All About Autism

[Karkar]

Hi Blokus


I just clarified with the centre. its actually both. this comes diagnosis but they emphasize on how to plan for therapies. they are more expensive than KKH for sure. Yes, it’s psychologist session. I dont actually need an diagnosis. I only pick the private session for the fact that their psychologist is able to give a more detailed plan on program planning.

now actually i get a bit nervous as it gets closer to Thu. I know my son should be somewhere in the spectrum but for a psychologist to confirm that, it saddens me. I will try my best to be strong.

[Blokus]

Karkar:

Hi Blokus


I just clarified with the centre. its actually both. this comes diagnosis but they emphasize on how to plan for therapies. they are more expensive than KKH for sure. Yes, it's psychologist session. I dont actually need an diagnosis. I only pick the private session for the fact that their psychologist is able to give a more detailed plan on program planning.

now actually i get a bit nervous as it gets closer to Thu. I know my son should be somewhere in the spectrum but for a psychologist to confirm that, it saddens me. I will try my best to be strong.

Good on you! :imcool: You got it sorted out.

I know the feeling, although i have not gotten there yet. I don't think anything will prepare us for a proffessional to tell us that our child is on the spectrum. Although we know it, but somehow there's a little hope that maybe, just maybe, we were wrong. I give up telling myself not to cry when the diagnosis is out. I will allow myself to break down. I guess, just focus on how to move forward and not the result of the test. I give you :hugs:

[helplessmum3]

Double. E.


I hav ask u some info via pm. Thanks

[ImMeeMee]

Blokus:

Karkar:

Hi Blokus


I just clarified with the centre. its actually both. this comes diagnosis but they emphasize on how to plan for therapies. they are more expensive than KKH for sure. Yes, it's psychologist session. I dont actually need an diagnosis. I only pick the private session for the fact that their psychologist is able to give a more detailed plan on program planning.

now actually i get a bit nervous as it gets closer to Thu. I know my son should be somewhere in the spectrum but for a psychologist to confirm that, it saddens me. I will try my best to be strong.

Good on you! :imcool: You got it sorted out.

I know the feeling, although i have not gotten there yet. I don't think anything will prepare us for a proffessional to tell us that our child is on the spectrum. Although we know it, but somehow there's a little hope that maybe, just maybe, we were wrong. I give up telling myself not to cry when the diagnosis is out. I will allow myself to break down. I guess, just focus on how to move forward and not the result of the test. I give you :hugs:

:hugs:

kar kar and blokus, I had the same feeling two years ago on the maybe, just maybe ...

there are certain points in our lives where no choice we cant run away anymore and have to look at things in the face.

my thoughts are with you and stay strong ...

[Fizz]

Karkar:

Hi Blokus


I just clarified with the centre. its actually both. this comes diagnosis but they emphasize on how to plan for therapies. they are more expensive than KKH for sure. Yes, it's psychologist session. I dont actually need an diagnosis. I only pick the private session for the fact that their psychologist is able to give a more detailed plan on program planning.

now actually i get a bit nervous as it gets closer to Thu. I know my son should be somewhere in the spectrum but for a psychologist to confirm that, it saddens me. I will try my best to be strong.

Kar Kar

Look on the positive yah. My son was recently diagnosed as being on the spectrum. In fact, I was relieved. Now I know that he will prolly need more help than NT kids, I can let the teachers know and work on helping him together. This is better than having the teacher to expect him to be as compliant as other peers and either keeps complaining to me or asks us to withdraw him. I also try to be more tolerant.

As my boy was diagnosed much later, I can't really give you any advice on the programs as we didn't go through them. But look positive, an ASD kid can be high functioning too, if early intervention is given. Hugzzz!

[chibi]

Hi ImMeeMee,


My daughter's chinese was really very bad when she was in nursery.
She can't even speak a sentence of mandarin, let alone recognize words.
you can try sending your daughter to Berries .
They really make the kids remember all the words and keep asking them to repeat each word and phrase several times.
i was also very worried about her Chinese last time, now she is slightly better but haha her SA2 Chinese oral is coming soon.and i had a bad feeling about it.
seriously she always had me fuming mad when i practice chinese oral with her.
If i tell her to be more expressive in her reading, she will read in super high pitched throughout her reading which nearly deafen me :siao:
For picture description, it's quite horrible too.
for words she doesn't know to describe in mandarin, she actually change into english then change back into mandarin in a split second, and act like as a matter of fact that her classmates also do that.

Don't worry too much about your daughter's chinese.

don't worry too much about catching up. it used to bother me alot too, when i see that my daughter can't do things that alot of kids her age can.
but i reminded myself that there are also alot of things that she can do that her peers can't too.
i remember her therapist telling me before, kids with her condition have superb memory so we have to use it to their advantage.
She actually told me that they are very easy to teach because of their condition. so fret not when you think that they are not able to do certain things.before you know it, they can do it easily.

[Double E]

Mummies


I have been reviewing my expectations of my boy last night and I wonder if my expectations of him are realistic.

He is 3.5 years old, 5 more months to 4 years old. I have started to expose him to writing. For now he can write about 70% of the alphabets in capital letters, the ones that he has issues with are G, M, N, Q, R, X and Y. As for small letters, he can only write a, b, c, e, f. I was practicing with him last night and he just can’t get ‘d’ right. And I turned into a monster, shouting at him to focus and concentrate. I was angry because he could get it right the previous time.

I felt really bad after that, cos he was sobbing but don’t dare to cry out loud. And I think, the more I shout at him, the worse he gets. But at that moment, I just can’t help it. My emotions took over me and I became a tiger mum.

I think in my heart, I still want him to function like a NT kid though I know he is on the spectrum.

[Fizz]

Double E:

Mummies


I have been reviewing my expectations of my boy last night and I wonder if my expectations of him are realistic.

He is 3.5 years old, 5 more months to 4 years old. I have started to expose him to writing. For now he can write about 70% of the alphabets in capital letters, the ones that he has issues with are G, M, N, Q, R, X and Y. As for small letters, he can only write a, b, c, e, f. I was practicing with him last night and he just can't get 'd' right. And I turned into a monster, shouting at him to focus and concentrate. I was angry because he could get it right the previous time.

I felt really bad after that, cos he was sobbing but don't dare to cry out loud. And I think, the more I shout at him, the worse he gets. But at that moment, I just can't help it. My emotions took over me and I became a tiger mum.

I think in my heart, I still want him to function like a NT kid though I know he is on the spectrum.

Double E

*Pat pat* My little girl is 3yrs 2mos. I believe that she's NT. She still can't hold a pencil in the correct pincer grasp consistently. After a short while, she will switch to the palm grasp. She still colours haphazardly and she can't draw or write legibly. But I'm still not worried as she is still within her acceptable development milestone.

*smile* Your son will be a genius if we were to compare this area. Every child develop differently. He is still very young in this area and he is doing very well...

[ImMeeMee]

chibi:

Hi ImMeeMee,


My daughter's chinese was really very bad when she was in nursery.
She can't even speak a sentence of mandarin, let alone recognize words.
you can try sending your daughter to Berries .
They really make the kids remember all the words and keep asking them to repeat each word and phrase several times.
i was also very worried about her Chinese last time, now she is slightly better but haha her SA2 Chinese oral is coming soon.and i had a bad feeling about it.
seriously she always had me fuming mad when i practice chinese oral with her.
If i tell her to be more expressive in her reading, she will read in super high pitched throughout her reading which nearly deafen me :siao:
For picture description, it's quite horrible too.
for words she doesn't know to describe in mandarin, she actually change into english then change back into mandarin in a split second, and act like as a matter of fact that her classmates also do that.

Don't worry too much about your daughter's chinese.

don't worry too much about catching up. it used to bother me alot too, when i see that my daughter can't do things that alot of kids her age can.
but i reminded myself that there are also alot of things that she can do that her peers can't too.
i remember her therapist telling me before, kids with her condition have superb memory so we have to use it to their advantage.
She actually told me that they are very easy to teach because of their condition. so fret not when you think that they are not able to do certain things.before you know it, they can do it easily.

chibi, thanks for the encouragement.

I guess at times I still fall into the trap of expecting her to function like a NT child, and hence expecting her to catch up. You are right, look at her positive achievements. Recently my therapist told me that my daughter is able to verbalize certain words and apply them in the right context, which she has not seen in her other students.

I should be thankful.

[chibi]

hey ImMeeMee,

you are welcome
I guess what we do , is to make best use of our kids skills .

let me share with you someting quite trivial.
My daugher, tho she is in P1 now, she still refuses to take the lift up our void deck . :yikes:
luckily we only stay on the 4th floor.
Reason is: she is sensitive to strong smells. my neighbour near to the lift on our floor had their door painted last yr and my gal told me that , just walking past it can make her faint.
despite us telling her many times, the smell that make her faint would have been gone by now, she is still very persistent about not taking the lift.
so if we go out with her, we usually walk the stairs ( both up and down) as the staircase is actually just nxt to our unit.
but 2 weeks ago, my mother brought her out and my daughter actually came up on her own and started knocking the door n saying,\" mummy, i am home!!! plse open the door for me. \"
then i asked her , oh how come you are alone? where is grandma? you mean u walked up alone?\"
she told me \" Yes, because ahma bought alot of food from NTUC, and she has no strength to walk up the stairs with me carrying the food. so i asked her to take the lift and i walk up myself since i know my way around\"
:oops:

i just suddenly feel that at that point of time when she told me, my girl has grown up!!!
though she is still very afraid and reluctant to take the lift up, but at least another way round, she knows that she can walk up the stairs herself back home . haha :rahrah: