All About Autism

[jme]

ImMeeMee

I totally agree with u n love your posting to blokus.
May I know how old is your child?
My son joined the cc when he was 2 n half years old n it has been a year. I can’t really describe how his school has helped him cos I believe diet, Dan doc n therapies play a part in his improvement too. The reason I picked this school out of the 3 schools I visited cos I saw caring teachers n happy children. N this is very important to me as I want my child to grow up in a happy environment.

[jme]

Helplessmum,

It is true that I am lucky to be able to afford such costly fees. But I got rid of my maid n sold our family car n had to travel 4 hours on the road every weekday to send my child to cc until we decided to shift recently. I have very bad eczema n my hands always bleed with open wounds due to all the housechores n r badly scarred now. My husband works almost 7 days a week so that my kids can have a better life. I suppose one cannot have best of both worlds n sometimes sacrifices have to be made. Sorry if I crossed the line but if I were you, I would kick your husband’s ass n tell him to get a life n be a man. It irks me when I see such irresponsible man who refuse to look after his family. U can rent out a room to ease your finances. I am sure $500/ month would help too. Of course having a stranger living in the house is not the most comfortable situation but like I said, one has to give up something for another. Ultimately, it is what u really want for your child. Hope I did not offend u.

[helplessmum3]

Jme,

Omg, I too hav bad skin I perfectly understand the pains.


It’s ok u did not offend me at all.

[helplessmum3]

I found this


http://www.hpb.gov.sg/HOPPortal/article?id=10210

[Blokus]

Immeemee


Thank you for the wise words. I agree no less. Even for NT kids, it's not healthy to compare with others. As you say, the best way is to compare our kids against themselves; how they improved over the year. And my son has made remarkable improvement this year, I'm so proud of him for sure. However, I'm not dishearten because I'm comparing him with NT kids. I'm just dishearten whenever he displays autism sign. Perhaps I am still in denial.

What I meant was, he's case is very mild, even milder than the high functioning, milder than the mild cases. As compared to many of you here, I've much, much lesser to work on & I really should'nt be complaining. He's very near to NT, so even if I compare him with NT kids, he's either advance or just a few steps behind.

That's probably why, in social class, I expect him to be the 'better' kids. But I get a rude shock each time, because he moves & fidget, looking away when teacher is talking etc. I've not seen him act like this in school nor the teacher. It just makes me feel dishearten because it pulls me back to, well perhaps, reality that he does have some autism signs. But during the week, in school, at home, he looks like any regular kid that i always slip back to thinking that he's NT. Come sat, I get all dishearten again. :sad:

[helplessmum3]

Blokus,

what is social class? school & teacher also consider social class too. cuz both are in group?

maybe school he already very farmilar. at times they still can generalize once they change of enviroment.

may i know what u say social class wat are this?

[mashy]

Blokus:

Immeemee


Thank you for the wise words. I agree no less. Even for NT kids, it's not healthy to compare with others. As you say, the best way is to compare our kids against themselves; how they improved over the year. And my son has made remarkable improvement this year, I'm so proud of him for sure. However, I'm not dishearten because I'm comparing him with NT kids. I'm just dishearten whenever he displays autism sign. Perhaps I am still in denial.

What I meant was, he's case is very mild, even milder than the high functioning, milder than the mild cases. As compared to many of you here, I've much, much lesser to work on & I really should'nt be complaining. He's very near to NT, so even if I compare him with NT kids, he's either advance or just a few steps behind.

That's probably why, in social class, I expect him to be the 'better' kids. But I get a rude shock each time, because he moves & fidget, looking away when teacher is talking etc. I've not seen him act like this in school nor the teacher. It just makes me feel dishearten because it pulls me back to, well perhaps, reality that he does have some autism signs. But during the week, in school, at home, he looks like any regular kid that i always slip back to thinking that he's NT. Come sat, I get all dishearten again. :sad:

My son also fidgets in class and doesn't seem to be paying attention. But when the teacher asked him questions, he can answer very well. So maybe he just look like he isn't paying attention.

[Double E]

Blokus:

Immeemee


Thank you for the wise words. I agree no less. Even for NT kids, it's not healthy to compare with others. As you say, the best way is to compare our kids against themselves; how they improved over the year. And my son has made remarkable improvement this year, I'm so proud of him for sure. However, I'm not dishearten because I'm comparing him with NT kids. I'm just dishearten whenever he displays autism sign. Perhaps I am still in denial.

What I meant was, he's case is very mild, even milder than the high functioning, milder than the mild cases. As compared to many of you here, I've much, much lesser to work on & I really should'nt be complaining. He's very near to NT, so even if I compare him with NT kids, he's either advance or just a few steps behind.

That's probably why, in social class, I expect him to be the 'better' kids. But I get a rude shock each time, because he moves & fidget, looking away when teacher is talking etc. I've not seen him act like this in school nor the teacher. It just makes me feel dishearten because it pulls me back to, well perhaps, reality that he does have some autism signs. But during the week, in school, at home, he looks like any regular kid that i always slip back to thinking that he's NT. Come sat, I get all dishearten again. :sad:

Blokus
Your boy has not been diagnosed yet right? If so, then perhaps don't worry too much. For all u know, he is not ASD.

Share with you. My friend's boy has ASD traits like speech delay, lack of social comm, don't play with peers and very quiet in school. She sent him for assessment but turn out that he is not ASD, just comms delay. And a client of my husband also has a son who seems to display many ASD traits but after assessment, it is also concluded that he is not ASD. And till today, the boy who was in pri school is still a loner despite not being ASD. So I think you shouldn't worry too much until he has received the official diagnosis.

[Double E]

Mummies


Just want to share with you my boy’s experience at his first neurofeedback session yesterday. It went well, he did not fidget or reject the ‘treatment’, sat through the session and do what he was suppose to do.

The ‘treatment’ is very simple. The therapist will stick two wire on his head and let him watch a nursery song DVD and monitor his brain waves. The image of on the TV screen will change according to the state of his brain. If the image becomes smaller or total blackout, this means his brain is disrupted or something like that. Basically, the session is to condition his brain to behave the normal way and slowly ease out the unnecessary noises in the brain that hinders his speech, attention span etc.

The therapist said that neurofeedback is suppose to give the kid a nudge if he still did not respond well to his therapies. Well…he claimed that he has treated two kids with selective mutism and after the treatment, the kids start to talk. He said that all the therapies like ST , OT etc are treatment from the external and neurofeedback is to target the internal. Once the internal parts i.e the brain is calm, the kid will be more receptive to external treatment.

Not very expensive. First consultation is $120, subsequent session is $60.

[Blokus]

Mashy


My son doesn't fidget in his regular school. He sits still & won't move if he's not suppose to. They even have meditation where he has to sit very still & close his eyes for quite long. He submits to this very well too. But I'm very perplexed that he fidgets in his weekly social class.

Helpless mum
It's a private center I sent him to brush him up for his social skills.

Double E

Thanks for the encouragement. Precisely, I'm hanging onto the hope that he's possibly okay but when I see some behaviors I just plunge right into sadness.