All About Autism
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Double E:
Practise and role play. Give him exact words to use and remember. Literally putting words into his mouth.Mummies
Recently my boy knows how to defend himself when his younger sister tries to snatch his toys. But he is doing it the wrong way, instead of verbalising, he pushes his sister.
Also, when other kids try to play with him or talk to him, he will smile and uses his hand to push them on the head. I think he is trying to respond to them but doesn't know how to do it.
He is 3.5 years old. When your kids are at this age, how do you teach him? Tried to teach him to verbalise but not sure how to go about doing it and he only do it when I prompt him. Otherwise, he will use Push communicate to his little friends and sister. -
Double E:
If your child is a visual learner, you may like to consider using picture stories to teach the appropriate social behavior. I have been trying out some picture stories on appropriate social behavior with my daughter and she is beginning to pick up simple social cues although some prompting is still required.Mummies
Recently my boy knows how to defend himself when his younger sister tries to snatch his toys. But he is doing it the wrong way, instead of verbalising, he pushes his sister.
Also, when other kids try to play with him or talk to him, he will smile and uses his hand to push them on the head. I think he is trying to respond to them but doesn't know how to do it.
He is 3.5 years old. When your kids are at this age, how do you teach him? Tried to teach him to verbalise but not sure how to go about doing it and he only do it when I prompt him. Otherwise, he will use Push communicate to his little friends and sister.
There is a social skills picture book by Jed Baker that has been recommended by one of the mummies here with a lot of picture stories on social behavior - taking turns, handling rejection, initiating play etc. It is a good reference as it shows the right and the wrong ways. The book is available in NLB. As some of the text is too difficult for my daughter, I use that as a reference to learn how to make my own picture stories using my two elder gals as 'models' and taking photos of them in the right way and the wrong way, then put them into a powerpoint format and add my own speech and thinking bubbles with simple sentences. Print them out and they become good teaching materials.
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Met a therapist today and she recommended me a book. I thought I share here http://www.socialthinking.com/books-products/books-by-age-group?page=shop.product_details&flypage=flypage.tpl&product_id=317&category_id=53
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Hi Blokus
Yes, my boy is in mainstream K2 (Montessori) now. But his teacher always has to pull him aside for 1-1 coaching in the afternoon as he does not focus during group teaching. This is feasible as Monte curriculum has 1-1 coaching, but not in mainstream P1.
Does anyone has good recommendation for Social Communication / Skills Group? So far, I have called The Children’s Therapy Place, Learning Planet and Wee Care.
I read somewhere in this forum that it is good to meet up the Principal before school starts. I spoke to the Admin who conveyed my request for audience to the P. Instead, the VP asked her to direct me to the AED, who would call me. Hmmm…I don’t have a very good feel about the support of this school. -
I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
Fizz:
Oh, what are he's symptoms may I ask? I mean like is he able to follow instructions & follow group instructions etc?Hi Blokus
Yes, my boy is in mainstream K2 (Montessori) now. But his teacher always has to pull him aside for 1-1 coaching in the afternoon as he does not focus during group teaching. This is feasible as Monte curriculum has 1-1 coaching, but not in mainstream P1.
Does anyone has good recommendation for Social Communication / Skills Group? So far, I have called The Children's Therapy Place, Learning Planet and Wee Care.
I read somewhere in this forum that it is good to meet up the Principal before school starts. I spoke to the Admin who conveyed my request for audience to the P. Instead, the VP asked her to direct me to the AED, who would call me. Hmmm...I don't have a very good feel about the support of this school.
Hmm, maybe you can write to the P? Or perhaps the P feel that the best person who can help you is the AED?
I'll be going for a trial for the social group at wee care, I'll let you know how it is. -
ImMeeMee:
Indeed, that's why I go easy with my NT girl, as long as her development milestones are met, I let her be and do things she likes like coloring, scribbling. The time spent coaching my boy is frustrating enough.I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
Fizz:
Hi Blokus
Yes, my boy is in mainstream K2 (Montessori) now. But his teacher always has to pull him aside for 1-1 coaching in the afternoon as he does not focus during group teaching. This is feasible as Monte curriculum has 1-1 coaching, but not in mainstream P1.
Does anyone has good recommendation for Social Communication / Skills Group? So far, I have called The Children's Therapy Place, Learning Planet and Wee Care.
I read somewhere in this forum that it is good to meet up the Principal before school starts. I spoke to the Admin who conveyed my request for audience to the P. Instead, the VP asked her to direct me to the AED, who would call me. Hmmm...I don't have a very good feel about the support of this school.
What's the point of mtg the principal? They are right, u should meet the AED instead. We met the AED and form teacher. They are the more important pp. The principal is not involved in any of the future interaction. Now that MOE has openly stated that special needs kids will be catered for, they can't reject them either. Perhaps when they are assigning teachers and classes, u can let them know so that your child can be assigned to a special needs trained teacher.
My boy never paid attention in kindy too. He walked around all the time. He didn't have the benefit of 1-1 in kindy. Now he is in p1, he is able to cope. Sometimes he doesn't pay attn,but so far so good. -
Double E:
You can't have a starker contrast than between my 2 girls. My ASD girl has a lot of the usual issues - social, co-ordination, focus, organisational etc - which has taken a lot of my time and effort, and still does even though things have improved a lot now that she is 15yo. My younger NT girl is very social, above average in a lot of non-academic skills (music, sports, art, life skills), and very strong academically, all with hardly any pushing or coaching. I often feel like I have a split personality dealing with such different kids.
Indeed, that's why I go easy with my NT girl, as long as her development milestones are met, I let her be and do things she likes like coloring, scribbling. The time spent coaching my boy is frustrating enough.ImMeeMee:
I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
ImMeeMee:
But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
I feel the same way when some mothers go on extolling how clever and how well behaved their children are BECAUSE of their way of bringing up kids or BECAUSE of their special methods of teaching (DISCLAIMER - I am NOT talking about anyone here in particular.) You can flash a thousand flashcards at a child with vision issues and it won't work. You can choose your school ever so carefully but there is only so much noise a child with sensitive hearing can take before exploding.
Some kids are \"easy\" and pliant and neurotypical. Others come out with iron will, SPD and all the Ds that just make them stick out... -
ImMeeMee:
I know. I read a mom crying over her son's imperfect eyesight & his need to wear spectacles.I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood.I wanted to tell her her problem really isn't a problem compared to what I'm facing & need to work on with my son.
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Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
Some of my friends’ kids did wonder why my boy doesn’t want to play with them. And I told them is not that he don’t want to but he doesn’t know how to, ask them to give him some time, he will improve. My friend also said that she will try to find a way to explain to her kids about my boy when they are older. My boy only plays catching with them, chasing each other. But he doesn’t know how to chase people, he only enjoys being chased. I think is because of his senses, that he likes the running sensation -
Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
ImMeeMee:
helplessmum, dont be so hard on yourself. Whatever has happened has happened. I'm sure you have read enough to know that there is currently still no known cause for ASD.helplessmum3:
Mummies ,
Do u know \"Baby plus\"?
I use this while I'm pregnant w my son. Maybe this cause him ASD
thanks, can't help it, this thought keep haunting me... -
slmkhoo:
Me too! When I see a kid throwing tantrum and rolling on the floor, I first ask myself if he's special needs and not due to bad parenting.Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
mashy:
Me too! When I see a kid throwing tantrum and rolling on the floor, I first ask myself if he's special needs and not due to bad parenting. :p[/quote]Hopefully when our kids grow up, the world will be different and fill with people who are patient and show empathy towards others. And the word \"Autism\" is no longer rare and people can accept others who are different from them. This is what I call a truly integrated society, the Singapore I want to see.slmkhoo:
[quote=\"Double E\"]Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
me too… i start to defends when pp complaint about weird persons.
Mummies.
school these days keep complaining my son during nap time he is very active, what should i do? i also duno why my son recently start to be very active?
books & cards & sequence pixs does not help my son. he don’t understand.
hiaz… parents w special kids always at losing end when teachers complaints… -
yes, having a special needs child has taught me a few important lessons in life:
- moderate my expectations of my NT gals. as long as they are healthy, happy and are kind, the rest of their achievements are bonuses.
- be more tolerant of other people who are seemingly different from myself. Give them the benefit of doubt.
Our special needs children are our teachers as much as we are their teachers.
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Yes, our special needs kids have thought us not to take things for granted, patience, true love
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helplessmum3:
Then the teachers just have to find activities for him to do! Some kids stop their naps earlier than others. It's their jobs to manage them. My boy also stopped napping very early.me too.. i start to defends when pp complaint about weird persons.
Mummies.
school these days keep complaining my son during nap time he is very active, what should i do? i also duno why my son recently start to be very active?
books & cards & sequence pixs does not help my son. he don't understand.
hiaz.. parents w special kids always at losing end when teachers complaints....
Sometimes u need to ignore these teachers. What can u do when u are not even there? Are u to solve their problems?