All About Autism

[helplessmum3]

verykiasumummy:

i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?


helplessmum3, how old is your son?

He jus about to 3

[mashy]

Karkar:

ImMeeMee and Mashy, thanks for the tips. maybe from very young, we didnt' allow him to suck on his fingers much, he didnt have a habit of putting everything into his mouth. now i think we have overdone. that's the sensory sensitive period that we missed.


I tried putting honey/sweet stuff on the straw. whenever it's put in front of him, not even close to his mouth, he turns his head away and refuses to let it get close without a cry. I dont want to force him as he will only remember drinking water is bad. inlaws used to feed him water spoon by spoon, now hes able to drink from a cup with us holding the cup of course, else he would turn the cup upside down like every ohter bottle with opening.

If he can use the cup, just skip the straw! Concentrate instead with him holding the cup. Of course the first few (or many) times, he will spill but eventually he will get it. My gal also pours her water everywhere for fun. Eventually she learnt to hold a cup with her hands and drink properly.

If u force, he won't want. But if u say cannot drink, he will want to drink. Lol. Like learning to feed themselves, u need to let go. Let it be messy. Of course it will be messy. He will drench himself. Once u get over that messy stage, all will be well.

My 3 yr old can feed herself better than my 6 yr old. Coz during my boy's time, we kept feeding him. My hb said it won't be long before we won't be able to feed him. And guess what, we still have to feed him sometimes. So for my younger gal, I let her feed herself from very young. Now she's able to use her fork to eat noodles properly and spoon to drink soup and eat rice. My son still uses his hands to eat. Sigh. Ok, maybe it's because of his condition. But I think it's also becoz we didn't let him feed himself when he was young.

[Fizz]

Verykiasumummy, ImMeeMee


Thanks for your encouragement! We move forward, yah!

Mashy

Thanks for your info! KKH Rehab will be an alternative. I don’t understand the reason that KKH, being a restructured hospital for children, is recommending so many kids to private. I thought that at least these kids should be referred to IMH if they are aged 7 and over.

[Fizz]

helplessmum3:

verykiasumummy:

i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?


helplessmum3, how old is your son?

He jus about to 3

Helplessmum3

My boy does not like to nap in school too. But because he is already in K2, I am not concerned. For a 3 yr boy, it may work if you let him bring something familiar to hug to sleep. Waking him up earlier may work too as it gets him tired earlier and he may just KO by nap time.

If the teachers are willing, they may try to put him alone (accompanied by one teacher, of course) in a separate room with a dim light. Some kids find it difficult to sleep with so many kids together as they are distracted while some find it scary in a dark room. As they grow, they needs and fears change and we just trial and error.

[helplessmum3]

this kid so talented at rainbow center.... see his batik works.wow!

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[Fizz]

mashy:

Karkar:

ImMeeMee and Mashy, thanks for the tips. maybe from very young, we didnt' allow him to suck on his fingers much, he didnt have a habit of putting everything into his mouth. now i think we have overdone. that's the sensory sensitive period that we missed.


I tried putting honey/sweet stuff on the straw. whenever it's put in front of him, not even close to his mouth, he turns his head away and refuses to let it get close without a cry. I dont want to force him as he will only remember drinking water is bad. inlaws used to feed him water spoon by spoon, now hes able to drink from a cup with us holding the cup of course, else he would turn the cup upside down like every ohter bottle with opening.

If he can use the cup, just skip the straw! Concentrate instead with him holding the cup. Of course the first few (or many) times, he will spill but eventually he will get it. My gal also pours her water everywhere for fun. Eventually she learnt to hold a cup with her hands and drink properly.

If u force, he won't want. But if u say cannot drink, he will want to drink. Lol. Like learning to feed themselves, u need to let go. Let it be messy. Of course it will be messy. He will drench himself. Once u get over that messy stage, all will be well.

My 3 yr old can feed herself better than my 6 yr old. Coz during my boy's time, we kept feeding him. My hb said it won't be long before we won't be able to feed him. And guess what, we still have to feed him sometimes. So for my younger gal, I let her feed herself from very young. Now she's able to use her fork to eat noodles properly and spoon to drink soup and eat rice. My son still uses his hands to eat. Sigh. Ok, maybe it's because of his condition. But I think it's also becoz we didn't let him feed himself when he was young.

I do agree with Mashy. Skip the straw and go to cup. Same as Mashy, I was ever soooooo freaky afraid of mess with my boy that at K2, he still wants feeding for his meals. It does not help that he does not take delight in food since young. And being a first time mum, I assumed that everything comes naturally so I did not train him in life skills much.

My gal, I let her drink from a cup at 12 mths. What I did was that I put a catchall hard bib on her so that it minimised the mess. I only allow plain water and after every drinking session, I changed her top if it was wet. The first few times resembled a waterfall, but she got better after a day or so. It helped that she liked to mimic her bro to drink from a cup.

You can also get Combi Stage 3 or 4 cup where the kid will learn to drink from a small opening in the lid. When proficiency improves, just remove the lid. HTH.

[helplessmum3]

Fizz:

helplessmum3:

[quote=\"verykiasumummy\"]i beg to differ from mashy.. afterall, they are still our own kids... how can we say its the teachers' problems?


helplessmum3, how old is your son?

He jus about to 3

Helplessmum3

My boy does not like to nap in school too. But because he is already in K2, I am not concerned. For a 3 yr boy, it may work if you let him bring something familiar to hug to sleep. Waking him up earlier may work too as it gets him tired earlier and he may just KO by nap time.

If the teachers are willing, they may try to put him alone (accompanied by one teacher, of course) in a separate room with a dim light. Some kids find it difficult to sleep with so many kids together as they are distracted while some find it scary in a dark room. As they grow, they needs and fears change and we just trial and error.[/quote]
my son does nap, maybe like you said, i try to wake him up early .. when he is not sleepy, he can't understand others kid are sleeping. he jus go & disturb others by running & jumping around..

but he will soon sleep but out of nap hrs...

any recommendation of supplements that can calm or sooth a child? so that he is not so active & high energy always... NT high energy is ok, they know the clue but to my son, i thnk he still very much clueless

so he will being inconsideration when kids are sleeping..

[helplessmum3]

Mashy,

if the teacher is going to tell me this again, i will let her know i m trying all errors & means to work it out…

hiaz… if my son is not manageable & keep getting complaints from teacher that he is affecting others kids, there chance that the P will call me to withdraw him. tat what i worried about…

cuz they are not special needs teacher…

[Fizz]

helplessmum3:

my son does nap, maybe like you said, i try to wake him up early .. when he is not sleepy, he can't understand others kid are sleeping. he jus go & disturb others by running & jumping around..

but he will soon sleep but out of nap hrs...

any recommendation of supplements that can calm or sooth a child? so that he is not so active & high energy always... NT high energy is ok, they know the clue but to my son, i thnk he still very much clueless

so he will being inconsideration when kids are sleeping..

It's the same when my boy was younger. Even now, to get from Point A to Point B, he cannot walk there...he climbs on the sofa, jumps on the toddler table then the stool to reach Point B. When I am sleeping, he cannot be considerate and let me rest..it's \"poom\" body slam on me!

I don't give supp to regulate behaviour. But you can try eliminating sugar from his diet. Sugar gives them energy rush. A mummy of an ADHD boy does that.

[helplessmum3]

Karkar:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"

Do u know \"Baby plus\"?

I use this while I'm pregnant w my son. Maybe this cause him ASD

helplessmum, dont be so hard on yourself. Whatever has happened has happened. I'm sure you have read enough to know that there is currently still no known cause for ASD.[/quote]


thanks, can't help it, this thought keep haunting me... :([/quote]

Leave the past behind, we can't change a thing. blame game doesn't work but adds to negativity and affects our mood. we need to be strong, no, stronger for our dears. they need us. instead of spending time reflecting whats gone wrong, spend every sec reading up articles /book and playing with them. Cheers up! Future will be brighter. when you have the down moment, talk to your hubby, or best friend or someone who can give you that positive energy. :-P[/quote]


Thanks karkar, this the only place i share .. SO thankful having all of you here....