2012 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[kwcllf]

I am sure all the DC will be anxious. So, whatever the outcome - good or bad or average - just give them a hug, a pat, for the hard work they have put in. We cannot turn back the clock and they have many more years to slog. So, it is important to be there to provide whatever support that is needed.

[mummy so kiasu]

LE ANN:

pchong:

[quote=\"KoalaMummy\"]

So how many parents here will take leave and accompany their dc to school to collect the results? Wondering if i should take leave too...

Does parent need to be there for the collection. I heard my friend saying that certain sch require the presence of parent else they will not release the result to the child. Is that true?

i remembered during my DD time 2 yrs ago, P advised all parents to accompany their dc to sch for results collection. One of the reasons given was that parents to be with dc regardless of the outcome of the results, to be there for them, to comfort them, to hug them , moral support etc...[/quote]It is not compulsory for parents to be presence but it is good to accompany the kids to collect their results & give them moral support. I am sure that most parents are eager to know their kids results too.

[a child]

Hi, exams just ended today for me so I might be posting more if I'm free (not sure if I'll be though).


Firstly, just wanted to reiterate that some independence for kids are good. My parents never took leave for my PSLE. I had no tuition, though they did get me assessments. It was a gradual independence since I was younger, and they believed and trusted that I would be strong and grow up on my own. I have made many many mistakes on my own, gotten addicted to the internet. I've come out stronger than ever. And now, even though I still have the emotional support of my parents, they never ask about academics anymore. They have no idea which subjects I'm currently taking, or the full list of my extracurriculars. The time we spend is mostly spent together enjoying, holidaying, going to parks and shopping. We never argue over my marks anymore, or even talk about my studies. It hasn't been that bad actually. And even though it seems easy for my parents actually it was really painful for them. To slowly let go, know that my marks will never be top but accept that and love me so much anyway. They painstakingly talked about their own experiences from being poor in farms to their current relative success, we talked a lot about life and they got me to read a lot. This education they provided me is priceless beyond measure. So even though you may want to take charge of your kids education tightly again, send them for tuition - I would suggest instead tell them to read, broadly, widely, books about war and poverty and suffering which touch hearts, history channel, discovery channel, anything - and love learning. And let go, expose them to the world so that they appreciate, and let them learn on their own. Induced success is artificial. You will have to let go one day. Better to do it while the kids are still relatively young, when their opinions you can still influence, and when they are still under your roof. And talk to them on the same level. It has made me grow.

And as I have repeatedly said, the best education you can ever give is to love learning. Read, read, and read even more. There is no hurry to do secondary school exercise books. But read secondary school literature texts? Or rather adult classics, non fiction? Yes, definitely yes. This is the only real learning that I think I have ever experienced in my life. It changed me. So for this time you have before secondary school, I do not recommend sending your kids for tuition. I never went. I went to school, we had few activities but I played cards, read, chatted with my friends. We bonded. We were kids, carefree, happy. That's all the matters isn't it? That we are happy. Because we cannot spend all our time preparing for life. We have to live it, because this is life. And there is no hurry to study, cram, and prepare. There is plenty of time to do that later. Most of my friends and I never did that, and we do fine. And it is my experience that an hour of work in school is worth ten hours of pre-preparatory, because you don't know what to expect and if you do then there is no point in going for school. I don't what to sound like I'm hard selling, but I've been through it and I know that it does not help much. Instead, build foundation. Read to build analytical skills. You get language from reading also, read classics, not comics. Watch channels with proper documentaries and news - cartoons are fine for entertainment, but not learning. And learn to love this, really. I know I keep repeating it, rambling, but that's all I really want to say.

And also thank you for all your affirmative support, it really means a lot to me. I am only in secondary 2, so I don't pretend to know a lot. But this secondary school experience has really been so meaningful for me. And I wanted to share.

Lastly - I know someone asked a few pages before where I school. I attend Raffles Girls' School - and though I suppose many would therefore disregard what I have said as irrelevant and inapplicable to their kids, and I do not claim to be representative of all kids. But I do know that most of our abilities and IQ are within margin of error and I am nothing exceptional. Instead, I really believe that it is all this education and love for life and learning that has made me who I am today

[mommylow]

:thankyou: ....a child. You are definitely not a child but a mature, intuitive, reflective and wise person beyond your years. No, you are not rambling, even if you are, I love every word of yours. You help me look at things from a different perspective and you share without holding back. Your insights into life is rather profound.


Keep up with your writing. I like your style and flair. Clear and crisp. Write a book about your life in future. I will certainly buy your book.

[Chenonceau]

An exceptional child indeed. Humble too. Even parents can learn from you. What a Mommy you will grow up to be!!

[concerned_of_PSLE 10]

Thanks everybody for comforting me. It is just tat i feel tat something is constantly bugging me....
Tat feeling is really terrible.....thinking of all the wrong answers i gave,i feel i am really dumb

[concerned_of_PSLE 10]

mummy so kiasu:

pchong:

[quote=\"KoalaMummy\"]my ds school have a whole list of Post PSLE Programme line up for all the P6s DAILY... Doesn't other school have these?

The sch does not have any activity for the kids. The teacher reads her own book in class while the rest of the kids chat and play with each other. So yesterday, the teacher booked the computer lab and let the kids surf net. I'm finding it a waste of time.

That is the problem of bringing forward the PSLE. It used to be mid Oct & now early Oct. Schools had to rush to complete the syllabus & kids now have nothing to do. The school should engage external vendors to conduct workshops such as public speaking, speech & drama or oil painting for the kids to keep them occupy meaningfully.[/quote]We hav so many until i can say we are not spared a second.

Tmrw got swordplay. Jus had talk on anti-smoking and 3hours of PE.sweating like mad everyday,still got P6 bazaar, graduation party, visit to 2 museum, multi sporta carnival, church visit,sec1introduction from some company.
See gonna suffocate :slapshead:

[concerned_of_PSLE 10]

paranoid:

concerned_of_PSLE 10:

I am going to score real badly for PSLE cause all the ans i check is wrong.i will not get even a 2 A* and 2 A.i feel really bad like i let down my parents.....

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment; full effort is full victory.
-Mahatma Gandhi

Our greatest glory is not in never fallng, but in rising up every time we fall.
Challenges are what make life interesting, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
坚持到底，千万不能轻易放弃。每个人生活中一定会遇到很多困难和曲折，需要对自己有信心才会成功。
Persevere... :salute:

:udawoman:

[Honey]

To a child … thank you for sharing from your heart. I enjoy reading your posts alot as you write with feelings. I always tell my dd that when she writes with feelings & shares from her heart, people will enjoy reading what her writing. Your sharings give us parents a precious insight into our kids’ world. My dd & I are very close & we share a great deal. Still I learn so much from your sharing & it gives me a better understanding as to what’s to come when she enters secondary school. Thank you for taking time to drop by & keep sharing with us. Remember to follow us up to Sec One next year. We may ask you some questions to help us along the way.

[Rational_Parent]

@a child, you are indeed a special child although you would like to think otherwise. You are not in RGS by accident. We all know obtaining good grades does not define a person; they are just icing on the cake.


I somehow believe your contributing to forums and performing community services give you an outlet to speak your mind and give you an extra sense of purpose.

Sometimes I rest my head high up on my pillow in the night and wonder why you chose the nickname 'a child' is this forum, and I am still wondering.

Thank you once again for sharing your journey with us. We are truly appreciative of your continual participation in this forum.