All About Full-Time Maids

[peapot]

Maybe nothing wrong in the beginning but slowly and surely my ex-maid began to become pious. She added more religious acts when she was with me as the days goes by. At night she pray very loudly swaying her body. She put a glass of water and pray then drink the water. I thought nothing wrong also. Then I notice before she cook she also chant alittle. Again nothing wrong I thought. Then one day while chatting with her, slip of her mouth she told me she has been praying I won’t get pregnant so that she has less work to do (I have only one child). After that, I thought she was very selfish to pray for something like that.


She left on a Tuesday and on Wednesday I discovered that I was pregnant. After that I miscarriage. I m not sure if this has anything to do with her praying. So to have peace of mind, I m not letting new maid become too pious. I still let new maid pray 5 times a day but I don’t want it to go further and beyond.

[Power Puff]

peapot:

Maybe nothing wrong in the beginning but slowly and surely my ex-maid began to become pious. She added more religious acts when she was with me as the days goes by. At night she pray very loudly swaying her body. She put a glass of water and pray then drink the water. I thought nothing wrong also. Then I notice before she cook she also chant alittle. Again nothing wrong I thought. Then one day while chatting with her, slip of her mouth she told me she has been praying I won't get pregnant so that she has less work to do (I have only one child). After that, I thought she was very selfish to pray for something like that.

Hmmmm. peapot..I don't mean to be overly superstitious or anything but your ex-maid may not be really pious the Islam way. Sounds like she could be engaged in some voodoo rituals? I'm sorry about the loss of your baby..it could have been a mere coincidence or a combination of stress and other factors, but I can understand why you're traumatised and a lot more wary now.

My previous Filipina helpers were supposedly staunch Catholics and accompanied us to church..thought if they loved God, they would do their best at work and behave properly. Sadly, it wasn't always that case. Have also observed a few other helpers merely using the church as a platform for making friends..after the service, they take their fancy tight-fitting clothes to change elsewhere, usually in a shopping mall eg. Taka), put on heavy makeup and perfume and meet their boyfriends and/ or flirt openly in public.

One poster mentioned her helper not changing her undergarments for days..My current Indo helper initially only showered once a day in the morning, despite my reminders (stark contrast to my earlier helpers who would shower frequently each day!) I suppose she was thinking of saving time. However, as she carries my baby girl a lot, I 'm very particular about odour and hygiene. Finally, I told her very firmly that in our household, we must shower first thing in the morning (after completing the bulk of her chores and before kids wake up), and after dinnertime. I don't bother checking on her underwear though. Maybe you can bring maid to buy more underwear or encourage her to use pantyliners (at her own expense if she refuses to cooperate).

[Hiaweh]

peapot:

Then one day while chatting with her, slip of her mouth she told me she has been praying I won't get pregnant so that she has less work to do (I have only one child). After that, I thought she was very selfish to pray for something like that.

Nowadays a lot of maids are not seriously here to make a living. I have heard of a number of cases where maids come up with silly excuses to transfer/ go home when they are told that their mdm is pregnant.

When we told my ex-maid that we will be expecting a 3rd child, she was all smily and even congratulated me. I thought to myself that maybe this maid is different from other maids. But was I wrong about her coz she definitely has some other agenda in mind. So I left it at that until the day I found her sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night.

When I think back, she must have thought that we will not fire her coz of a new addition to the family, she will be more valuable in the household. So start doing things that make us feel that we've been taken for granted. Anyway, good riddance.

[autumnbronze]

Dear peapot,


:hugs: to you.

I have been there, many times, ie the miscarriage.

Rest well and take care of yourself.

[peapot]

Yes powerpuff, I thought there was something odd about her style of praying but if there is no concrete envidence we can’t do anything except to give her the benefit of the doubt. Despite this, I put up with her for 3 years. That is why I say how we treat our current maid now is shaped by our past experience with our previous maids. This is very true for me but I m not sure about other employers.

[peapot]

Yes hiaweh, good riddance!!



Thanks autumn. It was very painful for me. I did 1 week confinement last week. Am feeling better now. Just surprise that when we pray we ask for betterment of people why would you be praying for that person not to get pregnant so that less work to do??!! It feels so wrong.

[fightingmom]

peapot:

Yes hiaweh, good riddance!!



Thanks autumn. It was very painful for me. I did 1 week confinement last week. Am feeling better now. Just surprise that when we pray we ask for betterment of people why would you be praying for that person not to get pregnant so that less work to do??!! It feels so wrong.

Hi peapot,

Just dropping in here to :hugs: you. Sorry to hear about your recent miscarriage. :sad: :gloomy: Hope you will rest well and stay positive. :grphug:

[Hiaweh]

Peapot, do not despair. We tried for almost 1.5 years for 2nd child and was going to give up as age was catching up. Focus on getting well and strengthen yr body.

[panickymum]

Take care peapot ! I had a miscarriage during my first pregnancy and get pregnant after 6 months .rest well and take care !

[panickymum]

Yesterday , I just out for few hrs . Came bk my daughter told me that my maid scolded my son for taking up his toys to play . Ask him to keep the toys . My son asked her to help but she was angry .my son said will tell me . You know what she says , tell lor ! My son goes childcare for weekdays . Can’t he play with his toys during weekend ! So angry