PSLE 2012 - child has no interest to study
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cheerygirl:
one sec 1 girl gave tips. Read with ur DD.I tried with my son.My son started make notes in computer.Talk to her.Let her to talk.my girl has no interest in her studies too. she prefer to watch tv, play with her nieces in the house or sleep, draw, pc games but holding a textbook is the last thing she'll do. she has show symtoms recently in wanting to go out with her frds for movies etc. i rejected her as i think she is not mature enuf to wonder independently outside. she got poor results for this yr P5 exams. very worrying if she continue till PSLE.
we have taken out her fav hobbies to spurn her studies. but she's like nochalent abt it. if she cannot hv this thing, she will live with other alternatives. she always can find something to entertain herself. basically there's nothing we can do to control her, make her come back to her books.
Even the strict tutor almost gave up. she either scribbles on the homework or simple says she dunno how to do.
we are at a loss. dunno how to teach anymore..
shd we bring her to a psychologist? OR some motivation class like mindchamp or Adam Khoo similar enrichment sch??
desperate mom :((
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=68&t=16765
Are u working mom?u can find many tips in many threads.Accumulate and try.All the best! -
whatever it is, always encourage a work hard and play hard system with regards to studies and life. for my both DS, i work hard with them when it comes to examination periods especially my DS1’s PSLE, and then i play hard with him after that, to show that after working hard & completing priorities, he fully deserves to have good fun.
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cheerygirl:
Hi Cherrygal, I had the same problem as yourself. DD still ba-la-lang at p5 but she matured in p6 and applied herself more during the year. She took the PSLE this year. I had been working with a psychologist for DC for the past 3-4 years. But for us, her grades actually improved when I took a step back and managed it at a very high level. Instead of studying for hours, we try to strategise it so that it is more effective or efficient way - study less, score more. DD hates the routine of drills and being a strong-willed child, she becomes very rebellious and oppositional. As she starts seeing results from a different approach, she becomes more motivated to keep up the improvement.my girl has no interest in her studies too. she prefer to watch tv, play with her nieces in the house or sleep, draw, pc games but holding a textbook is the last thing she'll do. she has show symtoms recently in wanting to go out with her frds for movies etc. i rejected her as i think she is not mature enuf to wonder independently outside. she got poor results for this yr P5 exams. very worrying if she continue till PSLE.
we have taken out her fav hobbies to spurn her studies. but she's like nochalent abt it. if she cannot hv this thing, she will live with other alternatives. she always can find something to entertain herself. basically there's nothing we can do to control her, make her come back to her books.
Even the strict tutor almost gave up. she either scribbles on the homework or simple says she dunno how to do.
we are at a loss. dunno how to teach anymore..
shd we bring her to a psychologist? OR some motivation class like mindchamp or Adam Khoo similar enrichment sch??
desperate mom :((
Our learning is also not restricted to exam papers and assessments. I use e-learning platforms and the TV as well.
May I suggest that you read Chen's book on Internal Drive Theory to motivate a child to study. Even if you send your child to psychologist or motivation class, you will still need to enforce certain concepts there to reap the benefits.
I know p1-p5 borderline kids who managed to score above 240 in their respective PSLE years after they became motivated to study in their p6 year. I also know kids in the 270 range who study only about 2-3 hours a day and they do not have tuition. They are not GEPpers and they told me that they pay attention in class and are very focused when they study.
The PSLE result is not out yet so I cannot say if DD will do well but am happy that she had matured during the year and we had grown closer.
There is still time. All the best. -
beanbear\" post_id=\"586211\" time=\"1316082718\" user_id=\"39831:
Hello, banning TV is not really my method, for me either I confiscate his phone and for the youngest I put it in the corner at least 15 minutes
I can feel your frustration and anxiety. You can see the long-term consequences of your child's actions but your child seems to live for each day, each moment and does not fully appreciate why you focus your attention on the need for study and the importance of PSLE.
I'd like to offer a few observations and questions:
1. What daily structure/timetable have you established with your child? Is there a clear agreement between you and your child about how much is spent on each activity eg TV, computer, homework, revision, mealtimes, personal free-and easy time, etc?
My 3 children are not academically strong (2 older ones in P4 & P5 and youngest in K2) but one of the foundations I've instilled in my children is \"Self-Control\" & \"Discipline\" and I achieve these 2 behaviours through Clear Structure for all activities. For eg, my children are only allowed to have 30 mins of TV per child per day. They can choose their own programme on the channels I've approved. How do I know if my children watch only for 30 mins of TV? Each of them MUST use the timer clock (which I've purchased and used since they were in pre-schoolhttps://www.rachat-de-credit-simulation.com/regroupement-de-pret) when they start and when the timer goes off, the TV must be switched off. The timer is a Structure. The Time given of 30mins is also a Structure. What if they do not follow through? I've a clear Structure of Consequences for Non-Compliance or disobedience. They are banned from TV for the next day. Disobey for 2nd time, the ban on TV will be for one week. But I also balance with Rewards. If my child demonstrates he has done his homework properly and show good behaviour or it's the school holiday, they get to watch 1 hour of TV or watch a DVD which is 1.5 hours. This is just one example of TV. I use similar approaches for other activities too.
2. Motivation & Attention. Most children have short attention span and our school system promotes a very dry and unmotivating way of learning. Our children may not see the Relevance of the subjects they learn. They feel demoralized by memorising of facts and feeling underachievement.
For topics that my children are under-achieving and find them dry and boring, I find that as a parent I need to make the revision time in BITE SIZE. I organize the topics and use only 30mins for each topic and try to create some fun into them. For eg, we sometimes we role-play. My children become the Teacher and I become the student. Another time, we may do a quiz game and we form teams and win points. I keep these revision time-slots SHORT. 30 mins and if needed come back for another 30mins after the kids have some playtime.
Other times, I share with my kids which Mathematical operation or Scientific Principle is being used in daily life eg in cooking, in business, in shopping, etc. When children see the connection and relevance, they begin to appreciate. If I make them feel guilty, they will avoid learning and they feel demoralized. My questions for you to consider is: What Learning Approaches will be motivating for your child?
3. Study Environment. Is there a dedicated space for study? How organized and free from distractions is the study space? What environment would help your child to focus his attention? My children are given specific spaces to do their work and I train them to sit only in that space for studying. No studying on beds. I ensure their chairs structured properly for good posture and there's good lighting.
I hope these ideas may help you. -
Hi Parents,
exams had just been over and kids including my son is waiting for school holidays to start. Since next year is his PLSE exam, I would like to do some P6 assessments (Maths) with him. I had tried encouraging him, telling him that I will guide hime through the assessment and we can do the assessment together. However he seemed not motivated. Although he managed to get a 85 for his maths, 84 for his science, I wish to get his momentum continued.
Also what broke my heart is that he said that he mentioned that he had no motivation in studies. When I asked him what will motivate him to study, he said his Roblox and money. He also mentioned that having his own PC in his room will be also another source of motivation since he can play games any time he loved. I explained to him that having his own PC will be a disaster more than a motivation.
Everyday after school, he will just sit infront of the PC, either watching Youtube (about games) or wait for his 1hr and 20 mins gameplay. He still do his school work but he is not paying much attention on them.
I am out of wits to get him motivated, and I dare not imagine what will happen in the following year.
Any advice?
Thanks! -
Durianrama Meng\" post_id=\"2046409\" time=\"1636956743\" user_id=\"155827:[quote=\"Durianrama Meng\" post_id=2046409 time=1636956743 user_id=155827]
I think you son is OK because he still managed to get 80+ score to his maths and science and he do his school work even you think he is not playing much attention on them.
Hi Parents,
exams had just been over and kids including my son is waiting for school holidays to start. Since next year is his PLSE exam, I would like to do some P6 assessments (Maths) with him. I had tried encouraging him, telling him that I will guide hime through the assessment and we can do the assessment together. However he seemed not motivated. Although he managed to get a 85 for his maths, 84 for his science, I wish to get his momentum continued.
Also what broke my heart is that he said that he mentioned that he had no motivation in studies. When I asked him what will motivate him to study, he said his Roblox and money. He also mentioned that having his own PC in his room will be also another source of motivation since he can play games any time he loved. I explained to him that having his own PC will be a disaster more than a motivation.
Everyday after school, he will just sit infront of the PC, either watching Youtube (about games) or wait for his 1hr and 20 mins gameplay. He still do his school work but he is not paying much attention on them.
I am out of wits to get him motivated, and I dare not imagine what will happen in the following year.
Any advice?
Thanks![/quote]
From what you said, my thinking is your son doesn't like too much of your involvement in his life because he has already grown up. He may not happy to be guided by you for his P6 assessment as he wants to do himself.
As a step mother, my step son's exam result were terrible when he was in primary, he failed English and Maths and only able to score 60+ for other subjects but my husband never worried and never pushed him for study instead my husband just told him study was his own matter and as parents, we had confidence on him as he was old enough to make decision how to allocate his time. However, if he wanted any help or need to go any tuition, just let us know.
My step son has already graduated from the SIM University. -
What you described is actually a very typical scenario in Singapore. Family held hostage by son whose motivation to study is only by playing online games. I can commiserate because I used to be like you, and I was at a loss for the 4 years when my son was in Secondary school.
You son is like mine, although his behavior is starting a bit early, as I started having problems with mine when he was in Secondary school. My son loves playing Roblox too, and still plays quite a bit of online games with his classmates.
If you try to limit his access to games, it will only make his habits seem more desirable. What you need to do is to make him SEE that life is MUCH more than playing games, and that there are much more important things out there. Spend some time with him, eg. get him to come to your workplace and see what you do. Let him see how you work, and how you make your money. Ask him how HE will make his money in the future, when he is an adult and by himself.
The important thing is to have a continuous conversation with him. Gradually, you will be someone he trusts, and not someone he manipulates. It is not an easy journey, but that’s what makes life interesting. -
I think a lot of the comments here targets the child and maybe in a way uses fear or intimidation to get the child to understand that PSLE is important.
My bigger question would be for the parents - Are you firm enough? Do you maintain discipline at home? Do you mete out your authority? If the answer to all the questions is no… I think you can start with little steps to maintain an authority at home by being firm about what you need the child to do, for example - screen time, tv time, entertainment time etc.
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