Zen 禅悟人生 -My way of Seeking a Balance life

[dolphinsiah]

谁让我过愚人节.. 我就让他过清明节 !! :evil: :evil:


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Happy 愚人节 !!!

[dolphinsiah]

怨恨是不值得的


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人生不如意事，十有八九。生活中，会遇到一些令我们感到不如意或是伤心的事。
比如考不上理想的学府，感情上的失败，人际关系不好，或是身体不健康等等，这些琐事萦绕在心，总会令自己感到懊恼与悲伤，甚至还有绝望。

不管我们的理由如何，怨恨总是不值得的。潜留在我们内心里的侮辱，永难平复的创伤，都能损坏我们生活中的许多可爱事物。我们被锁在自己的苦恼之渊里，甚至无法为别人的幸运而高兴。怨恨就像毒害我们的血液. 细胞的毒素一样，影响. 侵蚀我们的生命.

我们要认识到：怨恨是牢笼、是枷锁、是绊脚石。

当我们怨恨别人的时候，我们的心在就在牢笼里，被抱怨捆绑，被仇恨束缚，被痛苦囚禁。就无法挣脱常人的恩怨情仇，就看不见修炼的慈悲祥和.
气恨使常人怨天尤人，活的很苦很累很沉重，同时也是修炼人最难跨越的一道坎。

我们要明白，有怨恨就没有慈悲，就没有境界，就没有圆满。

所以，无论怎样，一定要想方设法根除怨恨心。

[dolphinsiah]

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人生四苦

一是看不透。看不透人际中的纠结、争斗后的隐伤，看不透喧嚣中的平淡、繁华后的宁静。

二是舍不得。舍不得曾经的精彩、不逮的岁月，舍不得居高时的虚荣、得意处的掌声。

三是输不起。输不起一段情感之失，输不起一截人生之败。

四是放不下。放不下已经走远的人与事，放不下早已尘封的是与非。

[dolphinsiah]

It is the Weekend.....


April 2013 a full working month ....no Public Holidays.... :roll:
So Weekend must Relax and Recharge.... :boogie: :boogie:

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没有口德，就没有品德！！！！

[dolphinsiah]

Gracious Upbringing


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Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel.
People are not born with gracious behavior, it must be taught and absorbed. Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment.
Through constant practice, it can be inculcated into your way of life.
Gracious behavior, if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being.
Through graciousness, any situation can be resolved, as self-interest is not its characteristic.
Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to, so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her.

[Sun_2010]

Thanks you Dolphinsiah, for the regular dose of positive messages, giving us a chance to step back and adjust our attitude and move on.

[dolphinsiah]

Sun_2010:

Thanks you Dolphinsiah, for the regular dose of positive messages, giving us a chance to step back and adjust our attitude and move on.

Hi Sun_2010

You are most :welcome:

[dolphinsiah]

3 Stages of Life


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人生三部曲

少年、中年、老年，人生的三部曲该走好每一步.

人生总会有高潮与低谷，有的人年轻时鸿运当头，家财万贯，尽享荣华富贵之美事，老来却颠沛流离，饱受艰辛劳碌之苦.

有的人年轻时浑浑噩噩，无所事事，中年时平步青云，极尽奢华享福之能事.

有的人一生虽无大起大落，但却有很多辗转曲折的片段。

看来，人生之三部曲不仅仅有年龄的更迭，还有过程的起伏，不要抱怨你没有富贵的人生，因为你可能有幸福的生活，不要慨叹你没有幸福的生活，因为你可能有精彩的瞬间。物质生活也好，精神生活也罢，总不能尽如人意，良好的心态才能提高幸福感指数，才能让那些坎坎坷坷成为一道道亮丽的风景线。

　　你是否想你的人生与众不同？你是否为你的人生规划很久？你是否对你的人生期待太多？

年幼的时候，去爬树，去踢毽子，去掏鸟窝，尽情地去享受童年的欢娱时光.
成年的时候，去学习，去打拼，去奋斗，大胆地去体验富有挑战性的生活.
老了的时候，去晨练，去畅游，去思索，细心地去感悟曾经的欢畅与失落。

想哭就哭，爱笑就笑，走好人生的每一步，也就没有了揪心的羁绊与烦恼！　　

[peapot]

Aiyo !! I totally agree with this.

[dolphinsiah]

Stop the Glorification of Busy


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‘Busy’ Trap

By TIM KREIDER
June 30, 2012
New York Times

If you live in America in the 21st century you’ve probably had to listen to a lot of people tell you how busy they are. It’s become the default response when you ask anyone how they’re doing: “Busy!” “So busy.” “Crazy busy.” It is, pretty obviously, a boast disguised as a complaint. And the stock response is a kind of congratulation: “That’s a good problem to have,” or “Better than the opposite.”

Notice it isn’t generally people pulling back-to-back shifts in the I.C.U. or commuting by bus to three minimum-wage jobs who tell you how busy they are; what those people are is not busy but tired. Exhausted. Dead on their feet. It’s almost always people whose lamented busyness is purely self-imposed: work and obligations they’ve taken on voluntarily, classes and activities they’ve “encouraged” their kids to participate in. They’re busy because of their own ambition or drive or anxiety, because they’re addicted to busyness and dread what they might have to face in its absence.

Almost everyone I know is busy. They feel anxious and guilty when they aren’t either working or doing something to promote their work. They schedule in time with friends the way students with 4.0 G.P.A.’s make sure to sign up for community service because it looks good on their college applications. ....

Read more: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/


\"Busy Trap\" Article Review : By Holly Baranowski Posted: 03/27/13 5:54pm

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This article discussed what the author called “the busy trap.” This is the idea that people in America get so caught up in their schedules, they often forget to just take some time to themselves and relax, hence, “the busy trap.”

The article also talks about how being busy is something that almost is glorified. People brag about how busy they are as a way to show how important they must be. These same people get anxious or guilty when they aren’t busy and find something to do to fill the void.

What’s even worse is that this article describes me perfectly.

Like many college students, I find there aren’t enough hours in the day. I sometimes feel trapped within my daily schedule of class, work and Chinese homework. Even in high school, I dreaded a Saturday sitting by myself in my room. I needed to be doing something all the time.

In college, I dream for some time just to lay on the couch all afternoon, but as soon as that time appears, I run away from it. The last time I decided to take a nap, I crawled into bed only to be haunted by the guilt of what I should be doing instead.

Even after reading this article, I can see the problem, but not a solution. In order to keep up with all the other busy bees in this country, I also must maintain a schedule overflowing at the seams. Right?

It’s important to stay on top of work and school, but where do we draw the line? I’m not really sure what the answer is to this issue, but I suppose I can start by taking baby steps.

Being busy is pretty unavoidable in college, but I think figuring out how to relax now instead of later would be a good place to start.