Am I over-working my maid? Or am I being too soft?

[Harlequin]

Maybe you can take alternate night feeding with your wife, that way each of you will get at least one full night sleep on the alternate night. Or Alternate night with your maid? But if maid feeds, it’s easier for her if you can arrange for your maid to share a room with the babies.

[fable]

I’m sorry. Your helper works 14 hours a day helping to care for a ailing MIL, 4 kids, cooking and cleaning and you’d like to know if it’s ok for you to wake her up in the middle of the night to help feed the babies?! I don’t think that’s reasonable.

[fable]

I’m sorry. Your helper works 14 hours a day helping to care for a ailing MIL, 4 kids, cooking and cleaning and you’d like to know if it’s ok for you to wake her up in the middle of the night to help feed the babies?! I don’t think that’s reasonable.

[isetan]

My fren has an almost similar situation like yours. The maid requested to go back to her agent instead. This maid is smart becos she forsee a lot of heavy household stuff everyday, and also to avoid handling such a heavy household chores. By gg back to agent, there could be a good chance of not getting a new employer on such taxing environment. So my advise is let her have a good night rest.

[Linlin]

so.hire.me:

Hello beautiful people!


I have an indon maid whos working for me for a year now. She is excellent. She cleans well, her cooking is marvelous, honest and great attitude. She's currently handling the house (cleaning, cooking and laundry) for me, wife and her mom, who is ill. I also have a son aged 4yrs and a daughter age 2, both at daycare from 8am to 6pm weekdays. All of us at home treat her like a family. We dine together too. Recently Ive been blessed with a pair of twins who are now 7mths old. They will wake up at 2am and 5am for milk feeds daily. Me and wifey take turns waking up to feed them, which makes us very lethargic at work. We have no complaints as this is our responsibility. Would it be too much for her if we wake her up during that hour and help us with the feeding? We noticed that she will go to her room at 10am n lights off. Even if theres still chores to do. She wakes up at 6am. Thats 8hrs of solid sleep while me and wifey get no more than 5. We didnt want to sound picky as shes been doing well on major chores. But seeing her getting 8hrs sleep seems like a boss.

Hope you can give us your honest opinion. It will be greatly appreciated. Many thanks!

I'm mummy of 4 and 1 more this year. To me, your 2 eldest in school from 8-6pm so basically your helper is not looking after them during this long period of time. I believe your maid don't need to look after your mil only need to cook meal which she also must cook or herself as for your twin 7mth I think is not that tough unless your child around 2-3years which they will run and touch things here and there. So basically she will have her free time. To others they might think,\"huh maid got some many things..so poor thing\" but if your maid really think so she would have quit. I don't think is too much if you have to disturb her in the middle of night to feed bb. Sometime give them more things to do then give them more free time to think.

I'm from big family of 8. Since young about 5yr old I offered help to do housechores for my mum. Around 12yrs old we shifted in big house 8rooms 7 toilet, everyday after school I will ave to do housechores from sweeping 3rd floor all the way down to 1st floor, two kitchen, car pouch then I need to kneel down to wash from 3rd all the way to 1st level. My dad can't stand dust not even a strand of hair if not I will get it from him. No one teach me to cook and I learn everything myself. After finishing doing cleaning, I will have free time to do my homework. After homework, I will start to prepare dinner for whole family. After my dinner, I will start to do the clothing like washing, ironing etc. I can't sleep yet if my dad is not home (he can come back super late like 1-2am and I need to be awake at 5.30am to prepare breakfast and go to school) cos I need to wash his car so during my free time I will help my mum to look after my younger sis and bro to teach them things or make them to sleep. I sleep about 5 hours a day if I'm lucky i got at least 7hours. If you think my life is tough but I do have my free time to buy ice cream everyday to chill my day. I also have time to do project with my classmates 1-2hours or they come my house to do. I'm thankful I have all these experience.
Now I'm married, I got my own children and also helper but none experience like me even though they from kampung. Some don't even know how to cook coz their hubby cook for them. I do teach my maid to wash clothes and I wash for her too. Many of them don't know how to cook and they learn from me. I'm have to work but I will spent my time to learn all sorts of recipe to cook for my hubby. Korean, Japanese, western, Chinese food etc.

[joanne_mas]

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[janet88]

Had a maid when #2 came…son was about 4 years old then.

Maid had to cook and do housework…but priority is on bb. Kids sleep with me at night…maid gets her full 7-8 hours sleep. I woke up at night to feed bb, change her nappy. Maid woke at 6am, takes own breakfast and prepares breakfast for us at 7am.

Maids now are calculative…if they see a household with more than 4-5 people (depending on 3/4 kids) and if there are elderly people, they will not be happy to work. If the house is big, she will also have second thoughts working and whether there is another maid.