Spouse or Kids? Which comes first?

[autumnbronze]

Imami:

When I was in the delivery room, hubby was made to choose - wife or baby and I was made to choose - baby or me. That was one of the very few occasions my hubby wept. Strangely, I didn't. I told him, no matter what happen, our child must live. So well...


First forward to today, my choice is still the same.

Dear Imami,

:hugs: :hugs:

[Imami]

autumnbronze:

Imami:

When I was in the delivery room, hubby was made to choose - wife or baby and I was made to choose - baby or me. That was one of the very few occasions my hubby wept. Strangely, I didn't. I told him, no matter what happen, our child must live. So well...


First forward to today, my choice is still the same.

Dear Imami,

:hugs: :hugs:

:hugs: no worries, it's over! I always tell people the second time (if any) won't be the same! And if it is the same, the only changes I would make are
1. to prep my hubby to be strong to hold the fort. He would have two little ones to manage.
2. To prep my number 1 to be strong for papa and number 2.

[SBKS]

Imami:

SBKS:

[quote=\"Imami\"]When I was in the delivery room, hubby was made to choose - wife or baby and I was made to choose - baby or me. That was one of the very few occasions my hubby wept. Strangely, I didn't. I told him, no matter what happen, our child must live. So well...

First forward to today, my choice is still the same.

hi, thank god that both of you are fine. the whole family is fine.
for me, i prep myself and decided for the above scenario. my DW. with my DW ard, we can then decide to have another one or not to.
to me and my perspective is, child can adopt, wife cant. sorry in advance if i offended anyone.

Thank you
I think what you say is most logical - to choose the spouse. back then, in the delivery room, I was no longer sane. After not sleeping for more than 40 hours, inclusives of 24 hours of labour, how sane can I be? When I told my hubby \"our child must live\", I was not being brave. It was more like a reflex. I couldn't explain. There was no fear, no sadness etc.after striving for so long, I just wanted to complete the task (bringing my child to the world).

But now, with my brain functioning, I find it hard to choose my hubby over my child.[/quote]
after having my kids ard us, I also difficult to choose now. :frustrated:

lets just hope it will not happen to any of us.

[janet88]

On occasions when hubby and I go out without kids, he told me, ‘NO Popular or children’s dept.’ We will go to the gents dept to see his stuff like shirts, socks. Marital relationship is very impt…not when kids have grown up and left the nest.

[Imami]

When hubby need new shirts or pants, I would tag along so that I could give my comments. Funny, in this aspect he is like a little boy. He says he feels better if I say,"ok, nice…" before he buys. Oh yes, shoes too. But for socks and underwear, I leave him alone to shop.

[Nebbermind]

Imami:

:hi5: I am not alone.... I think \"limpy\" is the word.

Yes...that's it! Although mostly use to insult some part of the male anatomy

[Imami]

Nebbermind:

Imami:

:hi5: I am not alone.... I think \"limpy\" is the word.

Yes...that's it! Although mostly use to insult some part of the male anatomy

not puny? Hmm... Which is worse - limpy or puny? :idea: next debate topic - which is worse - limpy or puny?

[Nebbermind]

Imami:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"Imami\"]

:hi5: I am not alone.... I think \"limpy\" is the word.

Yes...that's it! Although mostly use to insult some part of the male anatomy

not puny? Hmm... Which is worse - limpy or puny? :idea: next debate topic - which is worse - limpy or puny?[/quote]Think those mommies who have vast experience with the various sizes and built can share with others in the notti corner

[janet88]

Imami:

When hubby need new shirts or pants, I would tag along so that I could give my comments. Funny, in this aspect he is like a little boy. He says he feels better if I say,\"ok, nice...\" before he buys. Oh yes, shoes too. But for socks and underwear, I leave him alone to shop.

I shop for all of them. But where shoes are concerned, I usually ask hubby/son. My hubby seems to be enjoying another wave of youth...he likes 'young' colours. So recent purchases seem to be XL version of my son's.

[Lilac66]

Imami:

When hubby need new shirts or pants, I would tag along so that I could give my comments. Funny, in this aspect he is like a little boy. He says he feels better if I say,\"ok, nice...\" before he buys. Oh yes, shoes too. But for socks and underwear, I leave him alone to shop.

So now I see... it's similar for most men it seems. They can make big decisions, but when it comes to shirts and pants, still like a little boy boy. Needs our assurance they look good in them. My DH will beam with pride when I say he looks good in certain shirts.