Club SAHM
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SAHM_TAN:
I don't understand why insert the fees when they are ok to waive. Might as well cut the extra admin work and do away with the fees. LOL
Now Std Cht and OCBC (possibly other banks too) hotline even have a designated option for waiver of annual fee. Agreed, might as well don't charge.
I'm guessing they are hoping to 'catch' those who are too busy or forgot to call in for waiver as well as those who have installment plan for their prior purchases & thus can't cancel their credit card until they finish paying installments -
I just managed to catch up on all the posts in this thread… I am overwhelmed with sadness (& anger) by the remarks made by a SAHM of her husband… And WORSE, getting her children involved to take sides… And WORST, having other SAHMs cheering for her here, in this and other threads, at KSP…
My hubby is working overseas… At times, my DSs do ask (not complain) why Daddy never spend as much time with them, as Mummy does with them…
I tell my 2 DSs… Daddy is working hard out there to bring home the money, so that you can have a nice house to stay in, and nice food to eat every day, and nice places to go to for holidays every year… Becoz Daddy is working hard out there, Mummy can have the luxury of not working and hence able to spend more time with you all than Daddy does… So, my 2 DSs adore their Daddy, even though my husband does not spend much time with them… As they know, their Mummy loves and respects their Daddy so much for the sacrifices he makes for the family…
I have a MCQ question here for SAHMs (like in the Aunties’ thread)…
Do you call your husband (the man whom you chose to marry and have children with) a "Stupid Idiot", "Idiotic fellow", "Sickening man", "Mad Dog" repeatedly (especially in a Public Forum)?
1. I would rather die.
2. I am not brainless hor… If I call my husband a "Mad Dog", then my children must be "Puppies", then what would that make me out to be?!
3. Of course I do, as I need to make my husband shout at me, so that I can be angry and have an excuse to go shopping and spend his money to buy branded stuffs mah.
My answer is (1)… What about yours? -
firefly38:
I believe for most people who are in a happy marriage, the answer is obvious.I just managed to catch up on all the posts in this thread.. I am overwhelmed with sadness (& anger) by the remarks made by a SAHM of her husband.. And WORSE, getting her children involved to take sides.. And WORST, having other SAHMs cheering for her here, in this and other threads, at KSP..
My hubby is working overseas.. At times, my DSs do ask (not complain) why Daddy never spend as much time with them, as Mummy does with them..
I tell my 2 DSs.. Daddy is working hard out there to bring home the money, so that you can have a nice house to stay in, and nice food to eat every day, and nice places to go to for holidays every year.. Becoz Daddy is working hard out there, Mummy can have the luxury of not working and hence able to spend more time with you all than Daddy does.. So, my 2 DSs adore their Daddy, even though my husband does not spend much time with them.. As they know, their Mummy loves and respects their Daddy so much for the sacrifices he makes for the family..
I have a MCQ question here for SAHMs (like in the Aunties' thread)..
Do you call your husband (the man whom you chose to marry and have children with) a \"Stupid Idiot\", \"Idiotic fellow\", \"Sickening man\", \"Mad Dog\" repeatedly (especially in a Public Forum)?
1. I would rather die.
2. I am not brainless hor.. If I call my husband a \"Mad Dog\", then my children must be \"Puppies\", then what would that make me out to be?!
3. Of course I do, as I need to make my husband shout at me, so that I can be angry and have an excuse to shop and spend his money to buy branded stuffs mah.
My answer is (1).. What about yours?
As SAHM, besides taking care of the kids' physical needs and helping them with their studies, I see imparting the right values an important part of my job. We want our kids to grow up being respectful and caring, with empathy, we have to set the right examples. -
wonderm:
As SAHM, besides taking care of the kids' physical needs and helping them with their studies, I see imparting the right values an important part of my job. We want our kids to grow up being respectful and caring, with empathy, we have to set the right examples.
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wonderm:
Can't agree more.
I believe for most people who are in a happy marriage, the answer is obvious.firefly38:
I just managed to catch up on all the posts in this thread.. I am overwhelmed with sadness (& anger) by the remarks made by a SAHM of her husband.. And WORSE, getting her children involved to take sides.. And WORST, having other SAHMs cheering for her here, in this and other threads, at KSP..
My hubby is working overseas.. At times, my DSs do ask (not complain) why Daddy never spend as much time with them, as Mummy does with them..
I tell my 2 DSs.. Daddy is working hard out there to bring home the money, so that you can have a nice house to stay in, and nice food to eat every day, and nice places to go to for holidays every year.. Becoz Daddy is working hard out there, Mummy can have the luxury of not working and hence able to spend more time with you all than Daddy does.. So, my 2 DSs adore their Daddy, even though my husband does not spend much time with them.. As they know, their Mummy loves and respects their Daddy so much for the sacrifices he makes for the family..
I have a MCQ question here for SAHMs (like in the Aunties' thread)..
Do you call your husband (the man whom you chose to marry and have children with) a \"Stupid Idiot\", \"Idiotic fellow\", \"Sickening man\", \"Mad Dog\" repeatedly (especially in a Public Forum)?
1. I would rather die.
2. I am not brainless hor.. If I call my husband a \"Mad Dog\", then my children must be \"Puppies\", then what would that make me out to be?!
3. Of course I do, as I need to make my husband shout at me, so that I can be angry and have an excuse to shop and spend his money to buy branded stuffs mah.
My answer is (1).. What about yours?
As SAHM, besides taking care of the kids' physical needs and helping them with their studies, I see imparting the right values an important part of my job. We want our kids to grow up being respectful and caring, with empathy, we have to set the right examples.
Be it SAHM or the breadwinner, we all have a role to play to maintain the harmony & happiness in a family. It is important to have our children respect both the parents & avoid taking sides if possible. Dun get children embroil in the adults' argument. -
I guess every marriage is different. Every dh has different temperament and every SAHM has different temperament. 家家有本难念的经
Since we are on this topic, how would you rate your overall happiness level in your decade (or decades) of marriage?
From scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being blissfully happy :please: -
Hi firefly38,
From your posts abt Janet’s posts I can feel that you are trying to help her but I think the tone is not gentle. I have been reading her posts and was wondering how to help. I have this "urge" becos I’m a bit worried.
The thing is I do not know if she told her kids that they shouldn’t take sides or that her dd shouldn’t tell her hubby "it’s your problem". I might remembered wrongly abt her dd’s reply to her father. Becos a family’s harmony is everyone’s biz. I remembered when I was angry abt something hubby and the kids will try to make me forgive and forget.
Another thing is, there’s a possibility that when people post in forum, we are presenting only a part of the picture. So I have stayed my post and instead tried to divert a bit with my credit card posts heehee.
I never let my kids take sides becos I remembered how my mother let me take her side and my relationship with my father slowly deteriorated. Later when I was older, I was able to slowly change.
My hubby is the disciplinarian and so my kids would "prefer" me but I always tell them the positive aspects of hubby towards them becos they will fail to see how much their father has done for them.
I have rambled so much that it seems I have managed to say what I want to say to Janet thru my post to you. This post also serves a reminder to me. -
sleepy:
For me, married over 25yrs, I would rate it as a 9.9 (since perfection is not possible?). We do disagree sometimes, we irritate each other sometimes, but we we have learned to accept each other and we are still 'best friends'. I have been a SAHM for 16yrs, and am really very grateful that my husband recognises the work I do to raise and educate the kids, keep the home going and to support him in his work. He has never shown in any way that he rates me as less important because I don't bring money home, or that he considers my giving up my career and income as a waste. In fact, he sometimes tells people that SAHM are the 'glue' that holds families together, especially when we are overseas and without extended family support. I don't regret my marriage at all.I guess every marriage is different. Every dh has different temperament and every SAHM has different temperament. 家家有本难念的经
Since we are on this topic, how would you rate your overall happiness level in your decade (or decades) of marriage?
From scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being blissfully happy :please: -
firefly38:
I do not resort to name calling no matter who I am talking to whether it's to my students or parents or DH. Personally I feel that if I start name calling, it becomes a habit. My brother does name calling previously, it hurts a lot and can cause negative effects. Hurts my family,his family and our parents.I just managed to catch up on all the posts in this thread.. I am overwhelmed with sadness (& anger) by the remarks made by a SAHM of her husband.. And WORSE, getting her children involved to take sides.. And WORST, having other SAHMs cheering for her here, in this and other threads, at KSP..
My hubby is working overseas.. At times, my DSs do ask (not complain) why Daddy never spend as much time with them, as Mummy does with them..
I tell my 2 DSs.. Daddy is working hard out there to bring home the money, so that you can have a nice house to stay in, and nice food to eat every day, and nice places to go to for holidays every year.. Becoz Daddy is working hard out there, Mummy can have the luxury of not working and hence able to spend more time with you all than Daddy does.. So, my 2 DSs adore their Daddy, even though my husband does not spend much time with them.. As they know, their Mummy loves and respects their Daddy so much for the sacrifices he makes for the family..
I have a MCQ question here for SAHMs (like in the Aunties' thread)..
Do you call your husband (the man whom you chose to marry and have children with) a \"Stupid Idiot\", \"Idiotic fellow\", \"Sickening man\", \"Mad Dog\" repeatedly (especially in a Public Forum)?
1. I would rather die.
2. I am not brainless hor.. If I call my husband a \"Mad Dog\", then my children must be \"Puppies\", then what would that make me out to be?!
3. Of course I do, as I need to make my husband shout at me, so that I can be angry and have an excuse to go shopping and spend his money to buy branded stuffs mah.
My answer is (1).. What about yours?
Buying branded stuff when I'm angry doesn't apply to me because it brings our overall net savings down just because of anger. It doesn't not make me any happier. For anything expensive I always discuss with DH, same goes for him. No impulse buys. -
sleepy:
Perhaps 8.5 for me. We still have friction at times but now we can resolve it more calmly. Our fights have dropped considerably compared to years ago. It's pretty good now I would say.I guess every marriage is different. Every dh has different temperament and every SAHM has different temperament. 家家有本难念的经
Since we are on this topic, how would you rate your overall happiness level in your decade (or decades) of marriage?
From scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being blissfully happy :please:
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