All About Preparing For PSLE
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mummy OnABudget:
no matter what mummy still loves you all i want is u to ask yourself did u do your best.
PSLE is the first major exam...there are many more to come. No relationship should sour over this...instead, the relationship between mother and child should strengthen bcos she has to motivate and encourage her child. This year, I controlled my temper and moods when I faced him. It was hard on him as it was, to handle stress from tutors and to want to do well.
I let go...by doing so, I gained a happy child.
As long as we can see the effort put in, that is what any parent wants. -
janet_lee88:
Wisdom from seasoned KSP indeed.mummy OnABudget:
no matter what mummy still loves you all i want is u to ask yourself did u do your best.
PSLE is the first major exam...there are many more to come. No relationship should sour over this...instead, the relationship between mother and child should strengthen bcos she has to motivate and encourage her child. This year, I controlled my temper and moods when I faced him. It was hard on him as it was, to handle stress from tutors and to want to do well.
I let go...by doing so, I gained a happy child.
As long as we can see the effort put in, that is what any parent wants. -
janet_lee88:
Janet i really got to learn from you to let go and i am trying to hopefully it works.mummy OnABudget:
no matter what mummy still loves you all i want is u to ask yourself did u do your best.
PSLE is the first major exam...there are many more to come. No relationship should sour over this...instead, the relationship between mother and child should strengthen bcos she has to motivate and encourage her child. This year, I controlled my temper and moods when I faced him. It was hard on him as it was, to handle stress from tutors and to want to do well.
I let go...by doing so, I gained a happy child.
As long as we can see the effort put in, that is what any parent wants.
Lastly happy new yr everyone hope ur 2013 will be awesome. -
mummy OnABudget:
Janet i really got to learn from you to let go and i am trying to hopefully it works.janet_lee88:
[quote=\"mummy OnABudget\"]no matter what mummy still loves you all i want is u to ask yourself did u do your best.
I let go...by doing so, I gained a happy child.
As long as we can see the effort put in, that is what any parent wants.
Lastly happy new yr everyone hope ur 2013 will be awesome.[/quote]There were times I did use the cane, but it was for disciplinary issues. I asked him if he knew why i caned him and he understood.
All the best to you mummies for 2013. Have a happy and healthy year ahead. If you need to, pour out your woes here. We may not be able to help, but don't bottle up.
:celebrate: cheers. -
Hi mummies,
For my our case, DS has poor attitude towards studies. His P5 result was only in B and C grades. I realized that he did not put in efforts in his work. Thus we recruit tutor for the subject he dislike which is Chinese. As he was also weak in English, we also find him a tutor too. Our weekday evening were busy as there are tutors and piano teachers coming to our house. As for Maths and Science, DS attended weekend group tuition.
Even though DS was at neighborhood school,he was given many PSLE practice paper after the SA1 especially for English. During the Sept holiday, I noticed that DS anyhow completes his school worksheets, he did not even answer to the question for the open ended comprehension. He just wanted to complete those worksheet on time. I was fuming and I scolded him for his bad attitude towards his work. And I wanted him to redo those questions that he did not do properly.
My message to parents that preparing their kids for Psle, we have to be the "monitress" towards children studies although having tuitions. Some kids got to be "push" to obtain better grades. Kids need our 'physical’support to their studies. We really have to study with them rather than screaming. After going through those past year papers and tuition papers with DS, I got to know the subject expectation especially for Science.
We are glad that DS grades has improved after the effort. It shows that he is more careful and cautions on his work. -
I believe the starting point for preparation is for the parents and child to sit down and understand the goals and expectations of each other. Not every child wants to go to RI or RGS and not every parent expects the child to get >270 for PSLE.
This mistake of what a child or parent wants leads to anxiety which can and will affect the PSLE preparation. Get the talk done NOW! Let the parent and child know what each other hopes for and see each other’s point of view. The 11/12 year olds of today is very different from the 11/12 year old of 30-40 years ago (the parents).
The talk is a talk and not a shopping list of what the parent expects of the child. It is to "talk to" and not "talk down" to the child.
Once the talk is done and parents and child have had a chance to digest the expectations and hopes of the other, then have the 2nd talk and reach the understanding of what is the common or agreed upon expectations and goals of both parties.
Now with that done, then plan of action must be discussed and I propose the following in no particular order;
1. What are the weak subjects or areas in each subject?
2. What is child’s solution to deal with weak subjects? (remember child is sitting not parents from 30-40 years ago)
3. Does parent agree with solution and can parent support it?
4. If not supportable (financially, illogical or too difficult to achieve), what can parent propose as solution(remember parent is the guide, so guide!!)
5. Set the timetable to implement solutions for weak subjects or areas
6. Give support by encouraging child that with the timetable the weak subjects or areas WILL be overcome and continue to remind child that other subjects or areas not to be neglected
7. Parent must find the time to continue to guide and make sure child sticks to timetable.
8. Parent must make time to sit down and TALK about child’s progress and what anxieties child faces. These should be regular TALKS and 5-10 mins 1-2x a week should be enough. Do not over stress child but at the same time help child to pace.
Each child is different so time to TALK, frequency of TALK is for u to decide, you are the parent/guide. You are guiding your child on his travel along the PSLE pathway. At the end of that PSLE pathway there will other paths to walk on. -
Just relax:
:goodpost:I believe the starting point for preparation is for the parents and child to sit down and understand the goals and expectations of each other. Not every child wants to go to RI or RGS and not every parent expects the child to get >270 for PSLE.
This mistake of what a child or parent wants leads to anxiety which can and will affect the PSLE preparation. Get the talk done NOW! Let the parent and child know what each other hopes for and see each other's point of view. The 11/12 year olds of today is very different from the 11/12 year old of 30-40 years ago (the parents).
The talk is a talk and not a shopping list of what the parent expects of the child. It is to \"talk to\" and not \"talk down\" to the child.
Once the talk is done and parents and child have had a chance to digest the expectations and hopes of the other, then have the 2nd talk and reach the understanding of what is the common or agreed upon expectations and goals of both parties.
Now with that done, then plan of action must be discussed and I propose the following in no particular order;
1. What are the weak subjects or areas in each subject?
2. What is child's solution to deal with weak subjects? (remember child is sitting not parents from 30-40 years ago)
3. Does parent agree with solution and can parent support it?
4. If not supportable (financially, illogical or too difficult to achieve), what can parent propose as solution(remember parent is the guide, so guide!!)
5. Set the timetable to implement solutions for weak subjects or areas
6. Give support by encouraging child that with the timetable the weak subjects or areas WILL be overcome and continue to remind child that other subjects or areas not to be neglected
7. Parent must find the time to continue to guide and make sure child sticks to timetable.
8. Parent must make time to sit down and TALK about child's progress and what anxieties child faces. These should be regular TALKS and 5-10 mins 1-2x a week should be enough. Do not over stress child but at the same time help child to pace.
Each child is different so time to TALK, frequency of TALK is for u to decide, you are the parent/guide. You are guiding your child on his travel along the PSLE pathway. At the end of that PSLE pathway there will other paths to walk on.
A good start for the year :rahrah: -
recieved the best news today was hoping ds will be getting tough teachers and yes he has all his teachers are all HOD lol his last yr form teacher told him if u think last yr with me was tough good luck to you this yr and pls make me proud.
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mummy OnABudget:
recieved the best news today was hoping ds will be getting tough teachers and yes he has all his teachers are all HOD lol his last yr form teacher told him if u think last yr with me was tough good luck to you this yr and pls make me proud.
:congrats: -
mummy OnABudget:
recieved the best news today was hoping ds will be getting tough teachers and yes he has all his teachers are all HOD lol his last yr form teacher told him if u think last yr with me was tough good luck to you this yr and pls make me proud.
wah ! day 1 of school already received prep talk :salute:
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