Providing For Parents in Singapore: Can We Give Enough?

[concern2]

sleepy:

Lilac66:

But for SAHMs, do you still give any allowance to your parents?

Yes I do.
My parents said only sons need to provide. Furthermore, I'm not working.
I disagreed. Must give la, token sum also better than nothing. I feel guilty if never contribute.

However, my brother provides the biggest chunk. I'm glad he can afford and even more grateful that he is willing to provide.
I'm a small contributor compared to him but a bigger contributor than my youngest brother

Yes, one of the ways in working things out within the family is 有钱出钱，有力出力。 SAHM has more flexible timing, so can bring parents to hospital, visit them more regularly with kids and bringing them kai kai, - keeping them happy and enjoy 天伦之乐。Believe it or not, these are intangible things that helps keep them in good health and spirits too.

[Lilac66]

concern2:

sleepy:

[quote=\"Lilac66\"]
But for SAHMs, do you still give any allowance to your parents?

Yes I do.
My parents said only sons need to provide. Furthermore, I'm not working.
I disagreed. Must give la, token sum also better than nothing. I feel guilty if never contribute.

However, my brother provides the biggest chunk. I'm glad he can afford and even more grateful that he is willing to provide.
I'm a small contributor compared to him but a bigger contributor than my youngest brother

Yes, one of the ways in working things out within the family is 有钱出钱，有力出力。 SAHM has more flexible timing, so can bring parents to hospital, visit them more regularly with kids and bringing them kai kai, - keeping them happy and enjoy 天伦之乐。Believe it or not, these are intangible things that helps keep them in good health and spirits too.[/quote] :hi5:

[Funz]

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.


These will be some of the norms that I wish to pass on to my kids. Especially the once a week dinners. As for the allowance for parents, I will assume that it will be within their means. Of course if they are having financial difficulties, they have to take care of their own family first and stop giving us that allowance. And we as parents will definitely be happy to extend any help if they really need them.

[concern2]

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.


These will be some of the norms that I wish to pass on to my kids. Especially the once a week dinners. As for the allowance for parents, I will assume that it will be within their means. Of course if they are having financial difficulties, they have to take care of their own family first and stop giving us that allowance. And we as parents will definitely be happy to extend any help if they really need them.

These traditions are good to keep. Complication often arises when members choose different religion, or start thinking all these as old-fashioned. That is when values start to differ and the 'system' starts to experience hiccups. In such cases, the individual's character within the family is tested, and you start seeing some true colors showing. Good or bad, But it sure makes things less than ideal and less straight forward.

[concern2]

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.

[concern2]

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.

These traditions are good to keep. Complication often arises when members choose different religion, or start thinking all these as old-fashioned. That is when values start to differ and the 'system' starts to experience hiccups. In such cases, the individual's character within the family is tested, and you start seeing some true colors showing. Good or bad , but it sure makes things less than ideal and less straight forward.

[Funz]

concern2:

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.

These traditions are good to keep. Complication often arises when members choose different religion, or start thinking all these as old-fashioned. That is when values start to differ and the 'system' starts to experience hiccups. In such cases, the individual's character within the family is tested, and you start seeing some true colors showing. Good or bad , but it sure makes things less than ideal and less straight forward.

Yah, but for my family, so far, no major issues. Yes we have different religion but most still turn up for all these family gatherings. It is your presence that counts, not whether or not you hold that joss stick or participate in the prayers.