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[huaywenandkenneth]

Hi Karkar


First, you need to find out if the Montessori is indeed an "enrichment" centre as described by your friend. If it is, it is technically not a "preschool", though it runs programme for young children. It would be considered a private school, similar to tuition centers. As private schools, the bottom line is profit making. The teachers have classes to take and even if they want to help, they would have their own children in the class to take care of. Besides, the grandma is there to help, and I think that could be one of the reasons why they did not come forward, since there is already an adult with the child. Not trying to speak up for the centre or anything, but this was the feeling I get when I interact with tuition centres/enrichment centres - efficient, fast-paced and profit driven. My kids are in kindergartens.

But having said that, I would think that if the grandma or the child had requested for help, one of the teachers or staff might have come over. What you have described was also not clear, whether it was a once off incident or it happened daily. I believe that might explain their reaction (or non-reaction).

[Karkar]

hi huaywenandkenneth，


Thanks for reply. that was one off incident. his son was only with school for less than 3 weeks. what it happened, the class had not started. I guess i need to warn my friend the difference between enrichment and preschool.

They might not help because grandma was there. However, out of humanity, teacher should just have asked. My friend said teachers didn’t care and continued to make jokes among themselves in the reception even though one of the teachers saw him vomiting. I can feel for my friend, and I would rethink about sending my kid to enrichment centre, esp our kids are specialit’s the Montessori morning playgroup, 2 hrs type.

[helplessmum3]

They are not into passionate kind for these teachers .


They are profit or money driven n want elite kids to make their school have the name n get more sales…

Some preschool teachers r like that too. Always boil down to individual but at enrichment school there are more such teachers.

Can check w Double E, her son goes berries Chinese .

Karkar,
Double E 's son is more connect… He can express hee!

My son just know how to requests n ask to hug n kiss.

Express not as good…

[Fizz]

I would think it all boils down to the fundamentals of a human being. It doesn’t matter if the school is profit driven or charity driven. Even if a stranger is vomiting, it’s down to whether a person has compassion to offer even a tissue or stare and walk away. So even if a school is profit driven, a teacher with even the most basic humanity would be concerned. Moreover, if the teachers were joking and talking among themselves at that time…


If a kid, say, falls during lesson time, would the teacher press ahead with the syllabus because other kids have a timeline to meet? Or would she spare some time to attend to the kid or ask a receptionist to put an ice pack for the kid?

[Double E]

helplessmum3:

They are not into passionate kind for these teachers .


They are profit or money driven n want elite kids to make their school have the name n get more sales..

Some preschool teachers r like that too. Always boil down to individual but at enrichment school there are more such teachers.

Can check w Double E, her son goes berries Chinese .

Karkar,
Double E 's son is more connect.. He can express hee!

My son just know how to requests n ask to hug n kiss.

Express not as good..

I think it depends on the nature of the person. Can't say because is enrichment centres, all the teachers there have no compassion and all are profit driven.

At Berries I didn't encounter any situation similar to Kar Kar's friend, so I can't really comment. But based on my observation, the teachers and the admin persons at Berries are professional and friendly. Before I enroll my son, I told them about his condition. They agreed to take my boy in after observing him during trial class.

My boy is with Berries for the 3rd term already and there are times that he does not sit still and wants to stand up when the teacher is teaching. The form teacher is very kind to assign another teacher to sit with my boy to manage him. My boy is learning and he has been able to read all the chinese characters taught by Berries. Now is really up to me to speak mandarin with him more often to put the words he learned into practice.
Personally, I feel that Berries is very value for money. The fees is $300plus for a term (12 weeks), they do not have term break (only once a year), the class is 1.5 hrs and comes with a lot of teaching materials which are within the course fees. More importantly, they have made learning Chinese interesting. My boy looks forward to his Berries class.

[helplessmum3]

Double E, berries is it on sat?

At what age u send yr son there . Which branch he attend .

My son love Chinese .
Hiaz

[helplessmum3]

Double E,


MMI did not teach Chinese in school ? That’s y u send yr son to berries separately ?

[Double E]

helplessmum3:

Double E,


MMI did not teach Chinese in school ? That's y u send yr son to berries separately ?

The CC does teach Chinese. But since he does not reject Chinese, so just send him to Berries to enhance it.

[Karkar]

I totally agree with all mummies here. It’s the nature of the person. If out of 3 teachers, 2 were there and gave no notice to all these distressed kids, that’s pretty bad yah…


It really takes time to find a good school with good teachers. not easy. My neighbour also had a terrible experience with CC. omg, i couldn’t believe that those bad experience is so near me, my friend and my neighbour.

Mummies, i have another doubt in my mind now. I engaged a private centre to do clinical assessment on my son this coming Thu. case manager told me that if we go through the evaluation with them, we can’t go to KK , which is on 11 Oct. They both use the same method to assess the kid. She was very frank and said it’s not ethical to do that. She warned me before choosing them.

reasons to go for private assessment: 1) i dont need a diagnosis or confirmation now since my son is 2 and he’s not very obvious. most likely KK would say can’t diagnose too young, come back at 4. 2) i am using the same centre for future therapies. this evaluation they perform will give them and us more direction on how to help my son. it’s like setting the foot right before the start. hope it’s more effective.

reasons to go for KK: 1) i am being Kiasu. Private is expensive, i set a target of 1 year for this expensive private intervention. but what if it is not working out well?? when my son turns 3 or 4, the long term private intervention will drain my family, slowly i need to send him to gov intervention, since cheaper or possibly future subsidy. Usually they have long wait list. so i can get the diagnosis first and queue up first. 2) it’s cheaper to sign up for KK’s Henan program and possibly other parent training program.

I need advice. Thanks.

[Karkar]

helplessmum3:

They are not into passionate kind for these teachers .


They are profit or money driven n want elite kids to make their school have the name n get more sales..

Some preschool teachers r like that too. Always boil down to individual but at enrichment school there are more such teachers.

Can check w Double E, her son goes berries Chinese .

Karkar,
Double E 's son is more connect.. He can express hee!

My son just know how to requests n ask to hug n kiss.

Express not as good..

Helplessmum3, you dont give up, okay? My son doesn't bond with me. sob. sob. if he can bond with any family member, i really dont mind...sob.sob.

heard that more than word program from Hanen not bad. if your son's gone through assessment in KK, they can refer you for half price..

i also just borrowed a book called \"motivate to communicate\". i let you know if its good after i go through it.