Do your kids play online game?
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safetyfirst:
no tv can always read book or play lego mahRachelLee:
No, I don't allow them to play any games or even watch TV
Wow! How old is your DD/DS? -
safetyfirst:
These days the kids latest craze is minecraft. I explore the game a little and I think its pretty ingenious game. Require some thinking, strategy and planning. Non-violent.
both my boys play minecraft. they can chat and discuss over dunno what is it.
i dont find it amusing and the graphics are not good. but dh said it is a game with very good re-playability. they play their games with a countdown timer beside them. once it rings, they need to conclude the game. quite systematic in our house as i am 24/7 eagle-eye on them. at grandparents' house...it is computer/phone games paradise. :faint: -
bobonana:
:goodpost: Agree!I guess with the internet being so readily available nowadays, every kid will or have played online games before.
As long as they dont get hooked on it. Try not to let them let involve in MMORPG (MAssive multiplayer online role play games) such as World of warcraft, maplestory etc as this kind games tends to be more addicted and time consuming. -
jedamum:
hai yoh
:goodpost: Agree!bobonana:
I guess with the internet being so readily available nowadays, every kid will or have played online games before.
As long as they dont get hooked on it. Try not to let them let involve in MMORPG (MAssive multiplayer online role play games) such as World of warcraft, maplestory etc as this kind games tends to be more addicted and time consuming.
don't get kids to play MMORPG like Maple Story or World of Warcraft
over there, you have LITTLE to NO control over who they mix with
you'll get undue pressures like kids wanting to play at a certain time so they can go on 'raids' or 'coordinated online activities' like taking on quests together. Have you even seen the online language used on various quests? tsk tsk.
why introduce this can of worms??? There is a reason why WoW is recommended for teens and above.
From ex gamer - 5 - 10 yrs ago. first generation World of Warcraft player.
if it were up to me, my kid would have an 80s upbringing. No games, give her cassette recorder to play. Maybe kid would be next Jay Chou. har har har! -
Joule:
my dh is a 'gamer'. kids see him 24/7 spending at least 2 hrs in front of computer. ds2 even advised the dad to rest his eyes.
if it were up to me, my kid would have an 80s upbringing. No games, give her cassette recorder to play. Maybe kid would be next Jay Chou. har har har!
we intro ds2 to gaming (selected) earlier than ds1 (whom we are stricter previously).
dh stands to believe that certain amount of gaming and done so responsibly promotes logical thinking and hones reflexes (i dunno la..i no gamer...slow reflex so no point of reference).
key is supervision and parental control.
even for healthy hobbies like reading, when left unsupervised, can lead to dire circumstances. -
jedamum:
I agree that parental supervision is the key. My kids don't play computer games or watch TV daily, but they do sometimes. When they were in Pr school, we were much stricter, but now in sec school, we just tell them that schoolwork, chores and family time take priority, and there is a limit of 1 hr a day for the computer (other than schoolwork-related use). How they choose to use the time is up to them. My husband also believes that some games are good for them although, like jedamum, I'm ignorant about such things (can't think, can't coordinate!). We also believe that our kids need to know what other kids are doing so they don't get left out in conversations and activities. But sometimes I see that reading gets pushed out of the picture, then I will step in an enforce some leisure reading time each day.
my dh is a 'gamer'. kids see him 24/7 spending at least 2 hrs in front of computer. ds2 even advised the dad to rest his eyes.Joule:
if it were up to me, my kid would have an 80s upbringing. No games, give her cassette recorder to play. Maybe kid would be next Jay Chou. har har har!
we intro ds2 to gaming (selected) earlier than ds1 (whom we are stricter previously).
dh stands to believe that certain amount of gaming and done so responsibly promotes logical thinking and hones reflexes (i dunno la..i no gamer...slow reflex so no point of reference).
key is supervision and parental control.
even for healthy hobbies like reading, when left unsupervised, can lead to dire circumstances. -
jedamum:
Hi, understand from your POV. my key point was that kids (not teens, kids) should not play online massive multiplayer games, period. This is because even when you supervise, you cannot screen in the conversations unless you are constantly looking over the shoulder etc. Single player games should be ok. But then, I find them a mega waste of time. I am not a kid but my younger cousin wastes his time (and real world money) playing Adventure Quest. Waste time building up a virtual character. :slapshead:
my dh is a 'gamer'. kids see him 24/7 spending at least 2 hrs in front of computer. ds2 even advised the dad to rest his eyes.Joule:
if it were up to me, my kid would have an 80s upbringing. No games, give her cassette recorder to play. Maybe kid would be next Jay Chou. har har har!
we intro ds2 to gaming (selected) earlier than ds1 (whom we are stricter previously).
dh stands to believe that certain amount of gaming and done so responsibly promotes logical thinking and hones reflexes (i dunno la..i no gamer...slow reflex so no point of reference).
key is supervision and parental control.
even for healthy hobbies like reading, when left unsupervised, can lead to dire circumstances.
Logical thinking is ok and reflexes.....well....fine, I guess.
Supervision and parental control is fine with me but again, my point is for MMORPG you can't screen everything.
And oh, by the way, when I was much younger I would go to the hall to play games when my parents were sleeping...at 2 am in the morning. Use a blanket and boxes to cover and use headphones. Tee hee hee
What I think is positive now (for gaming) is the interest groups and collaboration one can get online. E.g. rubic cube online forums, online Go tournaments,etc. as long as it brings people together in the real world and healthy interactions, it should be ok.
Looking at what gaming potentially cost me.....hmm. Not in a hurry to introduce when kid comes of age. Not in a hurry at all.
Irony: my aunt says I used to play a lot of games but I turned out ok (married, employed, kid, independent) so she's not so worried about her son (my cousin) playing a lot. Man, but the kid doesn't really know how to talk to people, is pasty white and has thick spectacles. Ok loor....I can't judge .... -
Joule:
:yikes:
And oh, by the way, when I was much younger I would go to the hall to play games when my parents were sleeping...at 2 am in the morning. Use a blanket and boxes to cover and use headphones. Tee hee hee
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like me now leh..i use blanket to cover and mute my phone to surf KSP or internet until 1am -
I always limit my DS to 1 hour a day on weekdays and 2 hours a day on weekend.
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Dear parents, never ever give your child total freedom when it comes to online gaming.
I’ll share with all of you a little of my experience as a kid. Online gaming was a relatively new phenomenon back then, but I guess my experience is still relevant today.
I had been at both the TOP and the LOWEST of low of my cohort in the schools I attended. When I was in Primary School, I was considered one of the elite (EM 1). Since the start, I could only play two hours of online gaming and had to engage in two hours of self study in return (excluding homework). At this stage, I could already feel the computer’s force of attraction on me. Nevertheless, through discipline enforced by my parents, my Primary School journey was a bed of roses and i scored 257 for my PSLE.
Of course, I ended up in a decent Secondary School and in one of its top classes. Thinking that I was “big enough” to take care of myself, my parents granted me free access to the computer. Lo and behold, the beast in me was unleashed - I grew totally addicted to online gaming.
Without fail, I would indulge in online gaming everyday for up to 8 hours on weekdays and 14 hours on weekends. It was heaven. Naturally, my results declined, and this continued all the way to the preliminary examinations - for which I scored 41 for the L1R5. Yes, damned 41 and I am being dead honest here. I only took time off from gaming ONE day before the O Level examinations to “chiong sua” on my revisions. In the end, I scored 23 for my L1R5. This was a huge disappointment for me and I promised myself (and my parents) that I will “wake up my bloody idea”.
So came pre-university but I was still trapped by the iron grip of my online gaming addiction. Do not misunderstand - My parents had ALWAYS been there to remind me of my studies, but their reminders and advice went unheard. My habit of last-day “chiong sua” revisions continued all the way to the A Levels. Of course, I screwed up badly but fortunately passed everything (or, rather, unfortunately because I was not allowed to repeat).
So parents, when it comes to online gaming, never ever give them total unrestricted access. I am not blaming my parents at all because they have always been there for me but I was just too weak-minded and the addiction made me rebellious. I sincerely hope we can all learn a lesson or two here.
I wish all of you the best in everything.
PS: I only got over the addiction after being employed while studying at the same time. Interest in gym and fitness helped too. I just needed to keep myself busy and away from gaming.