Do you cane your daughters when they misbehave?

[hotmama77]

If she gets poor results because of laziness and not wanting to study, then yes, she deserves to be caned.


But if she puts in effots to study but still can’t get the desired results, then parents should know and should not cane the girl.

[hotmama77]

Chucksta:

I bought 3 canes from a HDB shop. They are very thin, short and with a plastic hook on the end. I use it to scare my kid by hitting the sofa or bed and they keep on snapping.


Where can I buy the thicker and longer canes like they have in schools?

the canes i find nowadays are thin and look as if they will break very easily.

Any idea where to get longer and stronger canes?

[hotmama77]

i also want to tell parents that if u are using the cane on ur DDs, remember to cane them on the buttocks because the cane marks on arms and legs would hurt their pride when their friends see them

[concern2]

hotmama77:

i also want to tell parents that if u are using the cane on ur DDs, remember to cane them on the buttocks because the cane marks on arms and legs would hurt their pride when their friends see them

...and teacher will call you up to interrogate you...

[janice75]

Chucksta:

I bought 3 canes from a HDB shop. They are very thin, short and with a plastic hook on the end. I use it to scare my kid by hitting the sofa or bed and they keep on snapping.


Where can I buy the thicker and longer canes like they have in schools?

those canes used in sch will cause severe pain, so i don't think it's possible to buy them outside

[kwcllf]

Lilac66:

My DH and I had actually used the cane on my DS when he was younger and misbehaving. It helped in that the pain reminded him about repeating bad behaviour like rudeness etc.

But I would not advocate caning to get good grades, esp if the child has already done her best...

Totally agree!

But I only caned them when they were much younger, and only sparingly, although on several ocassions I really whacked hard due to extremely bad behaviour. Now that they are older, I still threaten them sometimes (like fighting among siblings) with cane but I don't use it.

[mummyJune]

my 6 yr old niece is very rude to her grandmother who is my mil. there were so many times when she will shout & demand things loudly to my mil. Last night she did it again & i asked my mil why did she not scold this granddaughter or tell her mum(my sil) about her bad behaviour. Mil said she had told my sil so many times but no use because sil behaviour is exactly like her daughter, both of them are rude & not respectful at all. MIL also said she is worst than a maid. last time FIL cane my niece when she is very naughty, but sil scold FIL & say he abuse her daughter but problem is sil is the mother yet her daughter misbehave she never teach properly still want to scold FIL. Sometimes really got no eye to see. i see my inlaws being treated like that i feel sad for them.


MIL said my niece behave very badly at home whilelse at school she is so quiet, does not talk to ppl. I really don’t understand why got such parent like my sil, her daughter scream & shout at mil, she also never scold her, just let her be.

[octoberbaby]

I use the cane bought from outside but no use, too soft, bend and broken easily.


Now using anything that can be found in the house. Caning not everyday affair but accumulative mistakes.

Because the kids move during canning, sometimes, cannot target properly. The cane marks will be everywhere on the arms and legs. Let teachers see, it is ok, at least they know how to handle my kids.

[Mawar]

mummyJune:

my 6 yr old niece is very rude to her grandmother who is my mil. there were so many times when she will shout & demand things loudly to my mil. Last night she did it again & i asked my mil why did she not scold this granddaughter or tell her mum(my sil) about her bad behaviour. Mil said she had told my sil so many times but no use because sil behaviour is exactly like her daughter, both of them are rude & not respectful at all. MIL also said she is worst than a maid. last time FIL cane my niece when she is very naughty, but sil scold FIL & say he abuse her daughter but problem is sil is the mother yet her daughter misbehave she never teach properly still want to scold FIL. Sometimes really got no eye to see. i see my inlaws being treated like that i feel sad for them.


MIL said my niece behave very badly at home whilelse at school she is so quiet, does not talk to ppl. I really don't understand why got such parent like my sil, her daughter scream & shout at mil, she also never scold her, just let her be.

Pray I don't see your niece in action! :rotflmao:

I witnessed a boy about 9/10 years of age shouting at his mom. He kicked and shoved the shopping trolley towards her. This went on for awhile. I had walked away but my feet made a detour. I held on to the trolley, looked the boy firmly in the eye, and asked him to take a grip of himself. Told him his behaviour was most unbecoming and rude. If he continued with his tirade, I would call the police for disrupting the peace.

I was prepared for the mom to turn on me. Both of them stared at me, didn't say a word and walked away.

Actually I am a very cool and collected person by nature. If given the choice I would just walk away. With that boy, I felt like I had to do my civic duty. Couldn't turn a blind eye and just walk away.

[jtoh]

octoberbaby:

I use the cane bought from outside but no use, too soft, bend and broken easily.


Now using anything that can be found in the house. Caning not everyday affair but accumulative mistakes.

Because the kids move during canning, sometimes, cannot target properly. The cane marks will be everywhere on the arms and legs. Let teachers see, it is ok, at least they know how to handle my kids.

How hard do you cane your kids to have the cane break easily? :yikes: