Hanging out with intelligent friends makes children smarter

[Mdm Koh]

Perhaps this report can be taken as evidence that hanging out with smart friends isn't always the best option.


http://www.asiaone.com/News/Latest%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20130226-404794.html

She was the classmate of someone I know, and she was from a top school. Hers is not the only case. As a tutor, I have seen cases of students who were so stressed out that they gave up on their studies.

I think the danger with the research results on the importance of having intelligent friends is that it may give parents the idea that pushing their kids into an environment of studious people is the best. But I don't think such an environment is beneficial for everyone. Every child is unique and has different needs.

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buds:

janet_lee88:

Buds' new avatar will cause road accidents or bleeding noses if some men surf KSP.

Covered with a triangle oredi.. especially for the \"P\" plates. :imanangel:

Oh my buds... your new avatar!! This one's for you (from recent Oscars 2013 opening song)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saHG2MLDfPI

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[Dora1]

sleepy:

Dora1:

It's ok if she can't be a scholar and a PhD holder. But she must be able to show empathy and work well with people and help those around her. I think I am beginning to see that I have rubbed off my believes on her

Not necessarily mutually exclusive. Can be a scholar with high IQ & EQ plus humble & filial

Of cos I know lah, but these are really the minorities these days. And parents' mentality during the upbringing years play a very impt role. Some parents I know will make sure that everything that the kids do is for academics or to prep them for their résumé for scholarship. Volunteer work must be officially recorded in CCA then they will allow their kids to join. No housework at home not even washing a cup. If these parents really believe in this study, they will only allow their kids to make friends with smart people. Aiyo, if that's the case, what type of people will they grow up to be?? :slapshead:

[janet88]

I would love my kids to have HIGH EQ. People with HIGH IQ but low EQ are irritating and unlikeable…but to management, they are of high value.

[kitty2]

janet_lee88:

I would love my kids to have HIGH EQ. People with HIGH IQ but low EQ are irritating and unlikeable...but to management, they are of high value.

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[buds]

schweppes:

buds:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]Buds' new avatar will cause road accidents or bleeding noses if some men surf KSP.

Covered with a triangle oredi.. especially for the \"P\" plates. :imanangel:

Oh my buds... your new avatar!! This one's for you (from recent Oscars 2013 opening song)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saHG2MLDfPI

:celebrate:

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Yes yes.. too OT. :itwasntme: Ahem.. back to intelligent friends. :oops:

[christysparkle]

Is this really true? I feel uncomfortable when parents, in general, nowadays focus mainly on their child's academics rather than their emotional development and understanding

[mother777]

Actually I would prefer my kid to mingle with those who have lot of self confidence and are outspoken with good behaviour.


Yes intelligence do matter, but intelligence alone makes a person look like a proud snob..

Well mannered and cultured person will be greatly able to influence your kid.

Actually some kids are easily influenced by what they see other doing..they just want to be able to mingle with friends and be one with them..

But aping them may not truly make them intelligent as such..yes they may be able to copy how hard they are working to study and their behaviourism etc..since the kids socialize..they discuss common topics..and hence can unknowingly influence each other..

For example, when I was young and back in India..I had few friends who lagged behind in education..but were super well mannered and they were very close to my heart..some of them were good in singing, dancing and excelled in sports too..but not all were good in academics..

but whenever I met their parents..they would grumble and tell their kids to follow my lead and score more in academics..which sounded absurd to me..in my own heart I used secretly long to become like them..so independent, outspoken and great in sports and other activities..

I would really love my child to excel in sports, singing and dancing..these are activities which removes the shyness and hesitation for public performance from a person..

But alas..my child is very shy and keeps to herself..of course I cannot blame anyone but me..as a child I was the same..:)

My mother used to grumble..about it..a lot..believe me when I say this..

But if you look at me now, am totally reverse..I had varied experience in life which has moulded me into a more confident person..

I am very loud and boisterous (if you met me you will know)..I talk so much that even deaf and dumb will start to hear and speak


so let kids be kids..and mingle with everyone without prejudice..
what a child must learn is that..each individual is special..everyone has their plus points and negative points..

so just see if the plus points can be copied or adapted to suit us..(this will be successful we never know..but can try)..
MAINLY JUST KEEP AWAY FROM NEGATIVE HABBITS..

kids must learn to judge by themselves..
so if the child hi

[MR06]

janet_lee88:

maybe i should hang out more with intelligent parents here...so that i become more intelligent...like shaking watermelons to assess how juicy they are :rotflmao:

Shaking bud's watermelons?
Joking hor, just being naughty. :siam:

[sleepy]

I think hanging out with intelligent friends make kids more humble. So that they can realise 一山还有一山高 and this would also create the opportunity for them to learn from each other’s strengths.