All About Autism
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ImMeeMee:
But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
I feel the same way when some mothers go on extolling how clever and how well behaved their children are BECAUSE of their way of bringing up kids or BECAUSE of their special methods of teaching (DISCLAIMER - I am NOT talking about anyone here in particular.) You can flash a thousand flashcards at a child with vision issues and it won't work. You can choose your school ever so carefully but there is only so much noise a child with sensitive hearing can take before exploding.
Some kids are \"easy\" and pliant and neurotypical. Others come out with iron will, SPD and all the Ds that just make them stick out... -
ImMeeMee:
I know. I read a mom crying over her son's imperfect eyesight & his need to wear spectacles.I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood.I wanted to tell her her problem really isn't a problem compared to what I'm facing & need to work on with my son.
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Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
Some of my friends’ kids did wonder why my boy doesn’t want to play with them. And I told them is not that he don’t want to but he doesn’t know how to, ask them to give him some time, he will improve. My friend also said that she will try to find a way to explain to her kids about my boy when they are older. My boy only plays catching with them, chasing each other. But he doesn’t know how to chase people, he only enjoys being chased. I think is because of his senses, that he likes the running sensation -
Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
ImMeeMee:
helplessmum, dont be so hard on yourself. Whatever has happened has happened. I'm sure you have read enough to know that there is currently still no known cause for ASD.helplessmum3:
Mummies ,
Do u know \"Baby plus\"?
I use this while I'm pregnant w my son. Maybe this cause him ASD
thanks, can't help it, this thought keep haunting me... -
slmkhoo:
Me too! When I see a kid throwing tantrum and rolling on the floor, I first ask myself if he's special needs and not due to bad parenting.Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
mashy:
Me too! When I see a kid throwing tantrum and rolling on the floor, I first ask myself if he's special needs and not due to bad parenting. :p[/quote]Hopefully when our kids grow up, the world will be different and fill with people who are patient and show empathy towards others. And the word \"Autism\" is no longer rare and people can accept others who are different from them. This is what I call a truly integrated society, the Singapore I want to see.slmkhoo:
[quote=\"Double E\"]Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
me too… i start to defends when pp complaint about weird persons.
Mummies.
school these days keep complaining my son during nap time he is very active, what should i do? i also duno why my son recently start to be very active?
books & cards & sequence pixs does not help my son. he don’t understand.
hiaz… parents w special kids always at losing end when teachers complaints… -
yes, having a special needs child has taught me a few important lessons in life:
- moderate my expectations of my NT gals. as long as they are healthy, happy and are kind, the rest of their achievements are bonuses.
- be more tolerant of other people who are seemingly different from myself. Give them the benefit of doubt.
Our special needs children are our teachers as much as we are their teachers.
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Yes, our special needs kids have thought us not to take things for granted, patience, true love