All About ADHD : Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
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Agree with Jedamum too!
I see a difficulty for the grandparents- how to look after him without TV and electronic games. To be honest, not many grandparents can run after a child or come up with a routine for the child. The whole idea is new to most of them and physically taxing. I have met a couple of exceptions, and they are generally retired teachers.
You may have to help plan the day, or get someone in to do things with your kid when he is at home after school, and before you return from work. On weekends, spend some time with him on building toys or some indoor activities, so that at some point, he will be able to use them independently without help or supervision and that can be his after school activities.
It may be hard to cut tv out totally. What you can do instead is to stock more suitable shows and limit the time to 30min. Programmes that move at a slower pace, have clear speech, and encourages the child to think, are better than loud noisy fast shows. Eg are Blue’s Clues and Wonderpets. Ideally someone should watch with the child and explain the show until the child is able to follow the storyline.
At that age, I think they also like to play "house". You can get him a play tent and some kitchen toys and he can set up house for the afternoon. Grandma may find that easier to relate to and play along. -
In addition to cutting TV and sweets, you may want to try the other thing jedamum mentioned - Omega-3 fish oil. Buy a good quality brand (with no added sugar) with dosage appropriate for children. We buy Nordic Naturals.
Another food that I have read helps kids to calm down and focus, is a little coffee every morning.
Also, I read http://www.younglivingsuccess.com/2009/08/essential-oils-for-add-and-adhd.html about essential oils used to massage the feet at bedtime. I bought Cedarwood EO, and Lavender EO from a trusted local supplier, http://www.milagrotrading.com/store/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=16&zenid=cc12105bd1268c3f0a8759cd90f00265 and mix it with rice bran oil from NTUC Fairprice (10 drops of each EO for every 60 ml of rice bran oil). Not sure if it really helps, but it cannot harm, right? It definitely aids in getting deep, restful sleep. You may want to try this option.
Also, to add, we noticed more focus and readiness to learn after the age of 6. So hang in there; it will get better. -
Thanks for the very helpful suggestion, my child is taking fish oil and also vits, maybe will try the EO… My childcare arrangement is unfortunate… As working parents we need helpfrom grandparents, and he shuttles between school and 2 sets of grandparents. So there it’s no consistency in routine and discipline. My Father in law and my own mum are very good with him ( in terms of relationship) but as elderly folks, they have less energy to keep up with this very active boy. Unfortunately, he gets almost no discipline from my father and MIL… Almost gets away with murder.
Given his personality, he is not fully ready for school so we can’t put him in full day CCC. Can you imagine my young boy having to internalize 4 sets of boundaries from his various caretakers? -
Does anyone think it’s a good idea to put him in afternoon session CCC with less academics demand, and then maybe I can try arrange my work to spend more time with him doing educational activities, trips and worksheets in the mornings? At least he won’t spend all the time in school being expected to sit still and do worksheets that he maybe do independently?
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missk:
Does anyone think it's a good idea to put him in afternoon session CCC with less academics demand, and then maybe I can try arrange my work to spend more time with him doing educational activities, trips and worksheets in the mornings?
Only you can make that decision. Will you be able to change your working hours without jeopardizing your career aspirations? If yes, then, I think children's welfare should get the first priority, anyway. You can perhaps give it a try for one term (3 months) and, if it doesn't work out as you expected, you can go back to the church kindy.
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Thanks for the encouragement. I guess I will have to make suggestions to the school on how to reduce the teacher's workload... Maybe allow him to bring back uncompleted worksheets so that we can personally guide him in a way I know he won't rebel. Might even have to suggest an external temporary teaching aide :imdrowning: and burn a hole in my pocket.
And KIV afternoon childcare with partial homeschooling... There goes my career... Oops
And also I bought activity books and handwriting books and educational toys for both sets of grandparents and I noticed how immediately he could focus beter, at least at home! Looks like its true that only consistent discipline and boundaries from all parents and grandparents will work for my child, who is a born spirited child, who laughs and cries and plays harder than the average child!
And hope no adhd!!! -
Thanks for the encouragement. I guess I will have to make suggestions to the school on how to reduce the teacher's workload... Maybe allow him to bring back uncompleted worksheets so that we can personally guide him in a way I know he won't rebel. Might even have to suggest an external temporary teaching aide :imdrowning: and burn a hole in my pocket.
And KIV afternoon childcare with partial homeschooling... There goes my career... Oops
And also I bought activity books and handwriting books and educational toys for both sets of grandparents and I noticed how immediately he could focus beter, at least at home! Looks like its true that only consistent discipline and boundaries from all parents and grandparents will work for my child, who is a born spirited child, who laughs and cries and plays harder than the average child!
And hope no adhd!!! -
Missk,
While trying to come up with set of suitable routine, it is also essential to emphasize on building resilience and character. My boy grows into a very big hearted boy, looking at glass half full instead of half empty and appreciative of what is given to him. I must thanks his church preschool for this emphasis of being thankful and the ex principal for being supportive.
His N2 teacher assigned the assistant teacher to coach the few kids like my boy in small group setting during class time. When we were hesitant to let my boy go for class outing or participate in year end concert, she also encouraged us, and assigned the assistant teacher to partner my boy. We were also blessed with thoughtful parents who never complained (not that I know) about my boy and he was also invited to some parties later on.
We had these angels to give us hope and guidance in time of need and our down time. Hope you meet yours soon too. -
Me too…hope his teachers will work with us to improve his behaviour… Really need everyone to work together. I noticed another big change this week… He actually initiated at home to do his work without me asking! He even asked me to start the timer haha. And after that, he wanted to play piano too, and didn’t get up before 20 mins… That is already considered good for him. He also became better at staying with me when outside when I bribe him with a coin for kiddy ride for following mummy. Previously he won’t even heed any bribes or threats.
Unfortunately, I noticed his form teacher had not been around since beginning of the week… Hope she didn’t quit or fall sick due to stress! She looked stressed out handling her class and my boy (dun blame her). Even overheard other teachers giving her encouragements not to stress -
jedamum:
Missk,
While trying to come up with set of suitable routine, it is also essential to emphasize on building resilience and character. My boy grows into a very big hearted boy, looking at glass half full instead of half empty and appreciative of what is given to him. I must thanks his church preschool for this emphasis of being thankful and the ex principal for being supportive.
His N2 teacher assigned the assistant teacher to coach the few kids like my boy in small group setting during class time. When we were hesitant to let my boy go for class outing or participate in year end concert, she also encouraged us, and assigned the assistant teacher to partner my boy. We were also blessed with thoughtful parents who never complained (not that I know) about my boy and he was also invited to some parties later on.
Hi dear please give us pointers on the same:)
:thankyou:
We had these angels to give us hope and guidance in time of need and our down time. Hope you meet yours soon too.
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