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[helplessmum3]

slmkhoo:

helplessmum3:

Mashy, will training pants help ?

Not really. Kids often regard them as another form of diaper. I found them mostly useful to me as they are easier to remove but still catch accidents. For your son, just remember to bring him to the toilet often, just as they do in the childcare. Your son is only 3yo, and some NT kids aren't even reliably trained at that age, so give him more leeway. He will get the hang of it eventually. Also, he recently started at a new school, so give him time to settle down - stress and changes always retard toilet training.

ok understand thanks.

[helplessmum3]

mashy:

Helplessmum

Agree with simkhoo. I don't use training pants for my younger gal except at night now so that she can pull it down and wears back herself if she wanna go toilet.

There are bound to be accidents. I have picked up poo a few times myself. It's part of parenting. Happens to all children whether NT or not.

wow ok thanks.

[specialboymum]

Hello mummies,


Need your advice, especially those who have experience dealing with your kids sensory issue. Is there any way to teach our kids self calming technique, so that they will better regulate themselves when they are faced with "crisis"or unexpected events.

Yesterday during the last period in school, some of his classmates left earlier for CCA. I think it was the first day of CCA so the kids naturally get excited. I think all the excitement and commotion around got my boy really confused. He dashed off the classroom. Nobody knew where he ran to. It didn’t help when the last period teacher in charge is a relief teacher who isn’t aware of the class situation and my boy’s condition. Also one of the boys who always hold his hand to bring him to the bus waiting area stayed back for CCA.
He missed his school bus. When we realize he didn’t take his school bus, we quickly call the school, luckily, one of the boys found him and brought him to the office to wait for us to pick him up.

His form teacher called and reassure me that it won’t happen again. Actually, I am not faulting the school. In a mainstream setting, I cannot expect them to keep an eye on my boy all the time. However, I would like to find out if there is a way I can teach him to calm himself down, and take better approach in handling situation like this. As he grows up, he will be faced with many kind of crisis and events. It is impossible for me to pre-empt every thing that may happen to him, and to write social stories on. Also, we cannot assume somebody will always be there to manage him, so it will be best if he could learn to manage himself.

[nugget]

specialboymum,


I am glad that your boy is fine. We have lost our boy before and I totally understand that kind of fear of not knowing where he is.

My boy have not start P1 but we have started planning for the following:

1. Teach him to look at clock and when it is time, he should go wait for the bus.

2. Give him a phone (he already knows how to call us), and call us if he is lost or dunno what to do. Will also train him to ask teachers for help.

3. Give him a phone with GPS enabled, so we can track his location in case he really got lost and we can track and give him a call.

I dunno what ideas other mummies have. I am also worry about my son myself. I also intend to let him take school bus too.

[mashy]

Specialboymum


Understand how u feel. Mine ran out of classroom once last year too when the musc teacher came. The teacher sent some kids to chase after him. Perhaps u can let the sch bus in charge know. Usually they have a list and will tick off all the kids before sending them to the bus. I don’t know how yours work but that’s how I see my son’s sch work. If he’s missing then at least they will know. Is there an assistant teacher in class? U can also ask for the aed to check during dismissal. I’ve seen the aed in my boy’s sch doing her rounds at the end of sch, checking those taking sch bus.

[mummy so kiasu]

specialboymum:

Also one of the boys who always hold his hand to bring him to the bus waiting area stayed back for CCA.
He missed his school bus. When we realize he didn't take his school bus, we quickly call the school, luckily, one of the boys found him and brought him to the office to wait for us to pick him up.

Inform the school bus auntie about the incident & his condition. Ask she to help you to look out for him if he is not in the bus. Give him a phone so that he could contact you if he is lost. Do give your HP no. & your boy's HP no.to the school bus auntie as well.

[mummy so kiasu]

specialboymum:

Also one of the boys who always hold his hand to bring him to the bus waiting area stayed back for CCA.
He missed his school bus. When we realize he didn't take his school bus, we quickly call the school, luckily, one of the boys found him and brought him to the office to wait for us to pick him up.

Inform the school bus auntie about the incident & his condition. Ask she to help you to look out for him if he is not in the bus. Give him a phone so that he could contact you if he is lost. Do give your HP no. & your boy's HP no.to the school bus auntie as well.

[ImMeeMee]

specialboymum:

Hello mummies,


Need your advice, especially those who have experience dealing with your kids sensory issue. Is there any way to teach our kids self calming technique, so that they will better regulate themselves when they are faced with \"crisis\"or unexpected events.

Yesterday during the last period in school, some of his classmates left earlier for CCA. I think it was the first day of CCA so the kids naturally get excited. I think all the excitement and commotion around got my boy really confused. He dashed off the classroom. Nobody knew where he ran to. It didn't help when the last period teacher in charge is a relief teacher who isn't aware of the class situation and my boy's condition. Also one of the boys who always hold his hand to bring him to the bus waiting area stayed back for CCA.
He missed his school bus. When we realize he didn't take his school bus, we quickly call the school, luckily, one of the boys found him and brought him to the office to wait for us to pick him up.

His form teacher called and reassure me that it won't happen again. Actually, I am not faulting the school. In a mainstream setting, I cannot expect them to keep an eye on my boy all the time. However, I would like to find out if there is a way I can teach him to calm himself down, and take better approach in handling situation like this. As he grows up, he will be faced with many kind of crisis and events. It is impossible for me to pre-empt every thing that may happen to him, and to write social stories on. Also, we cannot assume somebody will always be there to manage him, so it will be best if he could learn to manage himself.

Specialboymum

Sorry to hear this. The experience must have been harrowing.

While we wont be able to create social stories about each and every situation for the child, how about creating a general social story about feeling anxious (or scared depending on how he was feeling at that point) and what can he do? Maybe you can quote a few examples of what scared (or the emotion at play) feels like, and then write down the things that he can do to calm himself down, eg. counting etc, depending on what works for him.

I have been using social stories to teach my doter about not running away without us. Sometimes I use specific scenarios while sometimes I use general terms. It seems she is beginning to understand the concept although sometimes she still gets distracted and starts moving away from us in crowded places.

It will most probably take some time, but could be worth a try.

[specialboymum]

Thanks mummies for your feedback. Yah…it was scary, I could feel my heart sank when I received the call…Thanks goodness he is ok, and he didn’t run off the school compound.


I’ll try what ImMeeMee suggested i.e to teach him to calm himself down by counting. I have also spoken to his OT who also suggested something similar. I also took the opportunity to remind him in case of situation like this, he should go to general office to seek for help.

Actually, the school bus have our numbers. The bus driver was a little blur that day, he wasn’t aware that my boy didn’t board the bus till the bus reached his usual drop off point when he notice nobody was getting off the bus (my boy is the only one who alight at that point). It seems like a chain of unfortunate events happening on that day.

I guess the driver and school teachers will be a bit more diligent and will keep closer look out on him from now, though I felt a bit paiseh to trouble them.

[keenDaddy]

Hi parents,


International Storyteller Cassandra Wye will be in Singapore and will conduct a Multi-sensory storytelling session for Children on 9 Mar 2013 @Kidspace Learning Place.

For those who are keen, more information:

http://www.kidspace.com.sg/tactile-tales-9-march-2013/

http://www.kidspace.com.sg/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Tactile-Tales-Poster.pdf

http://www.storiesinmotion.co.uk