Need an advice on office relationship matters

[valvestate]

friendship:

you are having fantasy with this mainlander. how old are you now?

teenager?

I'm still in the calendar.

friendship:

be far-sighted, think if you are 60-70 yrs old. All sort of sickness, diabetes, heart attack, loss of memory, etc. Who's going to take care of you? That stupid mainlander?

Your wife will just send you to old folks' home and let your body rot. No one is going to give you a decent burial. Your children? they will forgive you for hurting their mum?

now, now... let's be civil here. I don't think she's flirting with me as far as I know. I admit that it was me who initialized our first lunch date and it was indeed me who was fantasizing so... I also don't want to judge her especially some snarkcomments about China mainlanders, they are pretty decent and contributing to this society, but that's a different long topic to discuss.

Furthermore, I don't have any plans to leave my family, ever. PERIOD and I know that I will live a long life with my family as well.... doing GANGNAM Style even if I'm already 65 years old. :imcool: :evil:

[Flowermonaster]

ksi:

Flowermonaster:

Being unfaithful is not acceptable but which is worst - spiritually or physically? I always believe that if someone 精神出轨, it's 99.9% goner.

Actually it is true that 精神出轨, it already signals a serious problem. How about the case where a guy watches a movie and fantasizes with the movie actress? That is also 精神出轨.....

Perhaps if we layer the 精神 into 2 parts, usually such 精神出轨 is driven by lust, i.e. not really loving the person.... So I think there is still hope. Having said this, men being men, lust can also rule everything!!! That's what a friend shared with me when her now ex-hub was lured away by lust for a younger girl.... *sigh*

Sorry for not being clear, my 精神出轨 is referring to people you really know like what valvestate is experiencing now & not those movie stars or singers that are out of your reach. This type is very dangerous. Lust is different, it normally don't last.

[Mychildren]

peapot:

Actually my Ang mo colleague also like to touch me when he sees me, I thought he is Ang mo that's why the culture is different. Then I noticed he don't touch the other girls leh. I just kept quiet.

Don't let him touch u la! Stand further away from him so that when he stretch his hand, also cannot touch u. Kekeke
Maybe u're more tempting to him than the rest. :evil:

Peapot,
Happy that u start to be talkative!

[mamago]

Wait a minute… Is this some sort of a conspiracy? Joule n Valvestate?


Are we KSPs your study subjects?

To substantiate my point, you both speak alike, though V’s postings are of the verbal version, J’s is the novel-writing manner… but, coincidentally both are as good n similarly extensive in the similar topic, and those descriptions of V are as intense as J’s novel, though it’s his first hand account vs a novel…

Anyone else feel the same?

[corneyAmber]

mamago:

Wait a minute.... Is this some sort of a conspiracy? Joule n Valvestate?


Are we KSPs your study subjects?

To substantiate my point, you both speak alike, though V's postings are of the verbal version, J's is the novel-writing manner... but, coincidentally both are as good n similarly extensive in the similar topic, and those descriptions of V are as intense as J's novel, though it's his first hand account vs a novel...

Anyone else feel the same?

I think valvestate mentioned upfront that Joule's novel gave him the courage to share his own story to get some advice from here when Joule pointed out that he was writing a novel on this. You mean Joule needs to promote his novel? kekeke...

[smartmummy]

mamago:

Wait a minute.... Is this some sort of a conspiracy? Joule n Valvestate?


Are we KSPs your study subjects?

To substantiate my point, you both speak alike, though V's postings are of the verbal version, J's is the novel-writing manner... but, coincidentally both are as good n similarly extensive in the similar topic, and those descriptions of V are as intense as J's novel, though it's his first hand account vs a novel...

Anyone else feel the same?

i feel the same.actually i checked their joining dates.now both are left.coincidentally or not

[mamago]

I mean, one can always tap in to get some real life responses from KSPs…


In real life, no man can be this open n good at (I meant really good at) describing his impending "affair"… unless it’s "not real"… They are however, able to be very open about their spouses n children, cos, that’s the real thing…

Yes, men do talk about their indecency n crack jokes about woman over clubbing beer sessions … But no, I haven’t come across a man that can detail his fantasies… in black n white …

unless he is writing a novel.

[valvestate]

She was early this morning...


Immediately went over my desk smiling and gave me some breakfast. I just half smiled, said \"thanks\" and I put it on the other part of my table... I'm not really a breakfast eater so not really in the mood to eat it. I still can't help it to glance that she's wearing that nice black fitted pants and loose maroon/ gold -like color loose 'blouse' :roll:

After a few moments, she passed by again since she'll go to the pantry to get some coffee and she said \"You're not eating it?\" Of course, I can't say that I'm not really hungry... I said \"Oh... I will eat it, thanks!\" then went to pantry to re-heat the food.

I know I'm just imagining and getting ahead of myself... I think she's just friendly.

[corneyAmber]

Flowermonaster:

ksi:

[quote=\"Flowermonaster\"]Being unfaithful is not acceptable but which is worst - spiritually or physically? I always believe that if someone 精神出轨, it's 99.9% goner.

Actually it is true that 精神出轨, it already signals a serious problem. How about the case where a guy watches a movie and fantasizes with the movie actress? That is also 精神出轨.....

Perhaps if we layer the 精神 into 2 parts, usually such 精神出轨 is driven by lust, i.e. not really loving the person.... So I think there is still hope. Having said this, men being men, lust can also rule everything!!! That's what a friend shared with me when her now ex-hub was lured away by lust for a younger girl.... *sigh*

Sorry for not being clear, my 精神出轨 is referring to people you really know like what valvestate is experiencing now & not those movie stars or singers that are out of your reach. This type is very dangerous. Lust is different, it normally don't last.[/quote]Understand Flower....this one is reachable but movie actress is not....but both are lust because valvestate does not know this colleague very well to love her but he just fantasizes about her.

[mamago]

And you are not offended by my blunt statement? Valvestate?