All About Preparing For PSLE

[wonderm]

mummy OnABudget:

Skyed:

[quote=\"mummy OnABudget\"]talking scolding last resort caning all not working in the end i guess i said the hardest thing any parent can say to their ds or dd I GIVE UP ON YOU!!!


I came home around 10pm alas all my hopes were dash he only did 1 composition the whole day and nothing else, if the hand writing was not that horrible if he did not act like he did not care i will not have blown but i did now i am outside my house taking a breather with a pack of cigg haiz my hubby was stunned to see me say what i did.

It's the holidays, honestly I think you're over reacting. If it were like a week before exams I could understand.

Its up to u to think what u want, from my pov as what his teachers has all been drilling PSLE preparation has to start right from pri 5 have a break yes he had he went for a holiday i am not forcing him to study non stop 24/7.

i given him breaks even breaking my own rules like his sch xmas party on the 21st was actually a no go for him cause he did do what i asked from him but i soften and let him go with him promising me he will do what is ask of him, but it was all just empty promises from him.

I have always let him do what he wants but this time is different he need the push i am doing just that not too much not too little.

3 compos in 9hrs i am not asking for much all i want is RESPONSIBILITY.[/quote]mummy OnABudget, it is really not easy to do 3 compo consecutively in 9 hours, when a 11 year-old is on his own at home, when it is still holiday and PSLE being months away. Of course, that's just me and it doesn't mean no one could do it. I think it takes someone with extraordinary motivation, self discipline and sense of urgency. This might be your expectation of him, just hope you are not too upset with him if he couldn't do it yet.

No offense here.

Happy New Year to you and family!

[mum-s]

I made my first post on this forum a few weeks back after my dd got her results. I felt some disappointment and wondered if I should have pushed her esp when she has the capability to do very well. Her results were good, just not what her full potential would have achieved. It took a couple of days for me to really remember why I pulled back on the 'pushing' for my children, and to 'see' again.


Five years back, a dear friend's child died tragically in an accident. Every mother's greatest fear and sorrow. I was at her house during the funeral and there was a pile of exam papers (those 'other schools exam papers' which we all have) on a table. My friend looked at it and cried, wishing she hadn't forced these things on him and focused so much on studies, that she could have given him a happy childhood, that she could just hold him and hug him.

Like her, I think quite many of us are working mums, by the time we're back home, there are just a couple of hours left before the kids sleep. We haven't showered, haven't eaten and the kids haven't finished their homework or papers we set them. Tempers fray easily and the kids get it from us. A usual routine, but that becomes their childhood that they grow up with.

I have not found it easy to balance. Kiasuism rears its head often and I have to control it. The kids still have to have study discipline. They must still aim for the best. But I tell myself - balance.

This new year, especially for the mums preparing their ds and dd for PSLE, I wish you patience. And remember to hug them even when you push them.
:snuggles:

[atutor2001]

Haven’t been logging in for quite some time. However, general perception gathered is that many parents only start preparing kids for PSLE in P5 or 6. I think that is a no no.


Attitude, time management, self motivation, … of the kid cannot be changed/cultivated in 2 years. These attributes take time to build. Learning becomes fun when the kid knows most of the answers. Time needed to complete works also shortened, leaving time for games. The nice feeling of everybody thinking that he/she is good will spur the kid, wanting to maintain if not perform better.

I started preparation for my kids since P1. P1 was a clear demarcation line to them on the difference between "play play" to organised study. By P6, you will find that they need only half the time to complete a normal assignment/paper. They have plenty of spare time for games. Don’t torture them only at P5/6 with exam papers - it is a bit too late.

[SAHM_TAN]

I do not belong to this thread but I agree with atutor2001. I started this yr too when DD1 was in P1. Becos many of the habits need time to build up. Skills need time to build up too. This is not a signal for end of childhood. She still gets to play a lot with her younger siblings.


I think much still can be achieved at P5/P6, all is not lost. Just need more effort from parents to get the buy-in from kids.

PSLE, in fact academic and non-academic achievements, should not affect parent-child relationship in a negative manner. In the long run, it’s not worth it. Relationship should be over everything else.

I do understand the stress, I look at what’s required for PSLE and I am speechless.

Maybe becos I was from a neighbourhood sec school so after a yr in the system with dd1, I have decided to do things my way. Heehee.

All the best to the parents.

Happy New Year!!!

[janet88]

atutor2001:

I started preparation for my kids since P1. P1 was a clear demarcation line to them on the difference between \"play play\" to organised study. By P6, you will find that they need only half the time to complete a normal assignment/paper. They have plenty of spare time for games. Don't torture them only at P5/6 with exam papers - it is a bit too late.

It's not kiasuism in action...but I do agree with you PSLE preparation should begin...or rather the discipline to learn, keep to a schedule and read whenever free from P1. When the child is so lax, pushing him/her at P5 will literally kill all interest in learning and stress the kids out. Consistent revision is crucial. Start early...the child will not be tortured.

[julialai]

mum-s:

I made my first post on this forum a few weeks back after my dd got her results. I felt some disappointment and wondered if I should have pushed her esp when she has the capability to do very well. Her results were good, just not what her full potential would have achieved. It took a couple of days for me to really remember why I pulled back on the 'pushing' for my children, and to 'see' again.


Five years back, a dear friend's child died tragically in an accident. Every mother's greatest fear and sorrow. I was at her house during the funeral and there was a pile of exam papers (those 'other schools exam papers' which we all have) on a table. My friend looked at it and cried, wishing she hadn't forced these things on him and focused so much on studies, that she could have given him a happy childhood, that she could just hold him and hug him.

Like her, I think quite many of us are working mums, by the time we're back home, there are just a couple of hours left before the kids sleep. We haven't showered, haven't eaten and the kids haven't finished their homework or papers we set them. Tempers fray easily and the kids get it from us. A usual routine, but that becomes their childhood that they grow up with.

I have not found it easy to balance. Kiasuism rears its head often and I have to control it. The kids still have to have study discipline. They must still aim for the best. But I tell myself - balance.

This new year, especially for the mums preparing their ds and dd for PSLE, I wish you patience. And remember to hug them even when you push them.
:snuggles:

Typical scenario in a dual income family..sigh.

Thank you for your sharing, mum-s. My heart goes out to your friend. It's a good reminder to us to love our children unconditionally. And yes, hug them. :snuggles: They may not allow us to do so when they are older.

[elkniwt]

wonderm:

mummy OnABudget:

3 compos in 9hrs i am not asking for much all i want is RESPONSIBILITY.

mummy OnABudget, it is really not easy to do 3 compo consecutively in 9 hours, when a 11 year-old is on his own at home, when it is still holiday and PSLE being months away. Of course, that's just me and it doesn't mean no one could do it. I think it takes someone with extraordinary motivation, self discipline and sense of urgency. This might be your expectation of him, just hope you are not too upset with him if he couldn't do it yet.

No offense here.

Happy New Year to you and family!

Dear mummy Onabudget,

No offense. I concur with wonderm. I think it is really tough to do 3 compos in 9 hrs. Maybe can consider a more varied \"menu\" - a bit of different subjects ?? (only a little suggestion)

I can understand your stress since my dd has just gone thr PSLE. Just to share, my dd has never ever been able to churn out 3 compos in a day. Doing one compo is already very draining. 1 compo done is already an achievement.

All the best to you and your ds. Take care and don't burn yourself or your ds out.

[elkniwt]

mum-s:

I made my first post on this forum a few weeks back after my dd got her results. I felt some disappointment and wondered if I should have pushed her esp when she has the capability to do very well. Her results were good, just not what her full potential would have achieved. It took a couple of days for me to really remember why I pulled back on the 'pushing' for my children, and to 'see' again.


Five years back, a dear friend's child died tragically in an accident. Every mother's greatest fear and sorrow. I was at her house during the funeral and there was a pile of exam papers (those 'other schools exam papers' which we all have) on a table. My friend looked at it and cried, wishing she hadn't forced these things on him and focused so much on studies, that she could have given him a happy childhood, that she could just hold him and hug him.

Like her, I think quite many of us are working mums, by the time we're back home, there are just a couple of hours left before the kids sleep. We haven't showered, haven't eaten and the kids haven't finished their homework or papers we set them. Tempers fray easily and the kids get it from us. A usual routine, but that becomes their childhood that they grow up with.

I have not found it easy to balance. Kiasuism rears its head often and I have to control it. The kids still have to have study discipline. They must still aim for the best. But I tell myself - balance.

This new year, especially for the mums preparing their ds and dd for PSLE, I wish you patience. And remember to hug them even when you push them.
:snuggles:

Thank you for your post mum-s. Feel so sad for your friend. I am going to hug my dd now.

[janet88]

Preparing for PSLE is really 酸甜苦辣…I experienced this year…a mere 9 months but very very memorable.

Next year’s PSLE is earlier…time frame to prepare is shorter. So taking all this into consideration, I can understand parents’ stress level but do also remember the kids are the ones taking PSLE. No matter how trying things are, do not scream…motivate and encourage them. You cannot afford to let them burn out.

[mummy OnABudget]

yea plus pms mood swings is so horrible anyway we do alternate subjects through the week 1 day maths 1day science and so on, he use to be able to churn out 5 compos aday but now is just getting lesser thus i feel very let down whatever the casxe i wrote him a letter telling him why and what i am feeling about his slacking nevertheless i did add in no matter what mummy still loves you all i want is u to ask yourself did u do your best.