All About Full-Time Maids
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MMM:
Hi MMM,autumnbronze:
[We need to start off with her on the rite foot. The reply I got was, \"you know I'm a pple's person rite, how can you expect me to be what I am not in my own home??
Is your hubby a HR person :lol:
In any case, it's very very important to lay the ground rules and from day 1. We usually do this with our maid. Our hubby (aka the bad guy) will tell her the ground rules eg. no handphone, no stealing, no lying, no ill treatment/ beating of kids, etc...\" These are basic stuff and if she is guilty of those, then too bad, we got to send her back. On our end, we will of course do our part by giving her sufficient rest, food, respect,etc.... I feel that it's like towards children, sometimes you need a good and bad guy. Hubby lets me play the \"good guy\" but of course I've my limit/ threshold. So maybe your hubby can be the \"people person\" while you are the \"task oriented\" role? FYI, my hubby would be the one who would check, lock her luggage and keep the keys, when my maid goes back on home leave. He would be the one to \"reprimand\" the maid if she does something wrong/ things that don't go through thinking process.
When my maid asked me about having hp to \"keep in touch\" with her family after she came back from home leave. She was on the edge of \"tearing\" (I think I am not the give in to tears type), to me it's like that's the ground rule we laid from day one and no way I am going to say yes to her. I told her outfront what I thought and yes, I am being proactive because I don't want to come back and deal with this as a problem few months down the road. I hate to do that and she would hate me to do that. So to prevent that, then it's still a no.
Nope, DH not in HR, but his job entails him to deal with pple and mediation is part of the job.
Initially started as me being the bad guy, because I can be THE bad one... But then DH being pple person, was so nice and I thought better stand united than using that strategy. Also because she deals with DS, don't want her to hate me and take it out on him ...
So now, basically, if there is anything to reprimand, we do together by having a talk with her. DH taught me one thing - As a 'confronter' must always find the rite time and mood of the 'confrontee' b4 confronting, so that you catch the person unawares, leave the person no time to ponder for excuses and deal with the matter effectively.
Patience is a virtue ..... esp when you are v v annoyed with something that she had done ....
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[quote]Hi Kahlan1003,
My maid's contract is also ending in March. She is from Indo too. Currently we are paying her $350 w/o 0ff day. She had 1 yr of experience b4 we employed her.
Don't quite know what is the market rate but DH mentioned that if she renews with the same conditions, he will consider increasing the salary by $20 because yes, she's been a good maid as well ....[/quote]Hi Autumbronze, yes i am thinking of giving her a $20-30 increase. She gets 2 days off a month. -
kahlan1003:
Hi Autumbronze, yes i am thinking of giving her a $20-30 increase. She gets 2 days off a month.[/quote]Hi Kahlan1003,[quote]Hi Kahlan1003,
My maid's contract is also ending in March. She is from Indo too. Currently we are paying her $350 w/o 0ff day. She had 1 yr of experience b4 we employed her.
Don't quite know what is the market rate but DH mentioned that if she renews with the same conditions, he will consider increasing the salary by $20 because yes, she's been a good maid as well ....
That seems resonable ...
Perhaps anyone out there with experience with maid renewal can advise???
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pineapple tarts:
what'd you do madinked - whichever way it goes? In case they say it's too expensive to get (or send or some other excuse)would you still trust her? She even used her own flesh and blood to ,,, :shock:madinked:
Hi hi,
Look what I have found. I don't know if this will be useful for other employers.
https://www.ecensus.com.ph/Secure/frmIndex.asp
US$20 to obtain a death certificate.
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I actually told maid this morning that the female boss of teh agency is my good friend. And she sms-ed me last night (I checked with her if the male agent told her about the death certificate) saying that there are many cheaters now, claiming deaths of mothers and fathers, so they now want the death certificate as proof. I asked maid to get the sister to send her a copy. On top of that, I told her that should she be unable to get it, I have a Filipino friend (this is true) whose relative is working for National Statistics Office in the Philippines so she will be able to help me obtain too.
The moment I mentioned death certificate (she gave me the crying look) and the moment I mention cheaters, she looked away for a while. Body language that she's lying.
Now I shall wait to see the death certificate. If she can really produce a genuine one, then I will prove her innocent.
Guilty unless proven.
Sometimes I prefer not to know the truth. -
autumnbronze:
Hi Kahlan1003,
Hi Autumbronze, yes i am thinking of giving her a $20-30 increase. She gets 2 days off a month.kahlan1003:
[quote]Hi Kahlan1003,
My maid's contract is also ending in March. She is from Indo too. Currently we are paying her $350 w/o 0ff day. She had 1 yr of experience b4 we employed her.
Don't quite know what is the market rate but DH mentioned that if she renews with the same conditions, he will consider increasing the salary by $20 because yes, she's been a good maid as well ....
That seems resonable ...
Perhaps anyone out there with experience with maid renewal can advise??? :D[/quote]Yup will wait for some response as to what's the current salary rate. In any case if not i will start calling up agencies in January to have an idea what's the current market rate for new and experience maid. Do a survey ha ha. -
Wow! maids are getting smarter these days. Feign deaths and what else Sigh! My lecturer’s maid know how to surf net and email. I don’t think there’s any privacy if she can access all our documents in the computer.
Hi Autumbronze,
Was recently looking for maids and so discovered that currently indo maids with experience in Malaysia is asking for $350 with no off day. New maids $330. Hope you will find this information useful.
Actually pretty maids are dangerous. I have to agree after some of the mummies highlighted in this forum. I must have been "blind". It also never cross my mind, don’t know why? When you have a pretty maid, you will encounter the following.
1) She will spend a longer time in bathroom.
2) Her hair is so long, she needs a longer time to dry it and that means she wants to use your hairdryer!!
3) Because she knows she is pretty, she takes extra care of her own face. She applys sunscreen before leaving the house. At night, she applys all sort of cream on her face.
4) Because she likes to look pretty, she tries to follow the fashion trend and do rebonding. We all know rebonding cannot tie hair right? It will leave a mark on the straight hair. So she won’t tie her hair while doing housework.
5) She puts on her makeup and nail polish on her off days. Ok, this part we have no control because its her off day BUT hubby is in the house!! I saw her and said "WOW" silently, what will the husband say?? Although my hubby says never mind, its only normal for young girl wanting to look pretty as long as she don’t do anything funny in the house, leave her alone. But after seeing what the rest of the mummies commented, I m getting a little concerned!
This is speaking from real experience! But luckily she’s quite fearful of me because I don’t speak to her unless its necessarily. -
kahlan1003:
Hi your maid is right.wah this is really a useful thread. By the way, do anyone know what is the current market rate for Indonesia maid experience. I'm currently paying my maid S$330. Her contract is ending in March and she wants to go extend but wants to be pay current experience salary which she indicate is S$380 to $400.
I have my maid for 4 years already and do not really want to go through the hassle of training her again. She is looking after my mum (alone) and although she is not perfect, she is honest and knows how to take care of my dementia and disabled mum.
Current market rate is about $380 to $400 ( experienced )
If I am you,I will give her an increase since she has been with me for a long time.
Saves the hassle of re-training and she knows everyone well.
Just my thoughts:-) -
Hi peapot,
I don’t allow my maid to apply nail polish, no off days and no long hair.
This saves me a lot of trouble
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Hi Kiasimom,
Do you put this rule in writing? Because it never occur to me that she will ignore my rule of no long hair even after I told her. I let her be because I changing a new maid soon. But she taught me a lesson. In future how can I make sure my new maid will adhere to this no long hair rule? -
You bet I do!
everything is written down and I get her to sign on the paper
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