Club SAHM
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Yes ladies, we are no punching bags... can anytime suka suka blast. :snuggles:
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show more concern in his work? doesn’t work wf my DH…coz he always says he doesn’t wanna talk abt it,coz he doesn’t like to talk abt work,after office hour.I respect him.
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Vinegar dear... perhaps you are better off working. Given the sharings you have shared about your hubby i think you will definitely be happiest working. Aside from the fulfillment, you will not lose your identity as your own person despite being a mom to your kids and the wife to your hubby. Place them in childcare/student care or hire a helper if you can financially afford one for i see the feasibility in this arrangement for you. You sound like you don't really like being a sahm. In a way, i find that it's more a relationship issue btwn you and hubby.... more than it is an issue about you being a sahm. Do give some thought to this.
Even though physically i am alone in the house, i never feel alone for i still keep in touch with my gfs, old school frenz and also i have many cyber buddies here in KSP... some of whom have slowly over the years became close frenz as well. I find the flexibility of sahm-ship the best part of the job.
Got more time to eat snake than when at work, as long as i know how to work-smart. :evil: I learnt to multi-task while on the job sahm-ing the last decade ++... a priceless skill. -
buds:
Yes ladies, we are no punching bags... can anytime suka suka blast. :snuggles:
true...so i always give him 1 hour \"silence time\" when he reaches home.Unless got urgent matter(such as maths question nid his help),if not,hv to keep quiet....when he eats,cannot talk. -
Dear...... hang in there yah? http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php
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buds:
Yes ladies, we are no punching bags... can anytime suka suka blast. :snuggles:
We are no longer living in the past...being SAHMs doesn't give the men a chance to take us as punching bags. So need be, must show a little power and black face. -
My DH also has horrible temper. Yesterday I was quite stressed with work, so I complained a little. He just snapped and scolded me just because he felt useless in his job. His boss threw out his proposal and boss did it himself. He felt useless and wanted to quit because of it.
Increasingly, I see no point and also cannot share my stress with DH. Many times I want to share, I step on time bomb. As if my job is not stressful. He just simply cannot talk calmly even if I’m not complaining or I am in a good mood. DH totally can’t handle stress well.
Sorry for the rant. I have already tried to be understanding. I just dunno how long more will he remain like this. -
perhaps u r right.I feel i’ve lost my identity…
I just feel no matter how much i did,he seems to "pick bone fr the egg".
when i serve him more rice,he "kao pei kao bu",says why give so much rice.when i busy,ask him to take his own rice,he asked if i am not happy har. -
This is my 2nd time as a SAHM.
My first time as a SAHM was when DS1 was a baby/ toddler. I was the bao ka liao mum, did all the housework, cooking and even took DS1 on walks to the supermarket / zoo / parks almost everyday. It was satisfying to be present to watch DS1 walk and talk, and even to sit for 1 hour plus to feed him ( though frustrating most of time ). But I was sooo tired and gave up as a SAHM.
Buds, it’s still amazing to me that you can gao tim everything with 4 kids!!!
When DS2 came along, I knew I couldn’t do it all as a SAHM. The maid does the housework and I don’t try to cook every meal. Once every few weeks, I take a break and have lunch / tea with friends. My mum helps babysit or I do it when the kids are in school.
Vinegar, remember to take a break - we all need it. How about getting DH to babysit for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday? Or just take some ME time, forget about the chores etc, when kids are in school or asleep? Got to take care of yourself in order to take care of others, you know.
We celebrate everyone’s birthday with a cake, sometimes with a dinner. But we don’t celebrate VDay or anniversary. -
friends told me to stop cooking n start tingkat…actually i don’t mind the trouble of cooking,washing…i don’t expect them to show appreciation.Perhaps,not so much of complain…or perhaps i shld turn their complains into deaf ear…
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