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[Coolkidsrock2]

kitty2:

Coolkidsrock2:

It can be hard for some parents to accept kids who are not performing to their expectations. A couple of my friends will be sending their kids to boarding school soon cos kids performed below expectations in PSLE.

Is there such a school in S'pore?I know NYG has.

Not that I am aware of. They are going overseas.

[Flowermonaster]

firefly38:

Flowermonaster:

[quote=\"Namie\"]Our son is lazy, spending his time on TV only. My husband and I have decided to send him away for good. Do anyone know are there children's homes to take in the kid?

I don't believe what I am reading! You are kidding right?

If she is kidding, then it is NOT funny..
If she is not kidding, then it IS funny..
Wa, son is lazy & watches TV, must send him away for good.. Then many kids will be sent away for good.. Hubbies too.. :siao:[/quote]Errh... I don't find it funny either way leh but I do agreed it's :siao:
Normal & responsible people just dont send their kids away when they don't meet their expectation. This is kind of extreme...... :faint:

[alng]

Coolkidsrock2:

kitty2:

[quote=\"Coolkidsrock2\"]It can be hard for some parents to accept kids who are not performing to their expectations. A couple of my friends will be sending their kids to boarding school soon cos kids performed below expectations in PSLE.

Is there such a school in S'pore?I know NYG has.

Not that I am aware of. They are going overseas.[/quote]Why didn't the parents consider international schools here? I have friends who send their kids to international schools as their kids' PSLE results are not good enough to enter the schools of their choice.

[schweppes]

alng:

Why didn't the parents consider international schools here? I have friends who send their kids to international schools as their kids' PSLE results are not good enough to enter the schools of their choice.

unfortunately, not everyone can afford to pay international sch fees. :moneyflies: :moneyflies:

[schweppes]

Namie:

Our son is lazy, spending his time on TV only. My husband and I have decided to send him away for good. Do anyone know are there children's homes to take in the kid?

:hugs: to u, Namie.

I'm sorry to read about your frustration and disappointment. You must be feeling very hurt and lousy to make such a candid post. Sometimes, in our frustrations and disappointments, or when we feel that our kids do not live up to our expectations, we say all these horrible and mean things. But deep down, I know u don't mean it. At least, I hope not.

If u feel that your child is not performing up to mark or he may have some behavioral issues, maybe you can talk to the teachers or school counsellor to mediate on your behalf? Sometimes our kids would rather listen to a 3rd party rather than his own parents. There cd be reasons for his misbehaviour which u may not be aware of.

Hopefully things will get better for u... :snuggles:

[concern2]

Namie:

Our son is lazy, spending his time on TV only. My husband and I have decided to send him away for good. Do anyone know are there children's homes to take in the kid?

Unplugging and selling away the TV is one option you can consider, unless, that is, you are more unwilling to let go of your TV than of your child.

[alng]

schweppes:

alng:

Why didn't the parents consider international schools here? I have friends who send their kids to international schools as their kids' PSLE results are not good enough to enter the schools of their choice.

unfortunately, not everyone can afford to pay international sch fees. :moneyflies: :moneyflies:

I was referring to the earlier post that parents sent their kids overseas after the PSLE. If can afford overseas, sure can afford the international schools fees here. At least the parents are still with the kids when the kids are in the international schools here, as compared to the overseas boarding schools.

[Coolkidsrock2]

Hi alng, I also share your sentiments. I also do not understand but paiseh to ask for details or give advice. They only mention that they are looking for boarding schools.


To me, it is almost like rejecting the child and this is the age and time where parents need to be around. One of my friends was sent to boarding school around 14/15 years old, relationship with parents quite distant after her return. If not because her mum is a single parent, she would not return.

[Namie]

Hi! We have been very patient with him since he was in P1. Both of us work very long hours and by the time we reach home everyday, it is around 9.30pm. Just imagine, we wake up at 5.30am and work till 9pm daily and longer during peak.


We set homework for him and everyday without fail, not a single question is done. Came out with garbage excuses like forgot, thought I said homework was for tomorrow, etc. The whole week went by and it still wasn't done. This was his behaviour since P1.

In addition, everyday without fail there will be notes from teachers saying he did not hand in his homework and he didn't even care!

We have told him many times. Both my husband and I were not high achievers in school. Not just because our parents were not well-off enough to give us the resources but we were too playful then to realise the importance of doing well in school and exams. That is why we later saw classmates got higher pay and jobs because they have honours degrees. Fellow colleagues get promoted faster because honours degrees holders are on a different career track. Honours degree holders and scholars are referred to as talents and normal degree holders are referred to as work horses. If he doesn't wake up now, he will lead a worse life than us in the future.

[ngl2010]

Namie:

Hi! We have been very patient with him since he was in P1. Both of us work very long hours and by the time we reach home everyday, it is around 9.30pm. Just imagine, we wake up at 5.30am and work till 9pm daily and longer during peak.


We set homework for him and everyday without fail, not a single question is done. Came out with garbage excuses like forgot, thought I said homework was for tomorrow, etc. The whole week went by and it still wasn't done. This was his behaviour since P1.

In addition, everyday without fail there will be notes from teachers saying he did not hand in his homework and he didn't even care!

Hi. They are just kids...

I was like you when DS was in term 1 P5. I expect him to be mature enough to schedule his day. I only want result like what we expect people in office behave. I don't care when he does his homework during the day. I just want it to be done.

Sadly, it did not materialise. Homeworks were still not done when I checked them at night. I blew up. But DH told me that DS is just a kid. Treat him as a kid. Plan his day. I did what DH told me and things turned out better. Homeworks done, additional works done.

Kids are just kids. I think it is rare to find kids that are self discipline especially if he is just P1 (or older now). He needs your attention, love and guidance. Be patient, guide him and show him a lot of love. You need to spend more time with him. Come home earlier and guide him. It is a sacrifice to your career but it will worth it. He will improve.