ST 23/8 Teacher cuts pupil's hair, mum files police report
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Daddy
Moderator also 不好当 nowadays...
Mata also 不好当 :rotflmao: -
hquek:
If I am the teacher, I would be very upset. Especially if I have the best intention.If I'm the parent, I'll probably tell my kid off for not handing me the note. I didn't know dyslexic children are prone to forgetfulness...and when is this even an excuse?
I do hope that the teacher won't lose faith in the public teaching profession (though if I were her, I probably will want to quit the public sector).
One thing good that comes out of this. After this year, parents will be very aware about hair length prior to the big P exams.
Whatever the prob - dyslexic, forgetfulness, whatever, hair length is not something that needs reminder. One would be reminded each time one sees the kid. No?
Apoalogies, I am very particular about how young children shd dress and behave for school. I am not saying the teacher is right/wrong. But to kick such a fuss simply because the child's hair was deemed too long is not acceptable to me. -
mamago:
more likely the casecaroline3sg:
Only his mother & reporter know how long ago is the picture. Anyway, it is wrong of the teacher to cut his hair. Her apology showed that she was wrong.
Really? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Could it be she apologized because she is not ready to be a private tutor yet?
Could it be due to the mounting pressure from ppl with mentality like yours (and that waste taxpayers' $$ mother)? -
Daddy
very rare indeed ! I mean, I agree with you !I think everyone conveniently side-stepped on what they would do if they were in the teacher's shoes.
Warning letter sent Liao... Teacher still need to follow up with email/SMS/call to parents on permission for next step of action... No wonder no time to teach.
Who got higher authority? Teacher or Parent?
If 校规 can break... Next time no need 国法 lor? -
ponyo:
:goodpost:I really shudder to think what kind of 小太保 we are raising up. There are many issues here from this incident:
- by bypassing the school, the mother is showing to the kid that it is ok to undermine the school's authority
- by highlighting the $60 haircuts, is she trying to flaunt her wealth? \"eh, $60 haircut, how dare you even mess with it?\" What will the son think? that have money will call the shots?
- the kid has no resilience /no self reflection whatsoever. He cried and complained to his mum after his hair got cut. Did he even stop to think if he had committed something wrong to cause such a strong reaction from his teacher? Furthermore, it was just a hair cut, not like he lost an arm or a limb or permanently scarred. It was reported that he did not want to step out of the house for 2 days. Was it really so bad? The mum, if she had any sense, should have told him that life still goes on.
- that the mum thinks that the police is at the beck and call of any complaints. I feel that, as in any prank calls made to the police, trivial complaints should be penalised.
As I always tell my kids when they complain of a bad hairdo, \"It's only hair! For crying out loud. It will grow back unless, well, you're dead and you're not dead are you? Stop moping and move on.\" And learn to respect rules. And even if you are wronged, learn to forgive.
Parents, stop mollycoddling your kids. Otherwise, they can't grow up to be responsible and resilient adults. -
MMM:
if my kids were to complain being punished for breaking rules, I would whack them myself first. anything else talk later
:goodpost:ponyo:
I really shudder to think what kind of 小太保 we are raising up. There are many issues here from this incident:
- by bypassing the school, the mother is showing to the kid that it is ok to undermine the school's authority
- by highlighting the $60 haircuts, is she trying to flaunt her wealth? \"eh, $60 haircut, how dare you even mess with it?\" What will the son think? that have money will call the shots?
- the kid has no resilience /no self reflection whatsoever. He cried and complained to his mum after his hair got cut. Did he even stop to think if he had committed something wrong to cause such a strong reaction from his teacher? Furthermore, it was just a hair cut, not like he lost an arm or a limb or permanently scarred. It was reported that he did not want to step out of the house for 2 days. Was it really so bad? The mum, if she had any sense, should have told him that life still goes on.
- that the mum thinks that the police is at the beck and call of any complaints. I feel that, as in any prank calls made to the police, trivial complaints should be penalised.
As I always tell my kids when they complain of a bad hairdo, \"It's only hair! For crying out loud. It will grow back unless, well, you're dead and you're not dead are you? Stop moping and move on.\" And learn to respect rules. And even if you are wronged, learn to forgive.
Parents, stop mollycoddling your kids. Otherwise, they can't grow up to be responsible and resilient adults.
If that is my ds and he dare to cry and complain to me the wrong thing he did and got punished for, I would tell him....Serve you right and he better self reflect. In addition to that, he will probably get worse scolding from dh for getting into a situation like that... doing the wrong thing.
This best describes my feeling towards this news :
养不教，父之过。
教不严，师之惰。
子不学，非所宜。
幼不学，老何为。
thankfully never have to do that, and hope to keep it that way forever -
From the same report today...
[quote]For boys, hair at the back of the head and around the ears should be sloped, and fringes must not touch eyebrows when combed down. Sideburns, moustaches and beards are banned, as is dyed or highlighted hair.[/quote]I dunno which picture some parents are looking at... But the one I saw definitely not pass lor... -
superksmum:
actually the teachers were saving the kids from being penalised at PSLE Oral - topic of discussion was school rules. If the kids go in with evidence of flouting the school rules and still non-chalant and defiant, probably they don't even know how to discuss the topics and sure to flop. Perhaps the teachers were hinting to the kids going in for the oral -- the topic is school rules......don't break it !!Personally, I would agreed that it is not right for the teacher to trim the boy's hair, especially before the PSLE oral. Of course, if such senario happened I would be extremely angry with the teacher. However, I found it exaggerating for the mother to report it to the police, as it is not a criminal offence.
In my child's school, the fringe of a girl was also trimmed by the teacher minutes before PSLE oral. Althought, she was upset but she was graceful enough to admit that it is her fault and that she has learnt a lesson.
Shouldn't we uphold our image no matter where we are. I always remind my kids that others will observe how you behave when we are out. It reflect how the parents impart their value and believes to the kids.
It is always our duty, as a parent to guide and check on our child. I would never leave a chance for it to happen to my kids. I will always ask them to reflect on the themselves before pointing fingers at others. We will not be with them forever, they have to learn to grow up.
okay okay just my conspiracy theory with benefit of hindsight -
mamago:
mama go, you need to go reflect with your san for this, else another haircutChiefKiasu:
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Initially when dd’s school implemented the new fringe up rule for the girls, many of them were unhappy. The school was very persistance and P personally conducted many checks. Slowly, dd even appreciated this new rule that during weekend, she would also fringe up. She has get used to it and find uncomfortable with fringe down.
Before the rules, you can see funny fringe style eg. the curry puff fringe and some are quite ah lian look, esp among the senior high girls. This fringe up make every girls look neater and fresh.
If it is not something unreasonable and for the good of the kids, why not?
Of course sometimes these teens are rebellion, so parents have to explain to them and make them understand mah and not encourage to go against the school rules…
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