concern is not the money; it never has been. The key problem is the teacher overstepping my authority.\"....[/quote][/quote]
Authority comes with responsibility. It is the parents' responsibility to ensure their young children are dressed appropriately for school. Hair included. No?

[Imami]

concern2:

ponyo:

I really shudder to think what kind of 小太保 we are raising up... It was reported that he did not want to step out of the house for 2 days. Was it really so bad?

My kids no problem one, I trained them since young - I used to cut their hair.

Me too! I cut my boy's hair - save $$ :evil: but seriously, I would give him a ear full if he is so gu niang! Common la, even the after hair cut picture is not that bad. What is the big deal.... Such that two days 不能见人？ more like 自知理亏 to me.

[sleepy]

I think teacher should not be bothered with that student. I thought over zealous teachers only happened in media corp dramas nowsaday?


If that boy is ‘tramatised’ having his hair cut against his will (I’m assuming he disagreed with the hair cut) before psle oral, he won’t perform well anyway. Who will get blamed? That teacher naturally.

But if teacher left that boy alone, his parents are unlikely to blame teacher for NOT cutting his hair, right? Let the boy face the ‘consequences’, if there’s any.

Actually, how much his hair style cost is totally irrelevant here. His parents seem to be missing the point

[Imami]

Daddy

Moderator also 不好当 nowadays...

Mata also 不好当 :rotflmao:

[Imami]

hquek:

If I'm the parent, I'll probably tell my kid off for not handing me the note. I didn't know dyslexic children are prone to forgetfulness...and when is this even an excuse?


I do hope that the teacher won't lose faith in the public teaching profession (though if I were her, I probably will want to quit the public sector).

One thing good that comes out of this. After this year, parents will be very aware about hair length prior to the big P exams.

If I am the teacher, I would be very upset. Especially if I have the best intention.

Whatever the prob - dyslexic, forgetfulness, whatever, hair length is not something that needs reminder. One would be reminded each time one sees the kid. No?

Apoalogies, I am very particular about how young children shd dress and behave for school. I am not saying the teacher is right/wrong. But to kick such a fuss simply because the child's hair was deemed too long is not acceptable to me.

[verykiasu2010]

mamago:

caroline3sg:

Only his mother & reporter know how long ago is the picture. Anyway, it is wrong of the teacher to cut his hair. Her apology showed that she was wrong.

Really? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Could it be she apologized because she is not ready to be a private tutor yet?

Could it be due to the mounting pressure from ppl with mentality like yours (and that waste taxpayers' $$ mother)?

more likely the case

[verykiasu2010]

Daddy

I think everyone conveniently side-stepped on what they would do if they were in the teacher's shoes.


Warning letter sent Liao... Teacher still need to follow up with email/SMS/call to parents on permission for next step of action... No wonder no time to teach.

Who got higher authority? Teacher or Parent?

If 校规 can break... Next time no need 国法 lor?

very rare indeed ! I mean, I agree with you !

[verykiasu2010]

ponyo:

I really shudder to think what kind of 小太保 we are raising up. There are many issues here from this incident:

- by bypassing the school, the mother is showing to the kid that it is ok to undermine the school's authority
- by highlighting the $60 haircuts, is she trying to flaunt her wealth? \"eh, $60 haircut, how dare you even mess with it?\" What will the son think? that have money will call the shots?
- the kid has no resilience /no self reflection whatsoever. He cried and complained to his mum after his hair got cut. Did he even stop to think if he had committed something wrong to cause such a strong reaction from his teacher? Furthermore, it was just a hair cut, not like he lost an arm or a limb or permanently scarred. It was reported that he did not want to step out of the house for 2 days. Was it really so bad? The mum, if she had any sense, should have told him that life still goes on.
- that the mum thinks that the police is at the beck and call of any complaints. I feel that, as in any prank calls made to the police, trivial complaints should be penalised.

As I always tell my kids when they complain of a bad hairdo, \"It's only hair! For crying out loud. It will grow back unless, well, you're dead and you're not dead are you? Stop moping and move on.\" And learn to respect rules. And even if you are wronged, learn to forgive.

Parents, stop mollycoddling your kids. Otherwise, they can't grow up to be responsible and resilient adults.

:goodpost:

[verykiasu2010]

MMM:

ponyo:

I really shudder to think what kind of 小太保 we are raising up. There are many issues here from this incident:

- by bypassing the school, the mother is showing to the kid that it is ok to undermine the school's authority
- by highlighting the $60 haircuts, is she trying to flaunt her wealth? \"eh, $60 haircut, how dare you even mess with it?\" What will the son think? that have money will call the shots?
- the kid has no resilience /no self reflection whatsoever. He cried and complained to his mum after his hair got cut. Did he even stop to think if he had committed something wrong to cause such a strong reaction from his teacher? Furthermore, it was just a hair cut, not like he lost an arm or a limb or permanently scarred. It was reported that he did not want to step out of the house for 2 days. Was it really so bad? The mum, if she had any sense, should have told him that life still goes on.
- that the mum thinks that the police is at the beck and call of any complaints. I feel that, as in any prank calls made to the police, trivial complaints should be penalised.

As I always tell my kids when they complain of a bad hairdo, \"It's only hair! For crying out loud. It will grow back unless, well, you're dead and you're not dead are you? Stop moping and move on.\" And learn to respect rules. And even if you are wronged, learn to forgive.

Parents, stop mollycoddling your kids. Otherwise, they can't grow up to be responsible and resilient adults.

:goodpost:

If that is my ds and he dare to cry and complain to me the wrong thing he did and got punished for, I would tell him....Serve you right and he better self reflect. In addition to that, he will probably get worse scolding from dh for getting into a situation like that... doing the wrong thing.

This best describes my feeling towards this news :

养不教，父之过。
教不严，师之惰。
子不学，非所宜。
幼不学，老何为。

if my kids were to complain being punished for breaking rules, I would whack them myself first. anything else talk later

thankfully never have to do that, and hope to keep it that way forever

[Daddy D]

From the same report today...
[quote]For boys, hair at the back of the head and around the ears should be sloped, and fringes must not touch eyebrows when combed down. Sideburns, moustaches and beards are banned, as is dyed or highlighted hair.[/quote]I dunno which picture some parents are looking at... But the one I saw definitely not pass lor...