All About Autism
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slmkhoo:
My boy was made to write from 3 yrs old because he's the youngest in the class. So he actually started nursery class at 3 yrs old. Of course he couldn't do it. But I wasn't too worried about it until when he was 4 and in k1 and we started OT. Now that his muscles have become stronger, he's able to write much better. My gal is coming 3.5 and I'm not making her write yet since she still has time. She can't even read whereas my boy could read at this age. Each will progress at their own time, so no worries. Her phonics teacher (who also taught my son) said don't worry, my boy was faster than normal and usually kids read at 5yrs old.
Do they require a 3yo to write? That, in my personal opinion, is crazy. Games and activities for finger strength and coordination would be more suitable than writing. I hold to the view that no child should be required to write until he is beginning to read. Of course some kids want to write because they see others do it, and that's fine. But what is the point of writing if you can't read? I can't remember either of my kids ever sitting still for an hour at 3yo - your child is exceptional in that way.Double E:
I recalled wrongly. He started his writing at 9.20pm till 11pm. But still a good 1.30hrs.
Did I really expect too much from him?cos his tutor and therapist keep stressing that he must learn to do this and that. I thought I m just reinforcing what he was taught.
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Yes, his tutor expects him to write so keep stressing that I let him practice. His OT works on activities to strengthen his hand and finger muscles. But there are sessions that she will get him to write while he is on music therapy. That’s why I felt the need to get him practice.
My boy can read though not sure if he understands all that he is reading. Probably the tutor thought he should start writing since he can read. -
Double E:
He has a tutor? :yikes:Yes, his tutor expects him to write so keep stressing that I let him practice. His OT works on activities to strengthen his hand and finger muscles. But there are sessions that she will get him to write while he is on music therapy. That's why I felt the need to get him practice.
My boy can read though not sure if he understands all that he is reading. Probably the tutor thought he should start writing since he can read. -
Ehhh…yes. She is a special needs teacher and she teaches my boy English and Maths. A friend recommended her to me, her ASD boy used to be taught by her. My son enjoys the sessions, will look forward to her lessons. She used a lot of materials to teach him, and as she is a special needs teacher, she knows how to engage my boy. But I am also stressed by her cos she gives a lot of homework for me to follow up.
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We hv the tutor for 5 mths, she comes twice a week. At that time, being desperate, I just grab any referral that can help my boy. And since my boy likes her lessons, we just continue. I also liked that she gives me tips on how to manage his behavior, a bit of ST and OT too.
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Blokus:
Good for you blokus. If its language disorders rather than autism then the support strategies could stay more focused.Thanks sim Khoo, double E
I've decided to push it back just cause the diagnosis doesn't matter to us. What's more important is to get him the help he needs. The test is just so I can use it as a proof to his teachers for exemption etc. At this moment its not necessary. Also, it gives me more time to 'not know but know' heh heh -
Double E:
Ehhh...yes. She is a special needs teacher and she teaches my boy English and Maths. A friend recommended her to me, her ASD boy used to be taught by her. My son enjoys the sessions, will look forward to her lessons. She used a lot of materials to teach him, and as she is a special needs teacher, she knows how to engage my boy. But I am also stressed by her cos she gives a lot of homework for me to follow up.
Double E, I have a special needs therapist for my daughter too. She is not so much of a tutor but rather a therapist that provides support in literacy and numeric skills. She is trained in special needs and thus has the rightful strategies to engage the child and build their skills in specific areas. I sit with her at the end of every session to hear my daughter's progress and to know the things to follow up on. She too gives me tips on speech, language and behavior management.
My therapist can be quite pushy too, and she is the one that has been complaining about my daughter's handwriting and the need for professional coaching. I try to consider her words but if its not within my key focus areas at this juncture, I ignore her
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chibi:
chibi, I like your expression.thnks Blokus
I am proud of her .
But there are also ups and down days .
i have to keep reminding myself too, since we have come so far, nothing can stop us
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Double E:
I recalled wrongly. He started his writing at 9.20pm till 11pm. But still a good 1.30hrs.
Did I really expect too much from him?cos his tutor and therapist keep stressing that he must learn to do this and that. I thought I m just reinforcing what he was taught.
Er.... Double E, i can understand your good intentions and a mother's desperation. :hugs: But 1.5 hrs is really too long to \"push\" the child. At 3 yo, he needs his rest and sleep to grow. In fact, that's a good time for him to wind down, read a book with mommy/daddy?
In fact, 15-20mins is good for desk activity or any activities, esp for someone so young. Don't \"over push\" that he may burn out even before he reaches P1. -
ImMeeMee
Yes, my boy's tutor provides the same type of support as your daughter's. Then I should consider her as a Special needs therapist instead of a 'tutor'. Hmm, your therapist sounds very similar to mine. Could it be the same person?
Schwepps
Normally, my sessions with him is about 45mins to an hour. We over run on that night because I was just so determined to get him to write a proper 'd'. Don't know what came over me. But true enough, the next day when he went for his OT, his OT also mentioned that his grip of crayons and pen is weaker as compared to the previous weeks.
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