All About Delayed Speech

[SAHM Chew]

junemom:

Tamama:

To share this with you. I still remember I got a pack of three DVD on basic phonics so many years ago by incident and was told to start playing them for my girl when she reached 18 months old. At that time she just turned 1. I didn't let her watch the DVD until she was 2. One clean up day I digged out the DVD set and started to let her watch during free time. I stocked to one DVD first and it is talking about consonants. It only lasted for 20+min so I thought its just the right length of time for her. Almost everyday we repeat that DVD. When she grew older like 3, we start another DVD on vowels and its even shorter. We watched it quite frequently for a short while. Cos my girl was attracted to other DVD like Elmo or Barney... That kind of things. Then the first DVD on alphabet. Throughout the watching I was just physically present.
Somehow my girl managed to read one word per page books, then one phrase per page books, then one sentence per page books, then so on and on. At first I read to her. No long later she read what she wanted. For those words she never see before she could used her own phonic skill to pronounce it pretty much correctly. She knew the meaning after I explained to her.
At K level she was assessed by her form teacher that she comprehended well with a fourth grade book which was a chapter book. She is now in p2 and her English is nothing to worry as told by her teacher.
My young boy has ASD (no diagnose yet, but he should be on the spectrum). He also somehow watched that kind of DVD when he was around 2. But not as frequently as his sister back at that time. He is an awesome reader as well, but his expressive language still needs improvement. Only the reading skill is way better than his age group. Strange but I think somehow those phonic DVD works.
So you may want to give it a try. :please:

I have this problem with my DS too. He is diagnosed with HFA. Expressive language is delayed. but he can read very well, at least to Peter Jane level 6 onwards by 3 yrs old.

Any mommy/daddy here can recommend a good speech therapist?
I am looking out for alternative, coz the current one which we are going to start is very $$$. But we will still go ahead to try out for some months.
At the same time, I saw that some of you are hiring private therapist.
Could you kindly give me some input and recommendation?

Many thanks

Hi Junemom,

My DS3 had been undergoing pte speech therapy since feb 2012. It is expensive, $150 per hour, 4 times weekly, but I can see the improvement. I am not sure the improvement is due to him growing up, therefore, he shld be speaking more, or is it really with the help of the speech therapist.

But at that moment, I do not wish to wait and hope that he outgrow it. I am glad I found some help for him. $ can always be earned back.

The pte speech therapist came to my house weekly. But she is currently on maternity leave. She will be back on Apr 2013, and my son will resume his speech therapy lessons.

If you want the contact, you can PM me.

[junemom]

Hi pm u tx

[SAHM Chew]

My DS3 is 5 this yr and has delayed speech, as well as delayed in language. He is slow in writing and reading too.

How can I help him?
I get fed up with him when he is not cooperative and I do not have a lot of time to sit beside him and teach him.
Usually, I try to use 1 hr to teach him in the morning before I prepare lunch. But effectively, only 15 mins is productive.

[SAHM Chew]

Can I check with the exemption for Chinese?


Since it is exempted in PSLE, how about sec school? Are the kids required to take another second language in sec school?

[jedamum]

Sahm chew, [list=][/list]
My p1 had speech delay in kindergarten and started talkig in full sentences late. He still struggles with speaking proper sentences, but his reading is quite good as he picks up and is able to decipher unseen words phonetically. When he was younger, I focused onphonics a lot to ensure he at least can read well even if he couldn't speak as well. I chose a time where I need not be concern about rush of time eg need to prepare lunch on time will give me stress which I may offload to my boy. I pick a time slot that I can spare the time to sit with him without stress.
We did a lot of beginning sounds, ending sounds ftc. I got my inspiration from Tamarind's blog on teaching phonics and my ds1 phoneics materials and some Montessori worksheets that a friend passed to me. I used a colourful children picture dictionary to play story games with him. We first write some one name and then tried to create a silly story with the beginning letter of the words gin the name with the use of the dictionary . He picks up pronunciation through the various activities. We do not use Peter and jane series.
Another tip I learnt is to keep the session short. Try to end it when your kid is interested so he will look forward to the next session.
Jia you!

[junemom]

Yes I agree with Jedamum keeping short period because at that age their attention soan is short especially with boys ( majority).

And to save you from tearing out your hair, keep the time slot where you will not being rushing off to do something important because you will be anxious to ‘get over’ with his session. And if he did not meet your expectation within time frame, both of you get frustrated.

I am getting so many mix 'diagnosis ’ abt my ds on the spectrum from people (teachers, child psyc, doctors, therapists) i am not sure which is correct.
Strangely the doc n child psyc doesnt think ds is on spectrum except dlight speech delay but teachers n therapist ( therapists say that he is extremely high functioning) thinks otherwise.
Sigh… Im thinking probably therapist trying to earn more $$ ??? Lol
In retrospect, during our parents n our time we didnt really read write converse fluently till after primary 1.

[SAHM Chew]

Thanks ladies for your advise. The problem about time is DS3 takes a long time to do everything. Eg, we need to leave hse at 1pm. So he need to eat lunch at 12pm. I started teaching him at 9.30am, n need to cook at 11am. But he just for a simple task that took 5 mins, he need to take 30 mins. If he can finish at 10.30am by the latest, I still have time to prepare cooking and will not rush him. But most of the time, he could not finish by 10.30am. Therefore, the longer he drag, the more impatient I get as I need lunch to be ready by 12pm.

[mashy]

SAHM Chew:

Thanks ladies for your advise. The problem about time is DS3 takes a long time to do everything. Eg, we need to leave hse at 1pm. So he need to eat lunch at 12pm. I started teaching him at 9.30am, n need to cook at 11am. But he just for a simple task that took 5 mins, he need to take 30 mins. If he can finish at 10.30am by the latest, I still have time to prepare cooking and will not rush him. But most of the time, he could not finish by 10.30am. Therefore, the longer he drag, the more impatient I get as I need lunch to be ready by 12pm.

Haha, sounds like mine too! So I make sure I give lots of time allowance. And he loves the clock, so I gave him timing. I also cook food that he loves. Be it just soy beans or roti prata. Nothing that he dislikes and will leave it standing for an hour and still untouched. Lunches are not the time to try new food. So even if everyday he eats the same food, so long as he likes, I just make that. Nowadays it's cheese sandwiches/ prata with Nutella for breakfast followed by buttered corn cup/soy beans and banana/other fruits for lunch. He is now more of less used to the timing, that by 11.45 he needs to change up. 11.30 is the time to go toilet if he has big business. 11am for lunch.

When we do work in the morning, I also work in leisure time. So if he finishes ahead of time, he gets to watch his favourite TV Prog or read his book. If not, too bad for him. Can you also cook while he does his work? Do you need to be constantly by his side?

[SAHM Chew]

mashy:

SAHM Chew:

Thanks ladies for your advise. The problem about time is DS3 takes a long time to do everything. Eg, we need to leave hse at 1pm. So he need to eat lunch at 12pm. I started teaching him at 9.30am, n need to cook at 11am. But he just for a simple task that took 5 mins, he need to take 30 mins. If he can finish at 10.30am by the latest, I still have time to prepare cooking and will not rush him. But most of the time, he could not finish by 10.30am. Therefore, the longer he drag, the more impatient I get as I need lunch to be ready by 12pm.

Haha, sounds like mine too! So I make sure I give lots of time allowance. And he loves the clock, so I gave him timing. I also cook food that he loves. Be it just soy beans or roti prata. Nothing that he dislikes and will leave it standing for an hour and still untouched. Lunches are not the time to try new food. So even if everyday he eats the same food, so long as he likes, I just make that. Nowadays it's cheese sandwiches/ prata with Nutella for breakfast followed by buttered corn cup/soy beans and banana/other fruits for lunch. He is now more of less used to the timing, that by 11.45 he needs to change up. 11.30 is the time to go toilet if he has big business. 11am for lunch.

When we do work in the morning, I also work in leisure time. So if he finishes ahead of time, he gets to watch his favourite TV Prog or read his book. If not, too bad for him. Can you also cook while he does his work? Do you need to be constantly by his side?

Whatever I cook, or even if it is packet food, whether he like or disk like the food, he will take a min of 1 hour to finish eating. I need to be beside him when he do his work, cos he is not able to read all the words and follow the instructions on the workbook.

[sharonkhoo]

SAHM Chew:

Whatever I cook, or even if it is packet food, whether he like or disk like the food, he will take a min of 1 hour to finish eating. I need to be beside him when he do his work, cos he is not able to read all the words and follow the instructions on the workbook.

He probably doesn't really get hungry enough. Why not just throw away the food after 30 mins, and let him experience real hunger? Kids will know how to eat when they are hungry.