All About Teaching Values
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Hi
During the recent SA2, my girl’s (P5) English result got above 85, and when the teacher went through the paper with the class, my girl spotted an error in marking & highlighted to her teacher. Thus, resulting in deduction of 1.5 mark - nevertheless, after deduction still in band 1. The best part is she told me if teacher did not deduct the 1.5 mark, her English mark would have been the highest in the whole co-hort, and she could have gotten a recognition.
I told her in Chinese saying - straight straight honest honest one day sure be beggar. Sometimes in life you need to be smart, selfish and tell a bit of white lies, and I told her I am sure some of her friends would have just keep quiet when teacher mark wrongly. Am I wrong to advocate such advice? Am I teaching the wrong values? Appreciate your kind comment. Thanks. -
mel2sg:
That's an interesting dilemma. Especially since in this case the mistake is made by the teacher (in marking wrongly), and the student (in not answering correctly).Hi
During the recent SA2, my girl's (P5) English result got above 85, and when the teacher went through the paper with the class, my girl spotted an error in marking & highlighted to her teacher. Thus, resulting in deduction of 1.5 mark - nevertheless, after deduction still in band 1. The best part is she told me if teacher did not deduct the 1.5 mark, her English mark would have been the highest in the whole co-hort, and she could have gotten a recognition.
I told her in Chinese saying - straight straight honest honest one day sure be beggar. Sometimes in life you need to be smart, selfish and tell a bit of white lies, and I told her I am sure some of her friends would have just keep quiet when teacher mark wrongly. Am I wrong to advocate such advice? Am I teaching the wrong values? Appreciate your kind comment. Thanks.
But is it not better to live in truth than cower in lies? If one wins a race not because of one's own prowess, then one will always doubt himself - could he have won the race fair and square?
I feel you should have commended your child for her honesty, which is undoubtedly noted by her teacher. It is not worth sacrificing truth just to top a class. -
mel2sg:
I think you should be proud of your DD. She did the right thing. Such wrong markings happened in my DS' primary and secondary school too. Whenever someone did the honest thing like your DD, the teacher or school would praise him/her. My DC told us about it and we told them it is the right thing to do too.Hi
During the recent SA2, my girl's (P5) English result got above 85, and when the teacher went through the paper with the class, my girl spotted an error in marking & highlighted to her teacher. Thus, resulting in deduction of 1.5 mark - nevertheless, after deduction still in band 1. The best part is she told me if teacher did not deduct the 1.5 mark, her English mark would have been the highest in the whole co-hort, and she could have gotten a recognition.
I told her in Chinese saying - straight straight honest honest one day sure be beggar. Sometimes in life you need to be smart, selfish and tell a bit of white lies, and I told her I am sure some of her friends would have just keep quiet when teacher mark wrongly. Am I wrong to advocate such advice? Am I teaching the wrong values? Appreciate your kind comment. Thanks. -
mel2sg:
Your girl did well by being honest. At least she can hold her head up high and I am sure the teacher will remember her for her integrity.Hi
During the recent SA2, my girl's (P5) English result got above 85, and when the teacher went through the paper with the class, my girl spotted an error in marking & highlighted to her teacher. Thus, resulting in deduction of 1.5 mark - nevertheless, after deduction still in band 1. The best part is she told me if teacher did not deduct the 1.5 mark, her English mark would have been the highest in the whole co-hort, and she could have gotten a recognition.
I told her in Chinese saying - straight straight honest honest one day sure be beggar. Sometimes in life you need to be smart, selfish and tell a bit of white lies, and I told her I am sure some of her friends would have just keep quiet when teacher mark wrongly. Am I wrong to advocate such advice? Am I teaching the wrong values? Appreciate your kind comment. Thanks.
Life is not about winning at all expense. At the end of the day, nobody remembers how many medals or how much money you have but whether you have treated others fairly and with kindness and honesty. -
Raemuumy:
Our children learn best when they see us in action. Checking our own actions as parents takes some effort, but it is definitely worth the effort.verykiasumummy:
i like to flip thru the newspaper for interesting stories and articles to share with my kids... moreover, they are real life incidents so kids can relate more by seeing the actual ppl involved... it somehow works better than those books on illustrations..
of cos, i did tat when they reach p2-p3, cos they may not understand those at younger age..
Me too. I share stories and news with my kids, hoping to developing a reading interest for themselves. -
Yup, learning the values young indeed will be beneficial to their growing up stages.
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parents cultivate our child values , so true . Agree with channel education !
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sundaymorning:
parents cultivate our child values , so true . Agree with channel education !
To add on, true child values are learnt from home...from the parents....
but Im just wondering how true is it that modern parents have no time and assumingly pass this role to the school teachers and expecting them to do that...
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Being a role model to the children is a must, they learn from the way we behave as adults. They also learn from others who they see and learn from too, like their teacher or tutors who are teaching them.
They are like the MINI US. Hee… (My two daughter look like me) -
Hiholow:
I totally agree...cos they are sponges when they are young and they absorb almost everything including values, habits, attitudes, mindset by observing us all the time...most adults thought that as long as the kids are nearby but not watching, they can talk or do whatever they want....but children are smart...they are always listening and watching from the corner of their eyes.Being a role model to the children is a must, they learn from the way we behave as adults. They also learn from others who they see and learn from too, like their teacher or tutors who are teaching them.
They are like the MINI US. Hee... (My two daughter look like me)
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