All About Life Without Maids
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vinegar:
same as my DH.I thought we've more time once we've maid.but we quarreled more often coz of disagreement in handling maid.He asked me to be nice to her,i tried to convince him i've done my best to treat nice but it didn't work.Well,our DHs do not face them all the time,so they don't know the agony n difficulties.janet_lee88:
I have been using Karcher vacuum cleaner for several years...it is heavy but the floor is really clean after that...all the dust and hair go straight into the water. No more sneezing episodes for me. I vacuum twice a week...once on Mon/Tue and Friday (hubby will mop on Sat).
Without a maid, my house isn't spotless of course...with maid, my floor is cleaned 3x a week when kids passed the crawling stage. But I quarreled more with hubby when there was a maid. He was so damn free that he could start quarrels...especially when PUB bill came every month. Had to cut costs drastically...rice, supermarket stuff.
I am laziler,i only vacuum n mop once a wk.DH vacuum n i mop...everything is done in 30mins.Once a while,i used disposable wet tissues to wipe windows n grills.
I think I am in the same situation as Vinegar. I argued more with DH over the maid as he don't believe in scolding the maid while I think sometimes we really need to scold them. He always talks nicely to the maid even if she repeats the same mistakes. He said its good that the maid can stand my temper, haha.
I think with a maid only makes DH even lazier, he doesn't need to do any housework and works late everyday. Of course he thinks having a maid is good.
My maid does not really know how to cook as we want her to take care of the baby and do household chores. I don't know why, do not like maid cooking for me so usually I cooked or eat outside.
Anyway, I plan to send my maid back in May when I put my DD in infantcare although her work permit ends in Dec. Sometimes I feel that they are more of a burden than help. My DS is in full day childcare and I intend to put him in student care when he is in P1 next year so I think having a maid at home is not really necessary. Just hope I can cope w/o a maid. -
Ya lor....
Men always feel that they could \"outsource\" everything to u :boogie: , since u've maid.
But this is not always the case.When maid starts to create prob,she'll become \"burden\" more than a \"helper\".
It is always not easy to manage a maid.Treat her nice,she'll cross over ur border.can't punish her coz u might not know what she'll do to ur kids or food. -
vinegar:
These men get to be good guys at home...of course maids like them. Sir is always good, not like 'mam'. With a maid, I cannot complain bcos 'I have maid to do work'. Now no maid, I can complain and grumble.Ya lor....
Men always feel that they could \"outsource\" everything to u :boogie: , since u've maid.
But this is not always the case.When maid starts to create prob,she'll become \"burden\" more than a \"helper\".
It is always not easy to manage a maid.Treat her nice,she'll cross over ur border.can't punish her coz u might not know what she'll do to ur kids or food.
When maid becomes a burden or problem, he will push blame to me. Handling a maid is not easy. -
janet_lee88:
Yes,exactly.He asked why u didn't teach or explain to her properly?why she always so unhappy?did u scold her?
When maid becomes a burden or problem, he will push blame to me. Handling a maid is not easy.
told him oredi explained to her,even wrote on a paper to remind her;cooked fr her n bot her favourite jam.she not happy,not my prob.Mayb she nids a bangladesh bf to make her happy? -
vinegar:
he gets to be angel at home after work...we have to put up with the maid's attitude the whole day...exactly like his mother...in front of him, act angel...horns appear when he is out. at most i suffer doing housework, but i sent maid off when she did a double-headed act.
Yes,exactly.He asked why u didn't teach or explain to her properly?why she always so unhappy?did u scold her?janet_lee88:
When maid becomes a burden or problem, he will push blame to me. Handling a maid is not easy.
told him oredi explained to her,even wrote on a paper to remind her;cooked fr her n bot her favourite jam.she not happy,not my prob.Mayb she nids a bangladesh bf to make her happy? -
janet_lee88:
That is the thing.I also do not like my DH to be angel,either wf maid or kids,make my job difficult.
he gets to be angel at home after work...we have to put up with the maid's attitude the whole day...exactly like his mother...in front of him, act angel...horns appear when he is out. at most i suffer doing housework, but i sent maid off when she did a double-headed act.
my ex Phil maid liked to talk to my DH directly.She did it on purpose coz she knew i would reject her.
I issued a final warning to DH:if u wanna manage,i'll leave everything to u,don't \"counter-manage\"if i'm in charge,or else u create double std.Since that day,he leaves everything to me.If maid/kids go to him,he'll ask them to come to me. -
vinegar:
I also issued that warning several times...if he wants to be in control, he controls EVERYTHING...if not, don't act smart.janet_lee88:
I issued a final warning to DH:if u wanna manage,i'll leave everything to u,don't \"counter-manage\"if i'm in charge,or else u create double std.Since that day,he leaves everything to me.If maid/kids go to him,he'll ask them to come to me.
In terms of this, kids will not approach him. But if there was any maid who bypassed me, she would be sent off. Don't try to 'hiao' with sir. I am not blind. -
Mine is opp… My ex-maid doesn’t dare to tok to dh at all… even if it is dh tings, n when dh ard… she will come to me… which i dun like… as it is not my items but dh… so i rather ex-maid ask him directly den come to me…
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MintyMin:
Mine is opp.. My ex-maid doesn't dare to tok to dh at all.. even if it is dh tings, n when dh ard.. she will come to me.. which i dun like.. as it is not my items but dh.. so i rather ex-maid ask him directly den come to me...
Try bypassing me and approach 'sir' and off she goes.
Luckily, my maids were stressed with him at home....bcos he will be walking around house...scaring the hell out of them if they were ironing or cleaning something...good in a way, can't day dream. -
janet_lee88:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:MintyMin:
Mine is opp.. My ex-maid doesn't dare to tok to dh at all.. even if it is dh tings, n when dh ard.. she will come to me.. which i dun like.. as it is not my items but dh.. so i rather ex-maid ask him directly den come to me...
Try bypassing me and approach 'sir' and off she goes.
Luckily, my maids were stressed with him at home....bcos he will be walking around house...scaring the hell out of them if they were ironing or cleaning something...good in a way, can't day dream.
I tink my all my ex-maids dislike dh to b home not bcoz he monitors them.. but he mess the hse more when he is home.. :evil: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
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