2012 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[Chenonceau]

Sun_2010:

Hi PSLE parents,

Some words of advice as you wait for your DC to return based on my experience. Of course it depends on the child’s personality but some common things pointers.

Let the Child tell talk to you about the paper, don’t probe too much.

Try not to analyse the written paper for more than 15 mins ( Goldilock time). Just enough to give a boot to the confidence levels but not too much to lead to over confidence. One exam over means it is over. Analysing it too much will distract the child.

Remember YOU have to be the control here. While you are dying to know, what he did and how , there is no true value in that. And berating him for not doing the correct stuff is counter-productive at this point. So please be aware of not just what you say but also of your body language.

Most kids will do their own analysis, especially with their friends. And will spend some time trying to find out the “right” answers - be there to firmly turn them away from what is over to focus on what is next. Learning to “Let go” is an important lesson to learn too.

Loosely based on chen’s book(I am still reading and absorbing )- First be mentally prepared, you have to be the emotional “sink” for your child if things have not gone too well. And you are the well he is going to draw strength from to go to the battle tomorrow. So be ready for him/her.

So get ready to welcome home your warriors. Yours is not to fight the war, but to cherish the warriors no matter what.
:grphug:

Yes! It is important to absorb all their toxic emotions and DON'T pour your toxic emotions onto them.

[fightingmom]

Sun_2010:

Hi PSLE parents,

Some words of advice as you wait for your DC to return based on my experience. Of course it depends on the child’s personality but some common things pointers.

Let the Child tell talk to you about the paper, don’t probe too much.

Try not to analyse the written paper for more than 15 mins ( Goldilock time). Just enough to give a boot to the confidence levels but not too much to lead to over confidence. One exam over means it is over. Analysing it too much will distract the child.

Remember YOU have to be the control here. While you are dying to know, what he did and how , there is no true value in that. And berating him for not doing the correct stuff is counter-productive at this point. So please be aware of not just what you say but also of your body language.

Most kids will do their own analysis, especially with their friends. And will spend some time trying to find out the “right” answers - be there to firmly turn them away from what is over to focus on what is next. Learning to “Let go” is an important lesson to learn too.

Loosely based on chen’s book(I am still reading and absorbing )- First be mentally prepared, you have to be the emotional “sink” for your child if things have not gone too well. And you are the well he is going to draw strength from to go to the battle tomorrow. So be ready for him/her.

So get ready to welcome home your warriors. Yours is not to fight the war, but to cherish the warriors no matter what.
:grphug:

:goodpost: :goodpost:

:thankyou: Sun ! :snuggles:

[mamago]

fightingmom:

mamago:

Thanks, Fightingmom...

Feverish still, sore throat n nose stuck... wearing face mask this morning when dropping DS to school... everybody stared at me, and AVOIDed me! hahaha....

:scared: Wah! Sounds like getting worse ... Better go see a doctor soon. You would want to enjoy and celebrate with your ds after PSLE is over right ?

Speedy recovery ! :please:

Thanks, Fightingmom... *bear hug*

The torturing part is I cannot go near DS, afraid to pass the germ to him, I peep and peep at him through the door groove... feel so guilty that I am unable to give him good hugs... *cry in heart*

[mamago]

Sun_2010:

Hi PSLE parents,

Some words of advice as you wait for your DC to return based on my experience. Of course it depends on the child’s personality but some common things pointers.

Let the Child tell talk to you about the paper, don’t probe too much.

Try not to analyse the written paper for more than 15 mins ( Goldilock time). Just enough to give a boost to the confidence levels but not too much to lead to over confidence. One exam over means it is over. Analysing it too much will distract the child.

Remember YOU have to be the control here. While you are dying to know, what he did and how , there is no true value in that. And berating him for not doing the correct stuff is counter-productive at this point. So please be aware of not just what you say but also of your body language.

Most kids will do their own analysis, especially with their friends. And will spend some time trying to find out the “right” answers - be there to firmly turn them away from what is over to focus on what is next. Learning to “Let go” is an important lesson to learn too.

Loosely based on chen’s book(I am still reading and absorbing )- First be mentally prepared, you have to be the emotional “sink” for your child if things have not gone too well. And you are the well he is going to draw strength from to go to the battle tomorrow. So be ready for him/her.

So get ready to welcome home your warriors. Yours is not to fight the war, but to cherish the warriors no matter what.
:grphug:

PS- edited to correct a typo -
Just enough to give a boost to the confidence ( not boot :faint: )

:goodpost: :grphug:

Thank you, Sun...

[Sun_2010]

mamago:

fightingmom:

[quote=\"mamago\"]

Thanks, Fightingmom...

Feverish still, sore throat n nose stuck... wearing face mask this morning when dropping DS to school... everybody stared at me, and AVOIDed me! hahaha....

:scared: Wah! Sounds like getting worse ... Better go see a doctor soon. You would want to enjoy and celebrate with your ds after PSLE is over right ?

Speedy recovery ! :please:

Thanks, Fightingmom... *bear hug*

The torturing part is I cannot go near DS, afraid to pass the germ to him, I peep and peep at him through the door groove... feel so guilty that I am unable to give him good hugs... *cry in heart*[/quote]Dun cry, You will get better soon . for you okie ?

In the meantime can send him some smilieys for now like this :snuggles:

[Chenonceau]

Sun_2010:

Loosely based on chen’s book(I am still reading and absorbing )- First be mentally prepared, you have to be the emotional “sink” for your child if things have not gone too well. And you are the well he is going to draw strength from to go to the battle tomorrow. So be ready for him/her.

Yes! Exactly! That's why I spoiled myself this morning. Slept in late... lazed around... wu liao in KSP... so when I fetch him, I am alert and calm, and ready to comfort him IF anything has gone wrong. I am his fortress and I cannot fail him now.

Sun_2010:

So get ready to welcome home your warriors. Yours is not to fight the war, but to cherish the warriors no matter what.
:grphug:

I love this bit. So stirring!!

Sun_2010:

PS- edited to correct a typo -
Just enough to give a boost to the confidence ( not boot :faint: )

Boot... heeheehee!

[Zekezachzoom]

Wow... So many mummies are online while waiting for your DCs I just prepared my DS fav meal, mee sua, While waiting patiently for the time to past. Just a few minutes more for one paper to be gunned down. English is my DS worst subject, so you can imagine how happy I will be for this paper to finish. Four more papers to go...press on!

[Chenonceau]

Zekezachzoom:

Wow... So many mummies are online while waiting for your DCs I just prepared my DS fav meal, mee sua, While waiting patiently for the time to past. Just a few minutes more for one paper to be gunned down. English is my DS worst subject, so you can imagine how happy I will be for this paper to finish. Four more papers to go...press on!

What is your mee sua recipe? Can post picture? My grandma passed away and I never learnt to make her mee sua. Regrets!

[yukilei]

Sun_2010:

Hi PSLE parents,

Some words of advice as you wait for your DC to return based on my experience. Of course it depends on the child’s personality but some common things pointers.

Let the Child tell talk to you about the paper, don’t probe too much.

Try not to analyse the written paper for more than 15 mins ( Goldilock time). Just enough to give a boost to the confidence levels but not too much to lead to over confidence. One exam over means it is over. Analysing it too much will distract the child.

Remember YOU have to be the control here. While you are dying to know, what he did and how , there is no true value in that. And berating him for not doing the correct stuff is counter-productive at this point. So please be aware of not just what you say but also of your body language.

Most kids will do their own analysis, especially with their friends. And will spend some time trying to find out the “right” answers - be there to firmly turn them away from what is over to focus on what is next. Learning to “Let go” is an important lesson to learn too.

Loosely based on chen’s book(I am still reading and absorbing )- First be mentally prepared, you have to be the emotional “sink” for your child if things have not gone too well. And you are the well he is going to draw strength from to go to the battle tomorrow. So be ready for him/her.

So get ready to welcome home your warriors. Yours is not to fight the war, but to cherish the warriors no matter what.
:grphug:

PS- edited to correct a typo -
Just enough to give a boost to the confidence ( not boot :faint: )

:goodpost:

I remembered when I was taking exam, I chose not to discuss any questions with my classmates. In tertiary, I zoomed off immediately after the paper. Maybe I'm denial. But I prefer this way cos I find it no point discussing it. What's done is finished.

[yukilei]

Zekezachzoom:

Wow... So many mummies are online while waiting for your DCs I just prepared my DS fav meal, mee sua, While waiting patiently for the time to past. Just a few minutes more for one paper to be gunned down. English is my DS worst subject, so you can imagine how happy I will be for this paper to finish. Four more papers to go...press on!

Zekezachzoom, why u can prepare mee sua now?? No need to wait for DS to be back?? Thot Mee Sua will soak up all the soup very fast??