All About Preparing For PSLE

[AdonciaTang]

janet_lee88:

The pressure to excel is so intense. It's really pitiful for kids...and heartbreaking to have to push them. But as parents, we have to know how/when to let go when we know kids have reached their peak. I always remind myself this, 'stretch a rubber band beyond and it will snap'.

Yah I agree. Sigh. totally different now

[VALyap]

the fact is, sad to say, some parents refused to admit reality that not all kids can be rocket scientist or doctor…. they continue to push the poor child over the edge!.. It was so sad to see some parents aiming for Raffles even though their children not even primary!... someone we know, both parents are very very high flyers, C-level in MNCs, of course they spends $thousands per month for enrichment classes since kids were very young as early as 2 -3 years old….however the reality is the kids just couldn’t fulfill their parents’ aspirations……paid $millions to buy house near RPGS….the poor gals are now in "good" secondary school as what our minister Heng says, every school is a good school…… But not what their parents want them to be in the "IP school"…now, one of the child had gone over the edge is becoming more rebellious by the days…………that child speaks " French = F" very frequently, sad to say their parents never say or use the "fishie" words….the poor child just pick it up from nowhere!


just sharing, know your child limitations…….accept who they are and not what you want them to be! give unconditional loves……

[JohnYeo]

TheAnswer:

ngl2010:

My son told me that his one of his classmates got 3 strokes of cane because he only got 99.5 instead of 100 in CA Maths recently :yikes: I told my son maybe if I start canning him, his result will be 99.5. I told him that it is cheaper to buy a cane than paying for tuition :rotflmao: :rotflmao: The form teacher knows about the canning but cannot do anything.


Some parents are really too much :siao: although that particular student has 2 brothers managed to get into RI. It is enviable but I myself won't like to be canned so why should I cane my son? :siao:

I think it is unacceptable to cane the child if he did not get a prefect score. Young kids need a lot of encouragement. My boy received his results for CA1. His marks were commendable although he did not receive 100 marks for every subject. It was close enough. My boy was the one who was upset as he lost 2 marks due to careless mistakes for his Maths paper. DH and I took him out to celebrate. Kids also need to relax. We just surprised DS with breakfast at Swensons today

Superd! Success breeds success. Celebration is a way of recognising the child's effort (regardless of the marks)! I can imagine how happy your DS is.

[janet88]

There ARE parents who want kids to get into top schools…well, these kids do get there with so much intensive coaching and constant drumming of how elite they are, and as such they should attend Raffles.

[JohnYeo]

janet_lee88:

There ARE parents who want kids to get into top schools...well, these kids do get there with so much intensive coaching and constant drumming of how elite they are, and as such they should attend Raffles.

Hi Janet, yes, intensive coaching, drilling and constant drumming...but at what cost?

[janet88]

JohnYeo:

janet_lee88:

There ARE parents who want kids to get into top schools...well, these kids do get there with so much intensive coaching and constant drumming of how elite they are, and as such they should attend Raffles.

Hi Janet, yes, intensive coaching, drilling and constant drumming...but at what cost?

i know of one parent...she went all out to make sure her son gets into RI...the boy did get in.

[JohnYeo]

janet_lee88:

JohnYeo:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]There ARE parents who want kids to get into top schools...well, these kids do get there with so much intensive coaching and constant drumming of how elite they are, and as such they should attend Raffles.

Hi Janet, yes, intensive coaching, drilling and constant drumming...but at what cost?

i know of one parent...she went all out to make sure her son gets into RI...the boy did get in.[/quote]I can imagine the training the boy went through. Oh my.

[janet88]

son attended same tutor as that boy…his mother stormed into the tutor’s residence and raised hell…held up the class for 1/2 hour…told the tutor she is not coaching her son in his school work.

[JohnYeo]

janet_lee88:

son attended same tutor as that boy...his mother stormed into the tutor's residence and raised hell...held up the class for 1/2 hour...told the tutor she is not coaching her son in his school work.

wow, can imagine what had happened...im just wondering this might be prevented if the tutor had consistently updated the parent on what had been covered and done with (not for) the child.

After speaking to several parents, I realised most were not updated and they had no idea what was done in the sessions and how effective were the tuitions. Most take the result of any test/ exam to determine the effectiveness.

If there is an improvement, the tuition is considered good.
if there's no improvement or even a drop in grade, the tuition is not good.

Well, communication with parents is very importan because it should be seen as a team effort (team made up of parent and tutor) to ensure a more sustaining improvement.

My 2 cents,
John

[sea]

[quote]Well, communication with parents is very importan because it should be seen as a team effort (team made up of parent and tutor) to ensure a more sustaining improvement.
[/quote]I agree with you John. However, there are tutors who don't like the parents to tell them the child's weakness as to them, they think that they know what they are doing. So for this type of tutor is very difficult to work hand in hand.