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[janet88]

What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?

So after getting married, work is utmost important?

I don’t visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn’t working.

My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone…depression for anxiety prob.

[vinegar]

janet_lee88:

What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?

So after getting married, work is utmost important?

I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.

My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.

At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)

Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it!

[SAHM Chew]

vinegar:

janet_lee88:

What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?

So after getting married, work is utmost important?

I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.

My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.

At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)

Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it!

At least you can go on \"strike\". I cannot even do it.... Cos I am staying with my PIL. :roll:

No food, he will ask MIL to buy for him. Anyway, weekdays, he do not join me and the kids for dinner, he will eat with his family, (PIL n SIL), so this do not affect him.

No clean clothes? No worries, he will ask MIL to wash for him..

So even if I go on \"strike\", he will not be the one that is affected. The ppl that are affected are my kids. And MIL is willing do all these for her precious kids. There's the reason why SIL do not do any housework even at the age of 46.

The only way that will affect him is ask him to 'sleep' on PIL's bed

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

janet_lee88:

What is it with these men? Why are we wives secondary to work?

So after getting married, work is utmost important?

I don't visit doctor bcos it is painful to wait, besides if it is not serious, no point wasting money and time. My GP knows if I have to see him, it means my medication at home isn't working.

My idiotic husband wants company when he visits his eye doctor for review at SNEC. I visited gynae for Pap smear myself. No need him to accompany. I also see psychiatrist alone...depression for anxiety prob.

At least u r still 2nd place.I am the worst :sad: ,i am the 4th or 5th after his:
1) work
2) children
3) parents
4) probably me??(not sure)

Whenever my DH makes me very angry,i will on \"strike\" for few days/weeks.Declare official off-days.No cooking,no nanny/maid service.Go shopping n buy something i like.Afterall, i deserve it!

I was never the 1st to start with:
1st: work

2nd: parents and elder sister (DH loves his sister. He loudly declared that to me when we were dating. Up till now, we still go over to his sister's place once a week to have dinner. Usually after dinner either we will play with our nephews or he will run errands or repair stuff for his dearest sister.)

3rd: maybe me/sometimes his hobbies (not obsessed about them, at least not yet)

[janet88]

so going on strike will NOT work…because those sickening husbands know 1) kids will ‘save’ them because we still have to cook for kids to eat 2) for luckier ones, they have their mummy dearest to wash and cook for them if wife goes on strike.


i refuse to talk to him…Day 2 of cold war. He tried to get daughter to help him. Usually when I wash his towel, I will put a clean one on the hook…but I didn’t.

[sleepy]

KSmom8:

janet_lee88:

Dream on.

To make a long story short, I am having cold war with that idiotic husband.
I wanted so much to walk out to let him manage everything at home.

:hugs: Hope it's not so serious.

Cold wars with my DH don't work. He doesn't even realize I'm angry or is unaffected by it.

I can never win a cold war so I won't even start one. It only upsets me too much and make my mood so unpleasant whenever dh ignores me. Anyway I always think it's NOT my fault. I told him I cannot tolerate this behaviour :frustrated: And then he expects me to go pacify him first, makes me even more :frustrated:

Rule number 1 - must pacify me first (since NOT my fault) otherwise I don't have 台阶下

[sleepy]

SAHM Chew:

Btw, my DH also placed his work above me and the kids. :rotflmao:

I remember when I am in the delivery room, he will stay with me until I delivered, and then, off he go back to his office. He will come back again at 7pm after he finished work. In the morning, he will visit me before he go to office and visit me after he finished work. I always disturbed him that work is more important than me n his kids. When I am pregnant with #2, I have to go for my monthly checkup myself. He did not even accompany me. Then when I delivered #2, same thing happened again. :rotflmao:

:yikes:

Not acceptable. If he asks me to go check up by myself, I will make him go through a guilt trip.

[sleepy]

TheAnswer:

I was never the 1st to start with:
1st: work

2nd: parents and elder sister (DH loves his sister. He loudly declared that to me when we were dating. Up till now, we still go over to his sister's place once a week to have dinner. Usually after dinner either we will play with our nephews or he will run errands or repair stuff for his dearest sister.)

3rd: maybe me/sometimes his hobbies (not obsessed about them, at least not yet)

Also not acceptable. I told him even before we started dating I expect to be number 1. Non negotiable!

I was so hurt when at one stage he got obsessed with playing golf and expected me to walk a few blocks in the rain dragging dd2 along to pack dinner. I slam the phone down on him (that's the one & only time I ever did that). Yet he also got mad at me for not supporting his hobby. Nope, priority is not right. Hobby is fine, obsession to the point of neglecting wife and kids are not.

Anyway he snapped out of it already. He figured out it's not worth incurring my wrath since he prefers me to be demure and 嗲 but how could I be when I'm so angry. Rule number 2 - if you want to be happy, make me happy first

[janet88]

Agree...having cold war is more upsetting and disruptive.

Yesterday, I was still fuming mad that I forgot to put the chicken cube...and I wondered why my bee hoon was tasteless...until last night, I found the chicken cube lying beside the matches :slapshead:
It isn't my fault, why should I give in ? Although he apologized for starting the quarrel, I still refused to talk to him.

[sleepy]

janet_lee88:

Although he apologized for starting the quarrel, I still refused to talk to him.

Got 台阶下 must quickly come down leow. Don't drag on